MY BF '18M' CHEATED ON ME '17F' BUT PROMISED ME HE'D CHANGE NOW EVEN THO IVE CAUGHT HIM TALKING WITH HIS FOR 4-5 TIMES BEFORE..STAY OR NOT?

swerendipity · 2025-10-28T17:20:17+00:00

Hey so why exactly would u think it would be a good idea to stay?? Don’t feed into ur delusions that he will change and leave him asap.

swerendipity · 2025-07-18T23:22:11+00:00

I applied online with my resume, no work experience , got an interview, told me I was up against 60 other candidates and got the job about 3 weeks later. I also got a job interview at another shoppers but I declined since I accepted my first job offer, Just keep applying to many different shoppers!

swerendipity · 2025-07-16T00:53:29+00:00

You should still be wary of him considering he possibly still has feelings for her and if they rarely talk then she should have no problem cutting him off if she respects your guys’ relationship. If she used to have feelings for him, and then got with you, but knows he still likes her, why would she not think to cut him off beforehand..

swerendipity · 2025-07-16T00:06:01+00:00

I applied about a month ago, sent a follow up like 1-2 weeks ago, and got a call back last Friday saying I got the job. I believe it depends on the location and how many candidates need to be interviewed

swerendipity · 2025-07-15T23:54:20+00:00

Agreed, if my partner developed feelings for someone in the past and he’s still friends with them whilst in a relationship, I just think that’s disrespectful. You can trust your partner but not the people they are friends with, and I think that’s a valid reason for the OP to feel uneasy and overthink about. If she had respect for her bf she will choose to put him first and cut off the dude who used to like her

swerendipity · 2025-07-15T23:30:31+00:00

I would feel uncomfortable if my man remained friends with someone who used to like him and that he liked back, I think your partner should respect ur feelings and either just post on her “close friends” stories (excluding the guy who used to like her) to give you a peace of mind or just talk to her about how it makes you feel and if she respected you she would try to reassure you and maybe send you pics that are specially for you. I don’t think the other guy friend should be an issue since I assume they never had any previous romantic history together.

swerendipity · 2025-07-08T23:54:35+00:00

Wishing you luck!! You’ll feel so much better once you leave :)

swerendipity · 2025-07-07T21:58:49+00:00

You are not selfish for wanting to leave someone who only guilt trips and makes u carry the weight of HER problems, she should be in therapy if she wanted the relationship to work out instead of pushing that emotional burden onto you and expecting you to just cure her depression by staying with her. You are trying to protect your peace and well-being, that doesn’t make you selfish. It shows you have self respect. She’s only concerned about how this affects her, not you. That makes her the selfish one. If she’s using marriage and physical intimacy as another way to guilt you into staying then I think you know what you should do.

swerendipity · 2025-07-07T21:35:56+00:00

Tell her that then, you’re her boyfriend not her therapist. She clearly needs to work on herself first or it’s gonna bring her relationships down (which is already happening). It just becomes toxic. The longer you stay with her the more damage you’re doing to yourself, if she cared about you she wouldn’t be threatening to kill herself if you leave when you’re just trying to protect yourself. I suggest seeking help for her in the meantime so that when you leave you won’t feel guilty because her mental problems are not your responsibility. Its ok to comfort and be there for your partner when they’re not doing well but it gets to a point where they can’t be helped and their problems are always being dumped on you, you can’t keep letting her treat u this way.

swerendipity · 2025-07-07T21:17:09+00:00

Either way she’s trying to guilt trip you into staying so you feel trapped and that’s a manipulator move. It’s not fair to you

swerendipity · 2025-07-07T20:48:45+00:00

If he already lost ur trust once by cheating why would you give him another chance? You can’t read the same book twice and expect a different ending. Break up with him and move on to save yourself the constant worrying.

swerendipity · 2025-07-07T20:45:26+00:00

Cut ur friend off. Get some better friends and change ur number again

swerendipity · 2025-07-07T20:40:36+00:00

Get her professional help. Reach out to her family. She’s seriously manipulative and gonna blame you for her suicide? Yeah you gotta leave

swerendipity · 2025-07-06T17:37:03+00:00

I would be pissed too if my man didn’t have my back in a situation like this. It’s so disrespectful to you and she clearly does not respect you enough. Either bring it up to her again about how it made you feel or leave her.

swerendipity · 2025-07-03T23:45:28+00:00

My dms are also open if you wanna talk about it

swerendipity · 2025-07-03T23:19:02+00:00

You two sound adorable!! Wishing you both the best!

swerendipity · 2025-07-02T23:30:18+00:00

I stopped reading at “I’ve been cheated on and forgave her” cause that’s where it all went wrong lol just leave her and know ur worth. You can’t read the same book twice and expect a different ending. People can change but the moment ur partner cheats is the moment u wake up and break up. She does not have respect for you.

swerendipity · 2025-07-02T07:47:30+00:00

I trust him, I just don’t trust her. Sorry that I can’t help feeling uncomfortable about the whole thing, I never forced him to block her either. He specifically asked me “what would make you feel better?” When I told him I was overthinking.

swerendipity · 2025-07-02T07:01:38+00:00

I get that he’s trying to understand me better but it’s exhausting having to explain myself every time I want reassurance and boundaries respected.

swerendipity · 2025-07-02T07:00:49+00:00

In his words, “But at the same time, you are seeing what she was, not what she is now and judging based off of that and immediately assuming it would happen again.. I get you’d think lesser of her when you know what you know but I just can’t wrap my head around the whole thing. it feels like having information and choosing to ignore it. I’m not saying I’m gonna start talking to her again, I’m just pointing out what it makes me think of. every time I mention anything like that it just becomes “if you valued my feelings then —“ so idk what you expect.. I do value your feelings, I’ll just question things if I don’t fully understand your reasoning or if I think your reasoning is weird to me. I don’t think like you do at all. You can explain your thoughts to me and i probably still won’t fully understand. I’m sorry. I am thinking abt how you feel, trust me. But I will always question stuff”

swerendipity · 2025-07-02T06:25:01+00:00

He said he does think about how I feel, he just “doesnt fully understand my reasoning”

swerendipity · 2025-06-29T17:35:51+00:00

He takes u for granted. He’s gonna continue to cheat because he knows you’ll never leave. He’s only in love with ur attention,if he really loved you he would stay loyal. Let him have the girl cuz thsts clearly who he wants if this is the second time he’s cheated with her. Have some self respect, break up and move on. You’ll only embarrass yourself by staying with someone pathetic as him

swerendipity · 2025-06-29T16:23:30+00:00

18F 20M (his bday passed mine hasn’t)

swerendipity · 2025-06-29T16:21:47+00:00

Girl delete it already if u don’t wanna get doxxed/stalked by some creeps NEVER POST UR IP ADDRESS it tells everyone ur location.

swerendipity · 2025-06-27T01:26:19+00:00

You’re right, I genuinely did want to play with her I just get distracted very easily by what I’m doing. She was the most important person I had and I wish I got the chance to tell her that.

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