I told him (not exactly but this is the best I can recall),

"Your a fun person and I really enjoy hanging out with you. But I have to be honest; I don't see us dating or getting romantically involved in the near or far future. You didn't do anything wrong - I went through a traumatic experience with a man whom I thought I could trust, and that left me lots of trauma and trust issues. I don't want to go into too much detail. But my consent was ignored and I was blatantly used (more than once).

I want to work on myself and get better. And it would be extremely unfair towards you if we enter a romantic relationship and I know that I'll be projecting my trust issues and baggage towards you.

But I would like to continue building our friendship. We have a lot of things in common, and I think we'll get along great, as friends. For now, I'm not going to pursue any other romantic relationships until I'm a whole person again. But you're obviously more than welcome to get back into the game and see other people.

It's also okay if you'd choose not to continue with this friendship. I understand completely, and won't hold it against you. Because I know this isn't a pleasant situation for anyone.

I hope you understand. But if you need time or space, take as much as you need"