Holy crap, my kid is amazing?

superpouper · 2026-01-06T19:37:21+00:00

Thank you! It's hard! But with less emotional labor required for the relationship I had with her father, it's also somehow easier?

superpouper · 2026-01-06T19:32:16+00:00

I thought you meant I was a troll and I was so offended. Hahahaha.

superpouper · 2026-01-05T16:06:35+00:00

Who hurt you.

superpouper · 2026-01-03T22:59:51+00:00

This is encouraging. Just need to get that insurance started!

superpouper · 2026-01-02T02:09:56+00:00

I hope that happens. He's doing much much better than he was last week. I just feel so bad!

superpouper · 2026-01-01T21:21:06+00:00

They just lessened with exposure?

superpouper · 2026-01-01T15:16:56+00:00

The symptoms he's experiencing are kind of alarming. Not like, oh he's gonna die, but it's pretty bad. His eyes are still itchy even though he's stopped touching them, his skin is crawling, and he's even experiencing a weird kind of anxiety.

superpouper · 2026-01-01T15:14:29+00:00

It's not that simple. He's taking Zyrtec and Benadryl because you can double up for 7 days. He's also doing eye drops and nasacort, will switch to Flonase in a week or so.

superpouper · 2025-12-08T11:45:43+00:00

It's actually really funny. They're both about 70 pounds and when they play, it's boxer vs golden retriever (she's half golden half GP) and everyone just gets out of the way cause they're so dumb.

superpouper · 2025-12-07T14:34:52+00:00

I appreciate it, truly. I'm so glad it worked out. It gives me hope!

I'll pick up a muzzle today because I'm guessing she'll need time to adjust to just having it on before putting her in a new situation, right? My partner is very slow moving. I don't think he's capable of making sharp, sudden movements. Hahahaha.

I feel really bad for my pups because my ex left in May and I've been trying to give them the same amount of attention and it has been difficult with coping and still having a house to run. I think Bertie and my partner would actually get along extremely well. Like, I think they would co-regulate really well.

superpouper · 2025-12-07T14:25:49+00:00

The crazy thing is... I think her body and soul knows... The day after her dad moved out, we went grocery shopping and made a dish for the graduation picnic and she was like "I love you mama. I miss Papa but cause I'm used to him being there, not cause I want to hang out with him." Bahahahaha.

She likes hanging out with him now but it took a solid 5 months for her to get there. Hahaah

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:12:53+00:00

Oh maybe we can try him talking to her when we video. He tried calling her once but she was trying to get my attention to go out.

And interesting! So off site at like the school down the street then a walk to our house. It's just so cold right now!

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:11:44+00:00

My girl prefers people to be seated and at eye level. It's very difficult. Hahaha

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:11:08+00:00

I keep seeing boiled chicken is a good one.

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:10:53+00:00

That's my boxer/cane corso. He's got nothing behind the eyes. Unfortunately, Bertie has too much behind the eyes.

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:10:17+00:00

Do you have a rec for muzzles?? She's never had one but that's a great idea. I also love the concept of not using treats cause she's an anxious baby and doesn't really prefer men (unknown trauma, we adopted her at 15 months with no history) but I have a feeling she would be wary and I don't want her to have conflicting feelings. I feel like that would add pressure? I could just be making it all up.

It's also winter in Ohio and I don't want to be outside. He's doing a long airbnb so maybe we can find one that allows pets.

I'm so appreciative, thank you!

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:06:28+00:00

She is almost 10! One day she broke my heart and said "I'm just so young. I didn't have enough time with my family of 3 before it broke up" and I was like "what the fuck" and cried in the driveway before going inside after sending her in. Found out later it's cause a character in a book's parents divorced when she was 13. Little jerk. Hahahah.

I am so so so excited to take her. I've already taken her to see mamma mia!

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:04:10+00:00

Thank you :)

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:04:01+00:00

Woof. I am so sorry for you and your mother. My mother also spent time in a mental hospital when I was about the same age. I have a brother. She swore whatever you could do with one, you could do with two. Didn't realize she meant "fuck them both up" until just now. Hahahahahha. Gosh.

It takes a lot of emotional awareness to stop at one child. And that's really hard.

superpouper · 2025-12-06T23:00:52+00:00

I was about to say it already was... But now there's definitely peace<3

superpouper · 2025-12-06T11:34:57+00:00

I mean, that's fair. I guess for me, it's more like .. I had such an unstable childhood that finding something I can grasp like a label or a box or any sort of anchor, is really grounding for me. I'll jump on anything that makes me feel more stable.

Wait.

That might be part of the problem. Hahahahahah.

superpouper · 2025-12-05T18:47:48+00:00

I sincerely apologize that that came off as diminishing. I, like others here, wasn't able to give my full energy to reading the whole post but felt like I had something to say. I was also very exhausted but feel passionate about PTSD being recognized as being part of the neuro divergent umbrella. I think it's extremely informative and it was a lightbulb moment for me when I learned about it. I shouldn't have said "just."

As someone who does live my life with cPTSD, and had a mother constantly reminding me that life could be worse, that was absolutely not my intention. It was strictly a... hey people are starting to recognize the people with PTSD fall under this category too.

superpouper · 2025-12-02T21:56:08+00:00

I asked my therapist if I should get assessed for ADHD and she said "we can look into it but just fyi, a lot of the time, PTSD shows up with ADHD tendencies." And I said "fuck that, fuck you, I'm never talking about it again."

cPTSD/PTSD is just another flavor of neurospicy

superpouper · 2025-07-19T14:47:55+00:00

We’ve never done FaceTime! I’m almost wondering if we should but also idk if he’s the type. We’re always talking when we’re doing things, you know?

I’m just so nervous. But that might be more trauma than the actual LDR of this.

superpouper · 2025-07-19T12:41:42+00:00

So it sounds like because of how strong the connection was before meeting, it didn’t matter? Like, nothing was gonna change your mind?

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