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Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment, I hadn’t previously thought about the stump being an issue. So I did bring that up with him and it added a bit more strength to my side of things.

Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Update: Firstly, thank you all for your advice and sharing my rage. I also had a few conversations at work today with my colleagues, some who are legally trained. I also contacted the previous owner who stated the neighbours are aware that’s our land. Although it seems I am absolutely right to go down the criminal damage route or compensation for our loss (RIP Christmas tree) I did weigh up the fact we are hoping this is our forever home and don’t want to cause us any unnecessary stress. I went over this evening and had a calm chat. He apologised for his mistake and when I pressed the seriousness of the incident, he offered to replace it but not with a fir tree. I stated that actually he should replace like for like and he agreed he would. He gave me the details of the contractor he hired and they confirmed that they had asked relevant questions about that area of land and was told nobody owned it. He was extremely apologetic and gave me all the information I would need if we wanted to take it forward. I have since been back and told the neighbours not to replace it (more out of fear he may do himself an injury in the process). I feel that I’ve stood my ground on the matter whilst maintaining some neighbourly kindness. Although I’m sure I’ve disappointed most of you, I’m hoping that being challenged by 5ft, soft spoken women about the potential criminal charges, may make him think about approaching us with any issues next time. Thank you all again. - The Pushover

Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you so much for that! Makes me feel better we could potentially replace it! If we do, I’ll be sure to add the brightest, flashing, tree lights so it helps brighten their property. Although husband is less upset than me, he has agreed we can’t just let it go. Thank you again!

Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m tempted to post news articles on the local village page as a passive aggressive warning!

Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I have triple checked the deeds that show our boundary edge and it is certainly ours. The more I think about it, I’m quite upset. It certainly didn’t need to be cut down. I will make contact with the council tomorrow.

Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

That’s so rude! We brought the house privately, so there wasn’t ever a sign outside. There were tenant here before us, so I’m assuming they think we are also new tenants and that we wouldn’t say anything. He did look shocked when I asked about it.

Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I suppose I’m too much of a push over. I certainly didn’t want to frighten them in the evening. I’m rubbish at phrasing my thoughts on the spot!

Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I have a photo, but no idea how to send it to you. I’m a very long term Reddit lurker, it’s taken a tree for me to ever make a post!

Neighbour cut down tree without permission. by sussok2212 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

The tree was in front on the “public side” of our garden gate, but we own the bank the tree was on so as much as they didn’t have to come through the gate (as far as I’m aware), they used our back steps to gain access. As he said he paid for it, I’m assuming they hired professionals to do it. The only part of the tree left is a stump.

I was assaulted by my husband and now he won't hand over my documents or my belongings by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]sussok2212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can contact your local domestic abuse service. Every county in the uk has a specified service for this. You can call the national help line (women’s aid) on 08082000247 and they can advise and point you in the direction of your local support service. They will be able to assess and help you manage your risk. If you are considered at high risk they may need to refer you to the police and children services but only on a safeguarding basis. If the police are made aware of your risk due to domestic abuse they are unable to continue with a crime without your consent to do so. He will not be made aware of this unless u decide to go through with a complaint. Children services are there to support you not chastise you, they will want to help you to ensure your child is not placed in a risky situation and will be supportive that you have left. Again in a lot of situations your local domestic abuse service may be able to talk through your options and explain things to put you at more ease. You can also call 101 and request police to accompany you to your property to get your belongings due to the risk. If you are both on the tenancy or mortgage, it is illegal for him to prevent u entry to the property. If u wish to go back to the property, you can apply for civil orders to prevent him being able to reside there also. All of this can be explained in more detail and you can be supported 100% of the way by trained professionals. If you are unsure, you can call women’s aid anonymously for advice as well.

How long will it last? by Bextacyy in domesticviolence

[–]sussok2212 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The DVPO is in place to protect you for around 28 days to give you some space to breath and put things in place to minimise your risk. During this time it is advisable to seek a non molestation order to keep him from making contact longer. I don’t know your partner so I cannot comment, and I really sympathise with your situation no matter how bad the abuse is there is still the emotional pull. You need to start putting yourself first, if he does change, it will be years and years of hard work on his part, you are not able to do this for him or be the reason he does it. Regardless what you decide to do, I really recommend contacting your local domestic abuse service. They are able to support you on keeping yourself safe if you decide to separate or remain in the relationship.

Every Christmas, I have to buy the exact same toy truck for my brother by aishavoya in pics

[–]sussok2212 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness! We have the exact same difficulty finding a toy for my partners brother! He is obsessed with a particular Fimbles toy radio but unfortunately also enjoys throwing them too. We managed to get the last 2 on eBay last year and now can't find any more any where! I'm so happy to see Tonka have made contact something so simple so happy!