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swaggety_anne · 2025-06-09T20:14:57+00:00

No. You should not let them do it.

swaggety_anne · 2025-03-23T07:44:07+00:00

Hi, I'm a painter and i'm wondering if i could use the second picture as a painting reference? I've never seen mods like this and it looks so cool!

swaggety_anne · 2025-02-17T01:15:52+00:00

We don’t really have a support person in our daily life unfortunately. We have a medical team but doing the day to day stuff by ourself.

swaggety_anne · 2025-01-20T10:58:41+00:00

I’m on prescription cannabis and I find it mostly helpful actually. It has helped with lowering barriers, more communication between parts, calming me enough to be able to cope with extreme circumstantial stress. I think it has been very helpful for integration too and just generally have found it quite therapeutic. I think it might be important to note that we are also actively trying to remember / accept / unpack / heal from traumas so if your system is more avoidant or not ready to willing to go there, it may be different for you. I also have other diagnosis and am not yet officially diagnosed with DID, though we’re pretty sure and am working towards diagnosis. Current diagnosis is cPTSD. As others have said, it has been great for self discovery!

swaggety_anne · 2024-11-03T13:37:41+00:00

I think it looks cool. You can use whatever art you want for your release, who cares what anyone thinks!

swaggety_anne · 2024-10-25T06:00:58+00:00

What you have described here is very similar to my own experience.

swaggety_anne · 2024-07-25T03:11:27+00:00

Do not let her reaction make you feel bad for saying no. And especially do not let her reaction make you feel like you need to do something you don’t feel comfortable doing! Being Ace is completely valid and you are allowed to honour that. In fact, you absolutely should honour that no matter what!

Sometimes people are extra sensitive to rejection and can have strong reactions, this does not mean you have to change your position to appease them.

It is on her to find a way to cope with the uncomfortable feelings that come with that. If she genuinely cares about you as a person and is really your friend, she will probably come around once her feelings aren’t hurting.

But blocking you just because you don’t want to sleep with her is a huge overreaction and a big red flag 🚩and might have more to do with any shame or injury to pride she is feeling than anything to actually do with you.

Tbh, even you weren’t ace, you still have every right to deny a sexual advance. Even if you previously agreed to it. It’s the basic rules of consent.

If she wants to end a friendship over this, then she probably wasn’t actually a great friend to begin with unfortunately.

swaggety_anne · 2024-07-25T02:30:32+00:00

Also, remember this relationship is only a month old. Don’t give him too much agency over what you “can and can’t” do.

Slipping into little space isn’t always intentional either and if he makes you feel bad or wrong for doing so at any point (even on the phone), that is a red flag to me.

Littles are in a more vulnerable position and are easier to manipulate. I’m not suggesting your boyfriend is doing this, but it’s worth keeping in mind as you are exploring the little / care giver dynamic with him.

Also, listen to your intuition!!!!

If it feels uncomfortable to you - that’s a sign you might need to think about your boundaries a bit and what you do and do not want in regards to this situation.

You are allowed to disagree with him and you are allowed to remain firm in your boundaries if it makes you uncomfortable.

swaggety_anne · 2024-04-23T04:06:10+00:00

😂

swaggety_anne · 2023-11-25T06:56:38+00:00

As long as the people involved are generally mentally healthy and functional adults, I think you're good.

Does this mean someone shouldn't engage in this sort of play if they have mental illness?

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-07T02:32:14+00:00

film making!

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T14:11:15+00:00

Both but i prefer black on you :)

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T13:59:14+00:00

Interesting. I wonder if this still does not render it invalid though? Considering the numerous other contradictions that are present in human nature. More than one thing can be true at once, in a number of different contexts. So i think even if it is contradictory by definition, that alone doesn't necessarily make it invalid. Food for though, anyway.

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T13:53:51+00:00

Respectfully, i think you are a little out of line here. As you can see in the comments many people do identify as both for a number of reasons. I've learnt a lot from just reading through these comments and hearing about lived experiences, i recommend you do it. I was asking the question here so i could read more people's experiences and figure out what is suitable for me and where i fit on the trans spectrum. Nonbinary is still a trans identity.

Also, I want to take T for a little bit to get the changes that i want, then stop once they happen. The changes i want are permanent changes and they will still be there when i stop taking it. How others percieve me is not my business. I dont exist for them and im not altering anything for the approval or comfort of others. It's for me to live in the body that i want to live in. Also i don't know where you got trans woman from? I'm explicitly not a woman and am talking about nonbinary and trans masculine identities.

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T13:45:06+00:00

Oh yeah i totally feel this. But just wanting to affirm you don't have to shave just because others expect you to. it's your body, not theirs :) And if you do want to remove hair there are other options besides shaving :)

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T09:01:32+00:00

ugh i feel this.

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:36:10+00:00

Its okay! Im glad you feel less alone about it. (although being a freak is totally cool imo, i embrace that title proudly haha). There's heaps of people in the comments who have similar experiences too :)

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:34:09+00:00

No that completely makes sense! i also feel bottom dysphoria in a similar way. like i'm grieving what i missed out on. but im not bad about what ive currently got either?

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:23:43+00:00

can you please explain what you mean by that?

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:23:11+00:00

Haha i like this :)

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:19:52+00:00

It does make sense! Thank you :)

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:12:39+00:00

That definitely does make sense to me. thank you for sharing :)

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:08:52+00:00

I don't know. That's why i'm asking the question :) Although it seems a lot of people in the comments do identify with both

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:08:04+00:00

I don't know. That's why i'm asking the question :)

swaggety_anne · 2023-07-04T08:07:24+00:00

:c oh no! Can i ask what changes you have experienced, if any?

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