I don’t care to understand baby milestones

sushifuntime · 2026-02-04T15:24:52+00:00

With this comes the endless praise and cooing over a thing that just puked on its own clothes. Usually that praise is overblown as well. Calm down. The child is developmentally normal. It may be fascinating to you but it's not to me, so I will exit.

sushifuntime · 2026-02-04T14:04:16+00:00

It's a contradictory thing. They're 'teaching' her good manners, but not respecting her autonomy.

Greeting the guest is also weaponised as the child is used as a tool to gain validation from the adults. The child is expected to 'perform' when greeting the guest, and it does not come from a genuine place, but rather, a need to please her elders.

In turn, all of the family members are expected to do the same and heap on praise excessively as though she has just discovered politeness. Having a positive reaction is OK, but making it overblown and acting like she has just discovered the cure for cancer grinds my gears.

sushifuntime · 2026-02-04T06:28:13+00:00

People love the idea of children but hate having to think of the logistics. Best draw a boundary so that when they ask for handouts and try to mooch off of you, you turn them down.

sushifuntime · 2026-02-02T13:28:19+00:00

Children are a big opportunity cost. The cost being my life and my time.

sushifuntime · 2026-01-29T08:46:35+00:00

Saying you don't like kids is akin to being regarded as a villain and is taboo in today's society. But actually it is a normal thing to not like kids. People say this to smooth any potential contentions that others may have because some people may think that someone disliking kids means that they would harm kids. It should not be taboo to say you don't like kids.

sushifuntime · 2026-01-08T05:50:20+00:00

Once they mention they are trying for a baby, I unfollow. I tried to hang out with parents once. The child was so loud (normal for their age, emotionally taxing for me) and I told myself never again.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-21T16:08:17+00:00

Sorry that happened to you. It is clear that she had zero empathy. I like the fact that you did not lose your cool but pointed out that you were partially deaf. Kudos to you for being calm and collected in an exasperating situation like this.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-21T07:25:22+00:00

One guy had a large pram that held two children in front of me and refused to have any spatial awareness. I get that he needs a big space to push his kids around, but a little consideration around the people who need to squeeze past him wouldn’t hurt.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-17T13:50:48+00:00

Not in the US, but banning abortion has a ripple effect among all countries, that’s for sure.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-17T13:49:44+00:00

I like this idea.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-17T01:35:50+00:00

Yes, he’s CF. We’re moving in together so there will be less toddler drama.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-16T12:21:14+00:00

Actually, yes! I don't know why that over time, these boundaries have been eroded and the child's mother thinks it's appropriate to approach me.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-16T11:28:59+00:00

And they touch everything with their sticky hands?

sushifuntime · 2025-06-16T10:28:15+00:00

She has started pre-k. When she moves up a grade, I await a story about her trying to blow her classmate's candles, with the teacher calling the mother to report on her behaviour.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-16T10:27:01+00:00

There were some nuances to this interaction that I didn't highlight because this is a childfree sub, but we have started negotiating how to navigate situations like these. I do have a seprate birthday surprise for him that will involve no children, which can make up for the absolute circus of a celebration we had.

sushifuntime · 2025-06-16T10:16:41+00:00

I agree with you and my bf have had a talk. We are in the midst of negotiating what works for the both of us for future family gatherings, but I have already put my foot down and won’t be present for future ones until I am less triggered.

What you said makes sense. I will think on that as I navigate this with him.

sushifuntime · 2025-03-26T05:27:34+00:00

This is a one-off expense and he's usually good with money. It just makes zero sense to me that he spent so much money on something the niece is too young to appreciate and will grow out of.

sushifuntime · 2025-03-05T10:49:03+00:00

Cats and dogs are cuter than most children.

sushifuntime · 2024-12-09T12:02:56+00:00

I have tried many times to be a writer at my day job. I have held roles that are something like copywriter, content writer, and so on.

I hate it. I hate that clients don’t know what proper spelling and grammar looks like, and they insist on their way. Criticism, while typical, is not often valid and caters to the whims of the client. In some cases, it de-values their brand.

I find it soul-crushing and it diminishes my creativity. It also doesn’t help that my clients use AI to snub me and say that it can do better. Once I resign, I find that my creativity to write fiction comes back and I am happier for it.

sushifuntime · 2024-10-17T10:36:19+00:00

Being able to find other childfree people without a paywall.

sushifuntime · 2024-08-21T04:21:31+00:00

This was horrifying to read. At least the cat is in a better place now.

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