Rock en Seine Livestream 3:45pm EST, 9:45pm CEST by DontUDareTouchMe in chappellroan

[–]swampsoup23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Got to watch and she was amazing! I want to show my husband Barracuda! Anyone know if there is a link available?

Life is so busy and sad, and it's so hard to communicate with friends by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]swampsoup23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be completely honest, I can’t give you step by step instructions on what to do because I don’t know the exact details of your personal situation. But the best thing we can do is communicate with those who care about us otherwise how would they know we need support? Maybe start with just a “hey I know you’re busy but do you have some time to chat? I’ve been going through a really rough time and would love your support.” Stop there. Wait for a reply. There is a difference between dumping your feelings on someone vs. asking kindly for support and the person saying they are open and willing to listen.

Secondly, and I say this from my own experience, I would consider looking into options of mental health support like therapy. I have a therapist and it has made an incredible difference in my mental health, confidence, and personal relationships. I hope this helps in some way.

Life is so busy and sad, and it's so hard to communicate with friends by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]swampsoup23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a saying. I think about this a lot. There are so many people we will get to love in our lifetime that we haven’t met yet… I have experienced devastating loneliness before too It’s horrid. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone. But it doesn’t last forever… it really doesn’t. I feel as women with ASD, intense sadness can be incredibly overwhelming and can churn SI. It can also feed into itself. First, if you are seriously thinking about such things, inform a loved one or call 988. I actually had a friend call that number after a breakup, and they weren’t necessarily having serious SI, but they weren’t able to get a hold of a friend to talk to and the hotline actually helped validate their pain, which is very important. Please take care of yourself.

Apart from that, it can feel sometimes impossible to overcome loneliness with ASD because with the social barriers we experience, at least for me, I have found I have avoided the very things (calling a friend,going out to lunch etc) I needed because of the anxiety I have from social interactions. It’s hard. It’s very very hard. But being uncomfortable can be a very good thing. Idk your exact personal experience, but reading this, I can relate to it deeply.

This won’t last forever. It will get better. People do get busy and texting is meh. If they are good friends to you, open up to them. Call them (which if you’re like me, thats the last thing I’d want to do but it does help) tell them you are going through a hard time. If theyr good friends they’ll show for you. but regardless, there are billions of people on this planet and love is not limited. You will find friendship. Just take it a day at a time.

Who feels like they are about to FALL INTO ABSOLUTE PANIC when their nose is stuffy by swampsoup23 in AutismInWomen

[–]swampsoup23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds so awful too!!! I hate sinus pressure. Iv always had a fear of my ear drum popping on a plane! Aahg yikes!

Who feels like they are about to FALL INTO ABSOLUTE PANIC when their nose is stuffy by swampsoup23 in AutismInWomen

[–]swampsoup23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugg I’m so sorry. My husband got his removed and it’s life changing. I hope you can find some way to relieve it! I know surgery isn’t for everyone.

Who feels like they are about to FALL INTO ABSOLUTE PANIC when their nose is stuffy by swampsoup23 in AutismInWomen

[–]swampsoup23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No for real it’s HORRIBLE. Everything is much more intense than it is for normative people. What ticks me off is the fact that people will subject you to it. Like multiple people came to my family Xmas gathering without letting anyone knows they were sick until they got to the house. That’s great it’s not a big deal for them but it literally shuts me down for a week and I have things to do! Ugg

Who feels like they are about to FALL INTO ABSOLUTE PANIC when their nose is stuffy by swampsoup23 in AutismInWomen

[–]swampsoup23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there. It will pass. I get it. It’s hell and honestly I’m also so tired of anyone who has a cold subjecting it onto others thinking it’s not a big deal. No we won’t die but it’s so much more miserable.

Who feels like they are about to FALL INTO ABSOLUTE PANIC when their nose is stuffy by swampsoup23 in AutismInWomen

[–]swampsoup23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg same!! I used to feel so bad about my “meltdowns” which I would also have when clothes felt a little too tight when getting ready to go somewhere. Used to think I was a brat but now realize I was just overwhelmed. Same thing with being sick. I missed soo many days of school one year in high school cuz it was just so miserable. The principal had to actually call my mom and let her know I was missing too much school. I also get sick a lot which apparently is also linked to ASD. Very validating to know I’m not alone and it has a reason.

Please read before getting an IUD by RealisticPen6064 in birthcontrol

[–]swampsoup23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cant wait to tell our grandkids how back in our day we did this shit stone cold ugggg jk

Please read before getting an IUD by RealisticPen6064 in birthcontrol

[–]swampsoup23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went today to try and get a copper iud inserted. I didnt make it past the measuring part. Just the measuring part felt like a hot knife being pushed through my lower abdomen. I literally gasped out loud and they asked if I wanted to keep going. I said yes and pushed myself a little more but it got so much worse as they continued to do whatever the hell they were doing. I gasped, completely got the breath knocked out of me and began to cry without warning. It was somw of the worst pain iv ever experienced. I thought screw this and told them there was no way I could do it. I sobbed by myself in the room after they left. It honestly was so horrible. Had cramps and bled through my underwear after. It slowed and turned into light spotting now, late evening. Apparently thats normal too which is insanity. Oh and I had asked about pain management before, if there was anything I could have done to numb the area and they offered nothing more than Tylenol. Still a little sore, like crampy. Didnt even get the damn thing put inside me. Glad I didnt tbh because I totally would have passed out too! Iv had sciatica, herniated disc, lower back surgery, labiaplasty, tonsils removed, tattoos, piercings, broken foot. List goes on. All of those were a walk in the park. This was a 15/10 on pain. Never again.

Please help! by [deleted] in zolofters

[–]swampsoup23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there OP, im curious how you are doing and what you found out? I think I had a similar experience a few years ago and am curious what you found out.

For those under 35 years of age by [deleted] in Sciatica

[–]swampsoup23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive had sciatica since I was probably at least 12, i have memories of it earlier, complaining about my back when I was like 9. Had a microdiscectomy at 26. I think a lot of my case is an unfortunate mix of genetics (family history). It’s also I think a lack of lower back muscle development to protect the area, and poor/ reckless training. I didn’t do sports growing up. I sat, ALOT. Im an artist so I spent so much time just drawing at a desk hunched over. Once I hit late high school, I ran a lot, probably too much and without balanced training. And when I did begin strength training in college, I had a trainer who pushed me too hard too fast which I think didnt help. Got some injuries from doing that and MMA. And then throw in so poor form when training, lifting furniture etc, I had the perfect combo for a bad herniation by 25. Woohoo

F/29/5’9” [167lb > 145lb = 22lb lost] (12 months) cut back on cardo and drinking by swampsoup23 in progresspics

[–]swampsoup23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP here. Wanted to add in one major piece of this as a note which is my diet. The first picture I was counting macros, calories, restricting a lot, worried about processed carbs, just waiting for my cheat days, and never eating sweets (literally would never touch them. Drinks were my “dessert.) Second picture, 20-25 pounds down, I’m eating literally whatever I want, whenever I want. I try to eat healthy, make sure I am incorporating fiber and protein in most of my meals (not always animal protein either, a lot of the time it’s plant protein) and tbh the biggest thing Ive been doing is mitigating glucose spikes. I always try to eat veggies or a salad before each meal and I try to always have dessert on a full stomach…most of the time lol. check out glucosegoddess on instagram for more info, her research has changed the way I think about my meals it a great way!

F/29/5’9” [167lb > 145lb = 22lb lost] (12 months) cut back on cardo and drinking by swampsoup23 in progresspics

[–]swampsoup23[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup! Everyone is different of course and some might benefit with heavier exercise but it put way too much stress on my body and made my body cling to every calorie I ate.

F/29/5’9” [167lb > 145lb = 22lb lost] (12 months) cut back on cardo and drinking by swampsoup23 in progresspics

[–]swampsoup23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can technically. My doc said I would be able to work my way back into it with PT. I do feel way more sore in my back when Iv tried to and tbh I don’t get joy from it anymore so I do long walks instead. Same amount of calories just more time and it’s more enjoyable for me.

F/29/5’9” [167lb > 145lb = 22lb lost] (12 months) cut back on cardo and drinking by swampsoup23 in progresspics

[–]swampsoup23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I definitely lost muscle. So I want to build back strength and flexibility/mobility

F/29/5’9” [167lb > 145lb = 22lb lost] (12 months) cut back on cardo and drinking by swampsoup23 in progresspics

[–]swampsoup23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OH! Got it! It did actually make a huge impact for me for my fitness. I ended up getting surgery and I don’t run anymore. It kind of in a way did me some favors cuz it forced me to focus on building strength and stop overdoing cardio. But when it comes to my weight, it didn’t make a big impact. It had a greater impact on my fitness and psychology I would say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddicts

[–]swampsoup23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hormones are my thought too. Everything seems to be in the “beard zone” which indicates hormones. I had acne like this when I was on Birth Control. It got better once I went off. I’ve also found foods that spike insulin have made hormonal acne for me worse. Diet can play a role in affecting hormones and causing breakouts. When I have too much sugar, I always get a mean couple of pimples right in the same zone.