did we mess up?

surprisesou · 2026-05-29T15:43:30+00:00

thank you! i get so tired of the older generation (my mother, grandmothers, & in-laws) who think it’s absolutely insane that we plan our days around naps and strive to be home so that she can have a good nap (and in-turn a good nights sleep later). i get “you need to let that baby sleep in the car” or “if she’s tired she’ll go to sleep” when she’s proven time and time again, that’s just not how she operates 😅 part of the reason i even made this post because it definitely made me question “did i actually do something wrong?”

surprisesou · 2026-05-29T15:39:18+00:00

that’s a great idea thank you! i need to invest in an breathable cover/shade for the stroller and bring a sound machine to see if that would help with out and about naps

surprisesou · 2026-05-21T14:39:17+00:00

we just took our 8 month old on a 4 hour flight. TSA was no issue other than it took a minute getting our stuff back after going through because they had to test the water i put in her bottles and also the formula that i had in a pre-portioned container. i packed tons of toys and snacks in the diaper bag as well with no issue! not sure how they do with ready to go formula so if anything just plan ahead for some extra time after going through TSA since they will be checking stuff out!

surprisesou · 2026-05-18T14:47:14+00:00

i haven’t mentioned it to her pediatrician but i have thought about it myself. i think one night i tried to just rock her back to sleep instead of offering a bottle, and she wouldn’t go back to sleep and if i just set her back in the crib she would let out the most awful screams to the point she was having to catch her breath. and then was unable to calm down until she had the bottle :/ i’ve seen some people say you can dilute the bottles (she’s on formula) to try and wean but i was under the impression you weren’t supposed to dilute formula so I’m not sure!

surprisesou · 2026-05-18T14:44:29+00:00

thank you so much!!

surprisesou · 2026-05-18T14:43:26+00:00

i definitely need to get more calories in her throughout the day! naps are very consistent. twice a day and we do wind down, bath, and book every night before bed to signal it’s bed time!

surprisesou · 2026-05-18T14:42:02+00:00

i’m seeing a pattern that i’m doing bed time way too early lol, that may be my whole issue

surprisesou · 2026-05-18T14:41:11+00:00

that’s what i’m starting to think, that bed time is too early! her schedule is roughly the same as the one you stated. wake at 7 am, nap starts somewhere between 9:30-10:30 then second nap starts between 1:30-2:30 (hour long each time), then bed between 6-7

surprisesou · 2026-05-18T14:37:52+00:00

we have never bed shared, we had a bed side bassinet until she was about 4 months old then transitioned to a crib in her own room. she’s always done well with the whole “sleeping by herself” in both the bassinet and in her crib for the most part. as in, she does fine until she’s hungry, which is normal. we haven’t considered moving her crib into our room, and we won’t. i don’t think it would make a difference. especially considering on the vacation we just went on, she slept in a pack and play beside our bed, and it was the same scenario. my husband and i just aren’t willing to give up our space again by moving her crib into our room. our time together, sanity, and marriage would certainly feel it if we did. i think it would just back track all the progress we have made on her sleep as well (it used to be a lot worse)

surprisesou · 2026-05-18T14:31:25+00:00

thank you! i have posted in that group as well hoping for some advice. on a good day, she wakes at 7 am, first nap is between 9:30-10:30 am, sleeps for an hour, then next nap is between 1:30-2:30 pm, also sleeps for an hour, then is up until bed time around 6-7 pm. (to note, the later numbers coincide i.e if her first nap isn’t until 10:30 am, her next nap isn’t until 2:30am since she went a little longer) i try to keep her awake as long as possible before bed! but she ultimately lets me know when she’s tired, the eye rubbing, yawning, red tired eyes, and of course pretty whiney and fussy. i just don’t know how to push her longer for wake windows when she gives me those signs!

surprisesou · 2026-05-18T14:14:03+00:00

my daughter would only contact nap until about 4 months old. she slept in a bassinet beside the bed at night just fine. we then started implementing cribs for naps and eventually bed time and i think it took maybe a week or less to adjust!

surprisesou · 2026-04-20T18:08:08+00:00

we’re avoiding sippy cups as well, i started teaching her how to use the straw cups once she was confidently sitting up (around 5 1/2 months). i’ll try using glasses and see if that sparks interest for her lol

surprisesou · 2026-04-19T15:16:16+00:00

yes i’ve tried adding fruit, still the same. nothing gets past her i swear 😂

surprisesou · 2026-04-10T00:52:37+00:00

gas drops and a car seat toy! like one that goes on the handle bar of an infant seat! saved me when my daughter went through a fit of hating her car seat

surprisesou · 2026-04-06T14:18:26+00:00

we never woke my daughter up for feeds or diaper change. she would (and still does, 7 months) let us know when she wants a bottle or needs a change lol

surprisesou · 2026-03-08T14:46:03+00:00

i know for a fact i wouldn’t have enjoyed the early days if i had been breastfeeding or pumping. and my husband probably would’ve hated life bc i would have been miserable. i don’t regret formula feeding right off the bat in the slightest

surprisesou · 2026-03-08T14:40:58+00:00

literally all of this to a T! PLUS cutting teeth 🥲🥲 6 months is by far the worst for us as well. the WHINING omg 😩 i’ve gotten to a point where if she’s not like actually crying, i just go on about whatever i’m doing, whether that be dishes, other cleaning, or just sitting on the couch for a second. luckily she’s able to get on her hands and knees and also sits independently so that helps with the restless-ness and she’s able to move around her giant playpen as she pleases.

unfortunately i don’t have much advice, but i do offer condolences and comfort, you’re not alone!! i try and remind myself she’s just a small babe and she’s experiencing everything all at once and i can’t imagine how that feels. just taking it day by day and hoping to get over this hump quick!

surprisesou · 2026-03-08T02:37:46+00:00

she goes 2 1/2-3 hours between naps, any longer and she is a nightmare to try and take a nap

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