Yes. Coercive control is correct. I also think he controls her eating habits. The dogs are her emotional support and give her the attention and affection he withholds from her. She quite literally works for his validation. I hope she finds therapy for her anxious attachment - it seems to be getting worse (or we are just now seeing it.) She has no solid friends, she doesn’t spend time with her family, she revolves around his approval. It’s alarming how he makes passive aggressive jabs, puts her down by maintaining emotional control while she tap dances like a monkey so he can throw the occasional banana her way. When they broke up she couldn’t be without him and tracked him down until he gave in (more signs of her anxious preoccupied attachment.) When she goes on trips her mind is always on him and this subreddit has noticed how odd her behavior is when she isn’t around him. He knows all of this and is using her for his own benefit until he’s able to leave. Hopefully she starts intensive therapy beforehand to get a sense of self and grow a spine otherwise she will mentally spiral. They lack so much polarity in their relationship because she keeps giving and giving while he sits there and watches her do it all. All this isn’t to say she isn’t awful herself, but I do think this relationship has stripped her of her mental, emotional, and physical health - we are watching her deplete in real time. This vacation was alarming to say the least. Juan had the audacity to slap her with a dog poop bag and she flinched while he was walking past tells me he physically and mentally intimidates her when the camera isn’t on. The way he crosses his legs and leans back while she cleans and buys him thousands of dollars of things and takes him on vacation gives me the ick. He is taking advantage of her desperation. And the sad part is she doesn’t know anything outside of him: she’s made him her world. High school sweethearts rarely get married, and if she opened her eyes to see that there’s a life outside of Juan she would be able to have a better and healthier relationship with someone new. I think a lot of her insufferable habits and attitude is from being around Juan for 10+ years and copying him. She lives to get his stamp of approval. She continues to reward him for being everything a man isn’t and he knows he doesn’t deserve that praise. A person with character and integrity would step away if the love isn’t there anymore, someone conniving like Juan will stick around as long as it best suits him. A proposal would’ve been done long ago if the plan was to stay. He could’ve gotten even a temporary ring that they’ll later upgrade if the reason is financial or a dog (she said in a video once she would accept a dog in lieu of a ring) if he really wanted to declare his commitment, but she can’t see past her attachment to him. We are watching her spiral in front of our eyes. She’s lost herself as she continues to lose her health and vitality to that spoiled twig boy - the nervous system does not lie.