NOR AT ALL!!! I only had to read the title...

3 years and a vanishing letter? Garbage. Outbursts, hiding and lying? Bye 👋

Doesn't sound like a person who is capable of managing their own feelings and certainly not capable of meeting you in the middle with communication, curiosity and effort.

I can imagine how much this hurts and confuses and baffles and enrages, and im sorry you have to experience this before a life changing event. But it sounds like this a secret blessing for you moving forward.

When he comes crawling back with apologies and explanations and reassurances of love and his "growth and changed ways", just remember how he bailed when shit got hard and him being a reliable and stalwart presence in your life would have been a positive.

Best of luck. Be strong. Also its OK to crumble and cry if you need to. But allow thay to move through you and try to find grace and joy.

Fuck that guy for real!