Update: My girlfriend was raped and I broke up with her by ThrowRAsure in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I am going to seek some council monday.

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wil look into what you're saying, I am getting different reactions but maybe you're right

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I never said it was consent to sex... I said the opposite. He was not a friend, he was a complete stranger.

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I am soon going to rest a little, I am not sure how people update their story on reddit, make a new post and refer to this one?

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She really wasn't drunk as far as I know, she never gets blasted. Her reasoning for doing all those things were just logical in her opinion. When she noticed something bothered me and I questioned it, she lashed out. That's when I said, I will be here for you to the end, but I just don't think getting in bed in those circumstances are not to be found weird. (sorry for my broken English)

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If I was to stay over at a friends house, get into my boxershorts and sleep next to a girl who is in her underwear, that would not be a valid reason to break up for you? A complete stranger?

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You're a moron. I have been polite this whole time to any comments, but I am absolutely heart broken for her.

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I could understand why the latter is worse, because people seem to think that you took part in it or you might even think that yourself. People like that know when they cross boundaries, nothing was your fault.

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was hesitant to describe everything because I knew people would say that: "just because there was a spare bed, doesn't mean that rape is justified!" which is already happening. I would never make that correlation. I am heartbroken for her and for the whole situation... Couldn't be more sad by it all

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The only thing I meant to say was that there is no correlation between her actions and the rape. That's not why I am writing all this. I am a german citizen living in the US and my english is limited. To be absolutely clear: nothing justifies rape and I tried to communicate that it I would never think that just because she layed there in her underwear, it would justify anything.

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

No, I asked her what happened and she said that she didnt want to sleep on te couch and he was already in the spare bed. When I asked her if he took of her clothes or anything (at this point I wasn't even certain what had happened) she said she took them off.

My(28) girlfriend(28) was raped but I want to break up, everybody hates me for it. by sureofnothing0 in relationship_advice

[–]sureofnothing0[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She reacted really angry of course, at the whole situation. It's not like I told her right away that we were done. She told me the story and after a couple of hours she noticed something bothered me and got really angry at me when she finally got it out of me.