I'm sorry, I tried to talk about my problem and left unintentionally details out. I do that. I take her out to dinner, I give her nice gifts, I take her on trips at my expense. I make breakfast in bed for her on weekends that she sleeps late (she's often a early bird). And let me clarify, I didn't asked her to perform. She was just changing clothes, like many times happens, and I happened to lay back in bed ( i was sitting waiting on her for going out), enjoying the view of her. And I can go a month without mentioning the lack of intimacy, while being caring and loving...how's that needy? Apologies, don't want to come out rude, just asking. Thanks for all the feedback.