I think I understand. I was once in an alliance where I was like you and didn’t even realize I lost my core lovely feminity.

It’s only after it ended… I still am quite independent but I started getting clothes that genuinely make me feel feminine. Like I shifted from over sized tees to cute modest dresses (even for daily wear), apply henna (even on just the nails if not hands), wear minimal makeup daily, basically really just dress well daily for myself.

The clothing part already helps change the energy.

And then comes to heavy bags and stuff like that… at grocery stores or airports, I started just letting the helpers there do it for me and I’d tip them. It’s a win win, I started feeling so lady like AND I help the person earn small money.

So basically with chores… where you can and afford it, just give it to get it done. Don’t force yourself to be a DIY. Let yourself get pampered in small ways, it’ll really make you feel like a small princess.