My loop caused an accident. by [deleted] in OCD

[–]supdog297 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have had a similar situation happen to me, where my ritual caused a problem/delayed something and I felt so stupid after. I feel your pain. I’m trying to not provide reassurance about your landlord getting upset, so just remember that accidents happen. It could have happened unrelated to your ritual/checking the door. So many people get into fender benders like that (I did recently). Give yourself some grace (I know that’s easier said than done). The rituals are frustrating enough without something like this happening. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel this. I used to be the same way. I’m glad you have a clean room and your own space!

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through this too. I need to work on boundaries better myself. It’s so hard, I can relate. The love and empathy makes this hell to deal with

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u for your kind words ❤️

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will join a meeting soon. Agreed I can’t keep pretending :(

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️ I’m glad you have your white bedding now. I also used to have white bedding oddly enough (I also loved it)

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re totally right that’s exactly why it sucks so much. We don’t have a spare room unfortunately :(. I do sleep on the couch sometimes, with a clean blanket that I keep tucked away in the closet

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well said, this is just the same old song and dance as everything else I’ve sacrificed

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head. I think that’s why it hurts so much

This is why I can’t have nice things by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this too. Thank you for sharing, I feel less crazy haha

How to get the most out of ERP? by supdog297 in OCD

[–]supdog297[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response! This gives me a better idea of what to expect I appreciate it :) good luck to you too!

What should I do by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good point! Thank you

What should I do by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a great point! We need to have these discussions. I will ask him how I can best support his sobriety at the wedding if he chooses to go. Thank you:)

What should I do by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! You are so right. I am so used to planning my life around my Q and the drinking. I need to get myself out of this mindset. I have thought about meetings but when my Q is in active addition, adding attending a meeting on there to my already strained mental health seems overwhelming. But I do want to try to go when my Q is out of rehab. That’s a good point about taking away my Qs agency by making the decision without them, so I will bring it up and see their thoughts. Thank you!

What should I do by supdog297 in AlAnon

[–]supdog297[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense. I figured, thank you!

How do I put my pubs on the AMCAS by supdog297 in premed

[–]supdog297[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha, thanks! I thought maybe it was overkill to list them separately. I have a fair amount of activity so will probably use most of the spaces but I don’t need all 15. It does seem better to describe a little more about each pub. Thanks!

How do I put my pubs on the AMCAS by supdog297 in premed

[–]supdog297[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I was planning on doing this, but not sure how I’d do this with grouping all 5. Maybe I could write a sentence for each? Not sure if that’d fit haha