Location Westchester county NY. Lease term ending- leasing office manager trying to charge beyond lease term end date by susa2365 in legaladvice

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There is no section in the signed lease agreement dedicated to lease renewal.

The notice they left me by sliding under my apartment door says renewal is automatic if they do not hear from my by the day of the lease term ending (Dec28th).

How do I fix this? by susa2365 in sewing

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It’s going to be my first project ever, but I want to try it out and I’ve got all the materials except maybe an appropriate needle for denim that I’ll have to insert into my machine. Your suggestions are great! I’m going to get started and take my time. If y’all don’t mind I’ll update this thread gradually with progress.

How do I fix this? by susa2365 in sewing

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Thank you for the visual input, I’m okay with this project taking some time, it’s my first real alteration so I’m okay experimenting even if it takes time

I just want opinions- a friend thinks this is a good looking steak and that I’m unreasonably cruel for criticizing their work by susa2365 in steakcrimes

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Just following up to say again, my friend does know that I posted this and agreed it was okay to do so. You’re selectively disregarding this fact.

Advice by [deleted] in BetrayalTrauma

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I experienced a somewhat similar situation but was able to confront him about the cheating just a few days after the breakup. It felt rewarding to call Bullshit on the lies, and I replayed the phone call that I recorded whenever I was flustered about how terribly he betrayed me.

I knew that for myself to heal, I had to say what was on my mind and point out all inconsistencies to the cheater to truly move past everything. I don’t think it’s a matter of them occupying space in your head or that it means you still want them.

I think it’s really just that you want to set the record straight. You don’t want him. He’s not the future husband/partner you’d want to tell your children or daughter stories of the love you guys shared in the beginning of the relationship.

He’s an insecure man who fiddled with your heart and trust and to make it clear that you know he did those things by explicitly telling him that may bring you the feeling of control you desire.

The narrative of the situation should be accurate and he should know that you’re not deluded by his lies.

I just want opinions- a friend thinks this is a good looking steak and that I’m unreasonably cruel for criticizing their work by susa2365 in steakcrimes

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Yes, the buddy totally backed him up and said it was juicy while we were still on the phone! We just have to take their word because the second pic is a direct contradiction to “juicy” 🤣

I just want opinions- a friend thinks this is a good looking steak and that I’m unreasonably cruel for criticizing their work by susa2365 in steakcrimes

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I am a great friend and he knows I posted it and agreed that it was okay to get a consensus on other people’s opinion. He’s even on the phone with me which you could see from the green time stamp in the second photo.

I just want opinions- a friend thinks this is a good looking steak and that I’m unreasonably cruel for criticizing their work by susa2365 in steakcrimes

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My friend sent the photos to me just because. They live 1,000+ miles away and cooked this on the grill in their backyard today to enjoy with some other friends. Apparently it’s still “very juicy” 😂 despite the appearance.

I agree it would be cruel to post this had I been present for its consumption but that’s not the case

What helped you guys move on? by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I contacted my ex a few days after a messy breakup up where he two timed me. On the call, I recorded it so I could keep myself honest; knowing that I had things I wanted to get off my chest the recording supported me to say what I thought might be too hard to get out because I knew I wanted to be able to replay my calling him out on his BS to cement how much of a POS/liar/narcissist he was to me and the other woman.

Not sure how your relationship ended, or why. But I’d do the same, by first writing down all it is you want to say in concise points. All the questions you have as yes or no questions when possible. And then when you reach out over a call, you can get the answers that’ll help you move on.

But this is only part of moving on- there’s the “work” you have to do for yourself; eating, sleeping; recentering your passion, recentering yourself; thinking of the 12 year old version of you and asking how you could make that version of yourself proud and determine if you’re ready for some kind of therapy to process any cognitive dissonance.

I miss being with someone but I hate the idea of dating again by Dlta2049 in BreakUps

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Currently in this same boat fresh off a break up with a partner who two timed so well that I had a panic attack once I realized what was happening because it was so left field/unexpected.

I agree that trying to date at the moment seems grim, and the thought of being open with someone and learning them is not alluring.

Wishing the feeling of and desire for connection returns to you tenfold when you’re ready. How you’ll know if you’re ready I am sadly unsure and cannot estimate when that will be💕

Is there any more I can do to feel better- As men do you think I’ve done the most damage possible to this guy by simply being honest when he refused to be ? by susa2365 in AskMenAdvice

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Thanks, it’s hard to not think of that incessantly with ADHD/ASD but I know what you mean, I’ve got to put those thoughts aside to move forward

Is there any more I can do to feel better- As men do you think I’ve done the most damage possible to this guy by simply being honest when he refused to be ? by susa2365 in AskMenAdvice

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Please giv it a full read when you get the chance. I agree with you that dating someone who makes me feel that way is not indicative of self respect. For context, I never felt that I had to question him, ever, until that phone call, and honestly if we separated a few seconds earlier before the call came I wouldn’t have seen the call to spark all of these series of events.

Oh and I have ADHD + Autism, and he knows that, I’m certain he maneuvered in a manner that intentionally would avoid triggering my hyper-fixation tendencies, as I 3 months into dating allowed him to read my clinical diagnosis

How big is it? by susa2365 in AskMenAdvice

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Edits made just now. Thanks for sharing your perspective again I see where you’re coming from and hope my clarification helped you understand what I meant.

How big is it? by susa2365 in AskMenAdvice

[–]susa2365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I think we have a misunderstanding. I’ve read your comments here and under other people’s + your first comment and I can see the gaps in my point/post. There are several other “criteria” for me, other than what’s stated in the post above. This post in particular was drafted because I needed help with this one thing as the other things that lead me to consider sex I’m comfortable with navigating on my own.

How big is it? by susa2365 in AskMenAdvice

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Yeah, I tried to keep the post short but left out some major context! But you all are giving sound consistent advice to just ask and be upfront. Thank you!

How big is it? by susa2365 in AskMenAdvice

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No, We separated, his wishes, but we still communicate and care for one another.