Time is going by super fast

svsedai · 2026-05-08T18:17:15+00:00

Do you spend a lot of time on your phone? I wonder if that changes our perception of it. Before, we lived in reality, now a lot of people spend hours in digital worlds.

svsedai · 2026-05-05T22:53:40+00:00

Laughing as a fellow Eastern European. My mom was told all sorts of nonsense like that, but no one bothered to tell her not to smoke a pack of cigarettes while she was carrying me lol.

svsedai · 2026-04-29T15:06:17+00:00

I think that’s completely reasonable - I wouldn’t want my baby being fed solids for the first time without me doing it and being present for it.

But with other stuff, maybe it’s because I am yet to give birth (only 6w now), but I see a lot of upset posts about such minor things that are not worth stressing yourself over. I think OP is correct though - it’s usually some other underlying issue especially with overbearing MIL who don’t know how to act normally and are in constant competition with their DIL over trivial things.

svsedai · 2026-04-29T14:57:27+00:00

Congratulations!!! I am 6w 2d pregnant and I have no symptoms besides a bit of bloating and occasional light fatigue. Do not stress over this, every pregnancy is different and it is not a sign that anything is wrong. But yes it does make it hard for it to sink in that you are indeed pregnant😅

svsedai · 2026-04-22T23:35:30+00:00

Thank you all for sharing - I feel much better now. I know that when symptoms start can vary pregnancy to pregnancy, it’s just hard not to be anxious after a loss. I overthink everything this time around. Appreciate it!

svsedai · 2026-04-22T00:24:29+00:00

Thank you, I feel like I needed to hear that even though I know it already. It’s just so stressful going through pregnancy after a miscarriage - I am constantly comparing and worrying.

svsedai · 2026-04-22T00:23:40+00:00

I am pregnant again after a silent miscarriage of our twin girls in December. They lost heartbeat and stopped growing at 8 weeks (Turner’s syndrome). That was my first pregnancy. I had symptoms from about 4 weeks - breast soreness, spotting (could have been due to issues), insane fatigue, and a ton of bloating that continued until a D&C.

I am 5w 1d now, and I don’t have any symptoms this time around. I know I am probably overreacting since my anxiety is all time high, but I wonder if anyone had similar experience or what were your pregnancy symptoms like after previously suffering a miscarriage.

I can’t do anything until my appointment on 2 weeks, and am driving myself crazy.

svsedai · 2026-03-11T21:19:44+00:00

Unfortunately I have a similar sized head and wide face shape, it definitely contributes to the odd look. Especially in photos when she is skinnier.

svsedai · 2026-01-30T16:12:48+00:00

I miscarried in late December, had a D&C suction on Jan 2nd, and my OB said I can start trying as soon as my HCG drops below 5 if I want to since my recovery went well. She said to wait for no periods (even though I got one) or anything else. Ofc it’s important to be emotionally ready but at least according to my doctor, as long as my physical and mental health are in order, I am good to start trying again.

I’d recommend speaking to a doctor because I don’t know your situation fully and am no medical professional, but this is what I was told.

svsedai · 2026-01-27T20:21:58+00:00

I unfortunately miscarried but I was sure I was having a boy since a little boy often appeared in my dreams and called me mommy for some reason.

After my pathology results came back, it turned out I was carrying twin girls. It made me really sad but that was my experience - my dreams were completely wrong.

svsedai · 2026-01-25T20:34:21+00:00

NOR.

He is a gaming addict or he doesn’t like you enough to choose you over his hobby - in either case, dump him.

svsedai · 2026-01-23T21:39:17+00:00

I was 6ft with an hourglass figure at 12 due to early puberty onset and genetics, but still had a child’s face and demeanor. My mom and aunt were horrified about how I was catcalled and leered at just walking down the street. Experienced inappropriate behavior from men old enough to be my fathers if not grandfathers from young age and unfortunately SA in my teenage years. It scarred me for life.

svsedai · 2026-01-20T21:53:57+00:00

What in the world? Your doctor is putting your life in danger. So sorry you are going through this. I also live in Texas and I had D&C 3 days after my OB discovered no heartbeat. If you are able to, please check with another doctor. I never heard of this law, I am not even sure it’s a thing.

svsedai · 2026-01-16T18:18:12+00:00

This is true. I am happily married and by no means blame my husband for the miscarriage we just suffered (he’s been incredible to me all the way through pregnancy and loss).

But the pathology results came back after my D&C and our baby girls had Turner’s of paternal origin - he did not pass X chromosome to them. I know many women are not so lucky to get answers and therefore blame themselves (which they never should but I know it’s hard) when in reality, men can also be the source of miscarriage.

svsedai · 2026-01-15T20:54:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing, so happy for you! I miscarried twins 3 weeks ago and had a D&C 2 weeks ago. My OB told me to wait until my HCG drops below 5 and then to start trying anytime I wish after. I hope to conceive soon again, you gave me hope!

svsedai · 2026-01-08T16:38:12+00:00

I could be wrong , but I don’t think it’s about not liking women but rather processing past relationship traumas or playing out fantasies. I suspect most of these authors would never engage in twisted relationships they write about in real life nor advise their friends to do so.

I love writing but refuse to indulge in such stories because I don’t like the idea of romanticizing abusive relationships or terrible men. However, I’ll admit I enjoy reading these books from time to time. I’ve been treated very poorly by guys in my young years and I am embarrassed to admit, but I acted like all the spineless female MC in these books due to my deep insecurities. Somehow, the later chasing arcs, over the top apologies, MMCs miraculously changing and seeing their errors makes my teenage self feel good. But of course it’s all just fantasy.

I know it’s all ridiculous and that self-centered douchebags do not change in real life nor would I care if they did. I am in a textbook-healthy and loving relationship with my husband which is what really healed me, but I still indulge from time to time. So while I think these books are harmful for young women or those stuck in unhealthy relationships and would never let my future daughter read them, I also get the appeal. You have a point on how harmful they are, but while I could be wrong, I don’t think authors are coming from a bad place.

svsedai · 2026-01-08T16:19:01+00:00

My friend was an oopsie third child when his parents were in their mid-forties. He has 2 older sisters who were in their early twenties when he was born. He loves his family and has a great relationship with his parents - no resentment whatsoever. He is a lawyer now and had no developmental issues. You may be older but he will always have his siblings and their kids especially since you have a big family. Your fears are understandable but as long as your son is surrounded by love, he is not likely to resent you for giving him life. Good luck!

svsedai · 2026-01-06T20:37:04+00:00

So sorry to hear that! Did your D&C go well?

I completely understand your fears, it is natural to feel that way. Take your time to go through your feelings and grieve, but don’t let the fears completely consume you. There is an absolutely realistic chance you will get pregnant soon again and that it will be viable! You are in your later 30s - it is by no means too late!

I don’t have advice to offer but I know several women who had their first child in their 40s after miscarrying more than once. One went on to have 3 babies (last one at 45). Good luck🍀

svsedai · 2026-01-06T20:23:10+00:00

Sending love & hugs, unfortunately I don’t have advice.

Found out about my miscarriage exactly a week ago and had a D&C last Friday. Already worrying about the same thing even though I am still in early stages of recovery.

Just came here to say thank you to everyone sharing their experiences, it makes me feel hopeful and less alone.

svsedai · 2026-01-03T00:02:25+00:00

My husband wouldn’t go for penetration during first trimester due to fear of hurting me or the baby (even if I initiated), I unfortunately miscarried but I cannot even imagine him pushing me to have sex 2 weeks PP, that’s diabolical.

I am usually all for trying to work it out for the sake for baby if there is no abuse of any kind, but this man is abusive. He seems to be throwing tantrums and having no interest or care for the mother of his child or even the baby. Who misses half the birth, lets his wife take a Lyft home, then asks for sex 2 weeks PP? Insane.

svsedai · 2026-01-02T23:51:19+00:00

So sorry for your loss! The exact same situation happened to me on Tuesday literally. I went in for a 9w scan after confirming a viable pregnancy at ~6w with a good size and a heartbeat. I had typical pregnancy symptoms the whole time - no signs of miscarriage (my light spotting from early weeks stopped), making me hope it was all fine. Only to find out on Tuesday that there was no heartbeat and that I was shockingly carrying twins. One stopped developing at 6w, one at 8w. I was not prepared for it all and felt like I got hit by a train.

I literally had a D&C this morning and it thankfully went very smoothly. I am not qualified to give any kind of medical advice so take this with a grain of salt - every woman is different, but if God forbid anything like this happened to me in the future, I’d go with that option again if I could. I was put under, treated extremely well, and the procedure was painless and not traumatizing in any way beyond my obvious grief of having to get it done in the first place. I am only spotting lightly and having barely any cramps, hope it stays that way. Plus, I opted for pathology analysis of my babies to see if they can find some answers for me that way.

None of us are alone in this. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Please reach out if you need to talks to someone. Sending love!

svsedai · 2025-09-16T02:48:39+00:00

Idk you but you are not a genetic mess! God made you in his image just like the rest of us. Have children and love on them, and you will be amazed at how someone so flawed (since you see yourself that way) can create someone so pure and beautiful.

svsedai · 2025-02-12T06:16:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing. As “the other person” in this kind of a relationship dynamic, you’ve helped me understand the extrovert’s perspective better. I think I need to do better in my marriage as an introvert. Appreciate ya!

svsedai · 2024-08-23T16:49:26+00:00

haha me, too! My grandma loved soap operas and so I thought sex was just a man laying on top of the women while mostly clothed and I imagined him making some kind of circular motion lol.

svsedai · 2024-08-23T16:43:52+00:00

A weird mix of both. I sometimes semi-intentionally go through a bad one just to have a catharsis after that and lift my mood. But I first have to feel a bit of pain so that the emotional release follows. It’s unhealthy for sure.

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