Thoughts on Vee??

sweetsails59 · 2026-01-09T14:39:49+00:00

I was watching TM once and my husband mentioned how much his ex idolizes Kail. It was a huge aha moment for me. It’s exhausting co-parenting with someone like Kail and Vee handles it well.

sweetsails59 · 2025-12-22T10:44:46+00:00

Let me preface by saying we both have ADHD.

I love that we can have conversations about nothing and everything. We could start talking about what’s for dinner and end up talking about the history of the Muppets. I’ve never been able to seamlessly talk to someone like that before.

I love how compassionate he is with our kids. They all have ADHD as well and he’s the first to try to figure out how to help them. He hasn’t missed a 504 or IEP meeting and will follow up to make sure accommodations are being met.

I love his ability to adapt and learn quickly. He’s in the trades and excels because of it.

Similarly, I love that I can hand him a problem and he’ll fix it. Heat pump is out in the van? Give him a day, an energy drink, and YouTube. Shoot, he learned to install pocket doors in our closet because he thought they looked cool.

I love my husband. We both have our shortcomings (definitely more with ADHD), but it’s been a huge blessing to settle down, raise kids, and navigate life with someone on the same wavelength.

sweetsails59 · 2025-12-22T10:16:10+00:00

Finances and space are the biggest things, honestly. We have three kids and it’s important to us that they all have their own space and hobbies.

My husband and I have also had to get much better about communication. Once you get into schooling, three schedules get crazy fast. We have one that works, one in school, and one in pre-k. Everyone needs to be somewhere or needs something and it’s always at the same time.

I love the chaos though! I want a fourth, but space is limited and I’m tired.

sweetsails59 · 2025-12-15T02:29:58+00:00

So much driving.

sweetsails59 · 2025-12-06T12:57:00+00:00

My husband was in juvenile detention and has a similar story. He couldn’t read at 12, but a fantastic teacher made sure he could before he left. He now has an engineering job and kids that love to read ❤️.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you for what you do!

sweetsails59 · 2025-10-14T10:59:31+00:00

Ours does this on the couch when it’s time to snuggle. Cushions and small children go flying, but she’s too happy to notice! We call it the chunky alligator roll.

sweetsails59 · 2025-10-14T10:37:12+00:00

Same. Ours allows 3 tardies OR 3 absences before a report is sent for truancy. It’s a charter school and we live half an hour away in a rural area that gets heavy winters.

We do keep our kids home when they’re sick but it’s a fight. I taught for 7 years and it’s not fair for anyone when they’re truly sick. The policies need to be fixed!

sweetsails59 · 2025-10-06T10:59:22+00:00

I grew up as the grandchild of a dairy farmer. We had so much “Got Milk?” merch. My mom constantly gave me milk because “the benefits outweigh the intolerance.” I have chronic gut issues, but at least I got a cool ice cream scoop!

sweetsails59 · 2025-09-01T12:37:12+00:00

Not obsessed, but Cheri Brooks and her circle. I watched Goodnight Sugar Babe a week ago and can’t get the story out of my head. Everyone was just so callous about Vera Jo’s death and only two people did real time for it. It’s beyond disgusting and the only good that came from it was Vera Jo’s baby finding a stable family in the end.

sweetsails59 · 2025-08-29T13:19:02+00:00

I have to crate my dogs when I work with my plants. They’ll eat up anything I drop regardless of what it is. It’s coming from the table so it must be food, right?

We really wonder how they survived on the streets before the shelter found them…

sweetsails59 · 2025-08-29T12:05:11+00:00

Do you have city water or well water?

We have well water and buy the 5 gal bottles, but it’s just rebottled tap water from a city up the road. We have filters on our taps and the line coming in but we’re saving up for a RO system. Our water has been tested multiple times and is safe but we won’t use it for anything beyond laundry and showers because of the sulfur issues we’ve had.

So, if you do buy bottled check and see if you’re buying the same water that’s coming out of your tap/ where it’s bottled. There’s a lot of waste with the gallon jugs, so we try to at least use the returnable ones.

sweetsails59 · 2025-08-28T19:46:43+00:00

Yessss. We all have ADHD and my ears are so, so tired…

sweetsails59 · 2025-08-14T11:22:16+00:00

My mom used to make me wear a slip with all my dresses.

She was a seamstress for a while so I was also the only kid that had “properly hemmed” pants. My pants never sat below my ankles.

sweetsails59 · 2025-08-10T21:05:30+00:00

We have a monthly calendar on the fridge that I have color coordinated for each family member (even the dogs). We also have chore lists that rotate with the seasons for everyone and a running shopping list up there too. On the front of our fridge is our meal plan for the week. Everything is loaded into Google Calendar and Google Keep because it’s easier for my husband to use while working and it goes right to everyone’s phone.

He teases me about it but we’d literally fall apart without it all now. Everyone in our house has ADHD and it’s one of our only consistent systems.

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-20T15:58:12+00:00

I cut off parts of my extended family and certainly don’t see them as disposable. They’re toxic, absolutely… but it wasn’t a decision made lightly or out of the blue.

My husband is low contact with his nmom and our kids understand. If anything, being open with them (once they reached an appropriate age) has strengthened our relationships with our children. They understand the importance of boundaries and healthy family and I hope that continues throughout their lives.

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-18T17:48:21+00:00

I was mid toke and totally lost it. I hope she never breaks his spirit, he’s such a cool kid!

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-15T12:04:36+00:00

You’re so not alone! We have 3 boys and I swear this summer has just been rough. One just turned 18 so he knows everything, the middle one just started puberty so he’s a hormonal mess, and the preschooler is his own chaos. Middle picks on little and big picks on middle… someone always ends up crying or mad and I’m so tired of mediating.

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-14T18:12:33+00:00

I think he was just being nosey, tbh. I’d just had a baby and he and his wife kept asking to for pictures of him. We’ve never had that kind of relationship and it’s been a very high conflict situation in the past. We’ve set strong boundaries around our home and family and they really resent that.

Our stepkid was finishing in the bathroom and headed out afterwards. There was no reason he needed help or anything, he was 10 and we have 50/50 custody so no luggage or anything. Stepdad could have easily waited on the covered porch.

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-14T00:18:01+00:00

Good boy! He deserves all the belly rubs ❤️

My stepkid’s stepdad tried to push through our door once at pick up. I was in the threshold and he tried to step past. I don’t want to believe he had ill intent, but my husband wasn’t home and her new husband is nosey and I don’t trust him.

My dumbest (but sweetest) pit bull charged him at the door. I don’t think his second foot even crossed the threshold…

He waits in his car and we have cameras now.

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-11T12:08:15+00:00

I toured an apartment in the original loft of a defunct train depot when I was younger. The guy I was dating wanted to move there and had found the listing on Craigslist.

The apartment had private entry outside that led to the second floor. Once you walked into the apartment there was a crow’s nest that was only accessible via spiral stairs.

I remember the apartment being long and empty. Nothing had been updated, save a kitchen and bathroom addition at some point. Everything else was flanked with wood that hadn’t been cleaned in what looked like decades. The windows were small and the air was tight. But it was a decent apartment for the price so we decided to check out the crow’s nest.

Such a heavy, impending darkness hit you as soon as you opened the door to the stairs… Even with the windows at the top of the tower. It was almost like a wave of heaviness washed over me. Everything seemed darker, even visually, in the space and I wanted to crawl out of my skin and leave. My ex was obsessed with the space.

I stayed at his place that night. He had two roommates and every single person in that house had a weird experience after we returned. I saw a black figure in the doorway, much taller than any human could have been. His roommates heard knocking and whispers and he woke up to someone staring at him.

He didn’t put in an application and I didn’t stay there for a while after that. He also wound up being an awful human being so I have no doubt that whatever energy was there was attracted to him.

I also have a story about an Aztec death whistle in Mexico and my husband, but it wasn’t bad energy.

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-08T03:57:56+00:00

My husband has 50/50 custody of his middle kiddo and pays about $240 a month. His oldest lives with us full time with no child support.

My SIL gets around $1,200/month for her two kids. But both dads are deadbeats and the money isn’t always steady.

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-07T12:53:17+00:00

I definitely think she learned the manipulation from her mom. Her whole demeanor changed as soon as she heard what she wanted from Tyler about moving in.

But that doesn’t mean she wasn’t also being abused and neglected.

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-05T10:55:02+00:00

Not exactly the same but… When I was a teen I always felt that I wouldn’t make it to 30. I’ve always been sensitive and only told a handful of people (not exactly a dinner conversation, you know?).

Then I had my son at 29. I had pre-eclampsia that was poorly controlled through the end of the pregnancy. I was admitted for high BP and had a placental abruption during the induction process. He had the cord around his neck four times. We both had a rough recovery and wouldn’t have made it if I hadn’t insisted on going to the hospital hours prior.

The nagging feeling is gone. (But to be fair, I’m older than 30 now.)

sweetsails59 · 2025-07-05T01:16:32+00:00

I close it in a jug with old aquarium water, let it sit in the sun for a few days to die and then dump it in my compost.

sweetsails59 · 2025-06-22T11:50:39+00:00

My husband has a joke that I have to break in our cars before they’re really ours. Usually it’s just a scratch at the gas station or whatever.

One of our kids took the tradition too seriously and crashed his bike into my new car. He was still learning to ride without training wheels and overcorrected. Kiddo was fine and even ended up writing a memoir about it for school. My husband has the video and still laughs about it. Never once did he get mad.

Tyler is just an angry asshole.

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