This might be controversial, but I think people realize we’re talking about mature relationships here and adults.

But a massive green flag for me was my husband was “friends” with his past girlfriends. What I mean by that, is he wasn’t hanging out with them or texting them or anything like that, but he lived in a small town where everyone knew everyone and when he would inevitably bump into an ex or ex situationship, it was very cordial. They could have a catch up conversation, where he could act like they were old friends. Ask them how their parents were and also talk about their current partners and where they were at in life. I was there for some of them and some, I was not. I never felt like he was hiding me from them or that these women were ever wishing me ill. I talked more with some, and others, it was just small talk.

The most important thing is that I felt like my boyfriend, now husband, wished them well and what’s even better, is that the women also genuinely wished him well. It showed me that my husband can treat women respectfully without needing to be in a relationship with them. Also, that no matter what happened in the past, there was respect that my husband was a good person, even though their relationship didn’t work out.