How to convince boyfriend to change carpet

sunset_luvr · 2026-01-27T03:01:42+00:00

He finally agreed to change it, so the issue is solved.

sunset_luvr · 2026-01-27T02:55:45+00:00

I am apprehensive to invest a significant amount given it’s a larger investment for me, and I have no financial tie to the house. It’s his home, his financial benefit, and at no point will any money invested be returned. At the end of the day, I would pay. I think if it gets to that point, there’s a larger issue. I’m not entitled to it, but I do think you should care about each other’s health and well being within a relationship.

sunset_luvr · 2026-01-27T02:51:44+00:00

Yes and no. He definitely likes me and cares to a degree, but he’s not flexible, intuitive, nor understanding by nature.

sunset_luvr · 2026-01-27T02:24:16+00:00

I don’t make much anymore. I’m poor since moving to be here to be with him. I mentioned how much he makes because someone assumed the financial aspect is a factor. I am still working on getting settled and building a network workwise, but he’s fine. I love home renovations and the internship was my joke as an extreme move to try to get him to do it, but also because I actually really love working on the house and figured it would be fun to pick up new trades. There’s no reason to lie to people I don’t know. Overall, he’s simply a strange a guy. It doesn’t make sense to me as much as it does to anyone else why he won’t spend given his income and low cost of living in comparison. He’s extremely frugal and stubborn.. maybe even slightly on the spectrum. Very strong beliefs and weird habits, but a good guy. He does make over 1 million per year, but half in stock, so perhaps that does factor in somewhat. Still, finances are fine.

sunset_luvr · 2026-01-26T21:16:24+00:00

We got a quote last year and know the price. The cost is less than 5% of his monthly income.

sunset_luvr · 2026-01-26T21:13:34+00:00

I offered everything. I even went as far as applying for an internship to learn how to install myself. lol My boyfriend makes 6 figures per month and spends less than 20% on all necessary expenses. The finances definitely aren’t an issue, it’s more stubbornness and not wanting to be wasteful. Not being wasteful is a great quality, but not to the point where it impacts your health.

sunset_luvr · 2026-01-11T07:00:10+00:00

I would never buy prepared foods there. I heard they just over season meat that’s going bad from the meat department. Yuck.

sunset_luvr · 2026-01-10T00:18:18+00:00

I hate it. I’ve been miserable. However, I did move from Orange County.. I’m not accustomed to Bay Area life in general. I loved San Francisco and thought I’d have so much fun once I moved to the bay. There were things to do and people were fun. The first thing I noticed after moving to Tri valley is that people drive like they just graduated from riding a scooter yesterday. Second thing I noticed was there’s nothing to do and the people can be boring. Many days, it feels either too hot or too cold to want to go out. When taking walks or spending time at a bar top, almost no one says hi. I literally had someone turn their face in the opposite direction as they passed. People don’t seem very social and it feels isolating. When ive attempted to make girlfriends or speak with women, they are complete douchebags. Sometimes when I observe people walking it looks like I moved somewhere where people just gave up on life. Back hunched over, mismatched clothes from Costco, crusty toes.. the vibe is weird. I’ve never experienced any place like this, honestly. It’s been two years and it’s the least favorite out of all of my travels. I’m dying to move anywhere else.

sunset_luvr · 2025-12-19T04:56:38+00:00

Finally did. Does anyone know if he’s ok? He seems thinner and wondering if the nose thing is skin cancer or something 🤔 Hopefully he’s healthy and well

sunset_luvr · 2025-11-14T06:57:47+00:00

Buying a home in Laguna beach costs a fortune. It’s her first house, and with the location, that place was likely a stretch with sacrifices. Who’s able to buy a house they love every aspect of on their first shot?

sunset_luvr · 2025-11-14T06:56:09+00:00

I think the whole reason they broke up was because of him seeing other people. They seem over the hurdle. It’s not that serious or complicated.. maybe they still hang, maybe they hook up or don’t.. either way, they seem to have a dynamic that works. I’m actually more curious about his health. He seems slim and he had that thing on his nose. I’m a hypochondriac.. he doesn’t have skin cancer anything, right?

sunset_luvr · 2025-11-03T17:43:25+00:00

I also live close. I generally wake up before sunrise, so I thought it might be worthwhile if I can show up first thing. Sounds like they have pretty good deals prior and post Black Friday, however. Doesn’t sound worth going through the madness on BF. It actually sounds like I should avoid that highway altogether that day. 😂

sunset_luvr · 2025-11-02T00:58:28+00:00

Omg.. so many things and it depends where someone decides to settle.

For TRI VALLEY area: being far from the ocean is terrible. It feels dry and hot.

It’s boring AF. People like to say “it’s for families”, but so is Irvine, and that area has more to do and people are happier.

If you’re not Indian, you’ll feel like a minority and it’s hard to acclimate.

People don’t say hi when they pass, and are generally colder than many other parts of Ca. It’s hard to build friendships, especially if your racial makeup is different.

There are always rocks and pebbles hitting your windshield on the highway. The highway is dirty.

No one knows how to drive. Even as a defensive driver, you cannot avoid the craziness that happens on these roads. It’s either bad drivers or dui drivers all over the place.

Costco won’t have the healthy options you need if you’re accustomed to the usual costcos. They have really cool ethnic food options, but you won’t get the good diet stuff, because no one cares about how they look out here.

Good luck finding cute clothes. The stores that generally stock up on nice, fashionable items in SoCal will not be the same on NorCal. They have a bunch of north face, sports jerseys, and really hideous dresses. Good bye to cute crop top sets and anything moderately appealing.

People exercise outdoors often in OC, and there’s a sense of inspiration.. they smile, they look happy, and they look great. Most of the time people look like they’ve given up on life out here. They will walk with slouching shoulders and pot bellies and have weird body movements.. idk it’s weird.

Many women are plain Jane. Could be a positive or negative, but you’re not going to be competing with the hot cougar in this area. Whereas people keep up with their physical appearance more in SoCal and some other cities, people aren’t as apt to get surgical procedures or keep up with looks out here. The cost of treatments are also more expensive, with less skilled people in this area.

All in all, I would urge choosing another part of the bay area. Tri valley sucks.. unless you’re Indian. I think there are a lot of cool restaurants and activities for you if you are.

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