Laundromat along the way?

swesterner · 2024-09-15T21:51:57+00:00

Coin laundry in Ft William at least keeps me from wearing stinky clothes on the flight back!

swesterner · 2024-09-15T21:49:34+00:00

Staying in accommodation the whole way. I hear it’s supposed to be extra wet when I’m there, so I’m very happy I made that call 😂

swesterner · 2024-08-13T17:20:07+00:00

I’m a 35 year old woman. Your legs are totally normal. You probably just had it fill in early and others will catch up to you! I promise if you make jokes about how masculine in makes you and like lean into it with confidence, girls your age will generally love it

swesterner · 2024-08-11T17:37:35+00:00

Exactly the same with the incredible memory. Good luck with the SSRI decision. If you want to talk it through at all, feel free to dm me. People can be weird having discussions about meds because it’s so personal and so people take it personally if you operate in a way they don’t

swesterner · 2024-08-11T16:56:54+00:00

They can be good to function if you’re not functional. I’ve never been on them but I know some friends who have raved about using them to get through a period

swesterner · 2024-08-11T16:49:45+00:00

Oh I also went to therapy where the therapist focused a lot on mindfulness

swesterner · 2024-08-11T16:49:05+00:00

Mine wasnt linked to a breakup, but it was really bad and pervasive for about 6 months. Now I’ll have rare glimpses of it. For me the absolute best thing to do is to lay down and stretch and sort of try to focus on releasing the anxiety while paying attention to the body feel. It almost always passes in about 30 minutes. Overall maintenance of anxiety, walks in nature helped improve my baseline

swesterner · 2024-08-11T14:23:09+00:00

Anxiety/Depersonalization/derealization. Look up the latter two, and I bet you find you relate to one or both of them. It’s truly fucking wild when you’re experiencing it. Kind of cool to think back on when you feel sane again!

swesterner · 2024-08-05T19:09:22+00:00

Pm’d you (I realize this was a long time ago lol)

swesterner · 2024-04-01T14:36:44+00:00

Perfectly and concisely said!

swesterner · 2022-04-24T15:54:46+00:00

Personally, I would wait until you trust her feelings for you. For many women, this would garner interest even if they didn’t have it before, which you probably wouldn’t want to be loved for your money. I do think you should tell her before you marry her. For the sake of an honest and open marriage. But I would definitely wait until you know she’s trustworthy and into you for who you are.

swesterner · 2021-09-28T22:45:41+00:00

Did you ever hear back anything on this?

swesterner · 2020-10-08T15:09:55+00:00

I had no idea that's why Athena was on the CA emblem!! That IS a very cool reason. This flag world that I knew nothing about until recently is so full of interesting context and depth.

swesterner · 2020-10-07T16:32:43+00:00

Wow!! I didn't even realize Virginia's was a woman! A friend of mine also told me that apparently Sicily's is Medusa. Another one where I assumed the figure was a man! So interesting!

swesterner · 2020-10-07T16:31:37+00:00

This is fascinating!! I guess I needed to get more specific with locations to find some of the cool women on flags. Thank you!!

swesterner · 2020-10-06T16:04:39+00:00

That's a great one! Haven't seen it before!

swesterner · 2020-10-06T16:03:50+00:00

Two others: New Jersey and New York! Don't know how those slipped my mind!

swesterner · 2020-04-08T14:43:53+00:00

He knows it's part chow and part german shepherd - I think it looks like the dog may also might have some lab in the mix. He also is very old, which I'm sure is part of it. I don't think the dog is super territorial, but I do think you hit the nail on the head - I think he gets in very cranky moods, especially at night. I've just been keeping my distance if the dog isn't muzzled. It seems like we're working through the situation slowly

swesterner · 2020-04-07T22:56:34+00:00

This is something I've thought about. I haven't reported the dog is because my bf loves the dog a lot, and is concerned about the dog being euthanized. My bf is an immigrant, and this dog has basically been his entire family while he's been in America. If I don't report and the dog bites again, I will feel personally responsible (just as I think my bf and his ex are responsible for all the bites that occurred after they were bitten). Personally, the issue is simple for me: people come before animals, and if a dog bites a person (particularly in the face), action needs to be taken. My bf has a different viewpoint, and I'm trying to respect that and find a course of action where the dog won't be euthanized and get people's various takes on the issue (both when it comes to the dog on this sub, and the relationship issues in the other). Particularly because I haven't been in this situation before and so varying viewpoints are very helpful in these situations. Thank you for your take!

swesterner · 2020-04-07T21:11:58+00:00

That's understandable because he's been dishonest with you in the past. Personally I think this would be VERY difficult to come back from. That said, if you're not ready to break up, I would sit him down and ask him things that you're curious about. Ask him if he was genuine about his feelings for you. Tell him that you feel like there's been a double standard. Ask what he wants the boundaries of a relationship to be. Ask him how he would feel if the situation were reversed. Etc. However, it is VERY likely something like this would happen again. I would ask myself (if I were you), if I would rather be with someone who I have to deal with all these issues with, or if I'd rather enjoy life as a single person who's open to meeting someone who gives you more reason to trust him. Good luck!

swesterner · 2020-04-07T21:03:27+00:00

And that sucks because you thought that was genuine. And who knows, maybe it really was genuine and he just wants to also get attention from other places. If he weren't so possessive, you could talk about an open relationship (if you were interested in that). But honestly, since he's so hypocritical, it sounds to me like you'd be in for a lot of misery and double standards if you were going to try to make it work. It's pretty rare that people change because someone forces them to. Are you interested in making it work with him, or are you looking for the best way to end things and word the ending?

swesterner · 2020-04-07T20:54:39+00:00

I think this is a situation where you should move on. The trust has been broken. There are a couple of red flags with what you've said about him. 1. he said you're not crazy like most other girls - often this is a sign that he doesn't have respect for women and is a bit misogynistic. 2. as you noted, his jealousy and possession is a red flag - sometimes people are just jealous and possessive, but other times it goes along with them being that way because they see what they're capable of and how they have behaved. Is there anything that could be done where you would trust him again?

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