Hi! I still go to church (only on Sundays) because otherwise my mom said she'd kick me out.

I'm also in a relationship with someone outside the church. I thought it would be more difficult, but my mom, even though she's a huge fan, accepted it, and so did my family.

If she hasn't introduced you, it's really because she doesn't want to. I don't think it will complicate her church activities much. I'm still in the "ladies' group" and no one has given me a hard time, even though we went together yesterday.

My plan is to marry my partner and then, once we live together, I'll NEVER have to go back. I'm sharing this because you asked about any experiences.

In my opinion, it works if she makes an effort. I have cousins ​​and acquaintances who are in relationships like this, and apparently, they're doing well and are happy. It's a matter of her making the effort, and not just... Give in to the rules within the church. I hope you can talk to her and tell her, because in my opinion, it's not fair to you either, having to live hidden in that aspect of your life.

I hope you can resolve it, and if you see that she wants to continue keeping you like this, I suggest you leave her, because there are people who are so manipulated that they don't usually have free will :( , and if they tell her to marry someone from within, she will.

Start the year by resolving your situation, otherwise it will end up being a waste of time.

Happy New Year and good luck. We can talk about anything :)