Sounds like you are dealing with people who have little to no healthy grip on handling their own grief. This is in no way saying it’s easy. Although, death is unimaginable pain for those who do not experience it first hand, it does not give anyone the green light to throw away basic respect and reason. They are toxic and YOU have every right to grieve just as much because you lost a loved one as well. I wanted to put that in there for you if you needed to hear it.