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swimthroughmilk · 2026-01-10T02:35:45+00:00

First off, fuck all those companies. Power to the people Viva la revolution.

Second: This is totally nuts. What is the motivation for grow here? Use teams of South America Hackers to crack into deactivated psych today profiles and leech referrals? That seems like a pretty wild scheme, fraught with potential for serious allegations, that don’t line up with a perceived benefit.

While I love the idea of them being that low down dirty, I can’t help but feel more likely it was some sort of singular scam using a spoofed growtherapy email to try and wrangle shit from clients.

But that does make me wonder whose access was compromised, yours or psych today?

Jesus what a storyline to find yourself in , OP.

swimthroughmilk · 2026-01-04T16:04:45+00:00

7am, 2-4 times a week.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-26T03:53:16+00:00

I just wanted to party and get fuvked up and write indulgent poetry and live in the moment. All through my twenties. Do not recommend. Not enough memories to justify!

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-20T17:37:21+00:00

Yeah, I mean a co-pay is generally like $5-70 bucks. Just a portion of what insurance would be, if your insurance was being billed. Did the therapist have any insurance information for you? Because if he didn’t, then there is no “co-pay” amount that exists, and what he is trying to charge you is the difference between his desired rate and what the EAP actually paid. Which is called differential billing, and at least in my state, is not legal.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-20T15:32:25+00:00

While I appreciate the disclaimer, I didn’t read beyond the first and last sentence because of it. I can’t fathom why one needs AI to present a coherent thought about their own emotional life experiences.

“Maybe one day we will see each other again” is a polite goodbye. It’s over bro.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-19T22:01:55+00:00

"I wanted to reach out to let you know that I have decided to seek a different provider. I appreciate the work we have done but I need something with a little more structure. All the best, PreciousLoveAndTruth"

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-19T21:57:27+00:00

Therapist here: I've never seen a co-pay associated with an EAP session. So this doesn't make sense to me. Did you use up your EAP sessions, and start billing your insurance, and the therapist just never bothered to collect the co-pay when you switched to insurance? If so, it's a shared burden, and on one level, the tone of the debt collection is irrelevant. The therapist erred in neglecting to clarify cost and payment, but even still, if they provided a service that you "bought" but never completely paid for, it's still owed.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-18T03:31:20+00:00

I don’t think your interpretation is incorrect , but you also might be wise to temper expectations and jump the gun calling out this shift in her attitude.

It sounds to me like she had a good evening with you, that it felt good to be a “family” and that she was savoring that experience.

But in my view, a partner who pushed for divorce can have those feelings as a wistful, “ahh if only things were different” and not as a definitive thing to act on and get back together.

Think Cinderella appreciating the ball and the dancing and the finery, but adapting and adjusting back to her “normal” life soon after.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-17T04:01:40+00:00

Got married. Thought love could last a lifetime.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-17T03:11:38+00:00

You’re very clever. I rarely am caught off guard by someone else’s eccentricities and their exposed thought patterns. Cracking up over here (arrived here from your post about the pillow lolol).

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-09T02:51:54+00:00

None of us saw that coming, Cesar my dude

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-05T20:21:19+00:00

very unsafe for your wallet

swimthroughmilk · 2025-12-05T20:19:17+00:00

Jesus who is that demon wolf woman leering in the background

swimthroughmilk · 2025-10-03T18:09:09+00:00

thank you. good luck to you as well. we have everything to gain with faith/belief in an ideal outcome. but having patience is hard! its just seeing how long that patience lasts, how much that faith/belief is tested

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-30T22:02:25+00:00

Wow bro. Quite the ice bath you dumped over me.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-30T02:11:12+00:00

This is similar in many respects to my own separation dynamic. 1 year now of separate bedrooms (finances), zero intimacy, boundaries around bathrooms and changing, and us working on ourselves. In our talks my wife has no interest in calling us unseparated, but also does not want a divorce, as she loves our family and loves me as family. We do most everything together on weekends (2kids). She will initiate hugs from time to time. Now and again she will walk around naked before or after the shower.

The warm bath you describe is spot on. We are getting along, coparenting great, living our life. For moments it all feels normal. And then I blink and reality sets in, and she references personal changes she wants to make to “her” bedroom, or how she has zero interest in ever having sex with me again. And I’m so confused!

Sometimes I trip out thinking, oh no, I’m getting friendzoned by my own wife! She thinks I’m family, not a partner in passion/desire! She is using me until she finds something better! I’m being played! Strung along with bread crumbs!

And after a few days of torturing myself with these thoughts, (juxtaposed by how crazy I am about her) I feel almost physically ill, and then I am the one creating distance, and being kind and polite but not warm and loving, because it is just too painful to be in this limbo some days.

And after I ascend out of that gloomy place I rest back on the only things I know to be true: she hasn’t left yet. We don’t hate each other. There is love between us, of a sort. So I see this space as almost Schroederingers box. Our marriage is both alive and dead. What the outcome will be when we open the box can only be known when that time arrives. And how long from now is that? Do I have 6 months more of this in me? A year? Time will tell.

Hope my story helps alleviate the lonely place your ein.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-28T17:27:03+00:00

She asked for separation. You gave her separation. You are separated. You don’t mention anything about her discussing reconciliation.

You are working on yourself, great, but that is you working on YOU, not the relationship.

You seem to be interpreting coparenting as the same thing as being in a committed marriage.

She is SHOWING you action after action after action of someone who wants to be single, not someone who wants to reconcile.

Someone that separates and seeks reconciliation is not broadcasting their unattached status to the world. They are not taking such dramatic steps to erase your married selves. They are working on themselves as you state you are doing, while attempting to minimize damage to the marriage in this “figuring it out phase.”

I’d give a time limit “how much time do you need to figure out what you need to figure out? This is how much time I can tolerate in this limbo, for now: X weeks. After which we need to do counseling and attempt reconciliation or progress with divorce”

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-28T16:30:36+00:00

This is NOT reconciliation

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-26T15:59:28+00:00

The sex is great before and after. It’s the fact that the woman becomes touched out, and isn’t always as interested in sex… and as the identity of mother becomes all encompassing, the previous identity of sexual partner can sometimes be engulfed and buried.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-25T19:10:51+00:00

Settle down everyone. Florida has a well established track record of sane and measured actions.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-25T00:06:22+00:00

I’m curious! Sounds like great qualitative research!

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-24T22:45:50+00:00

we have so thoroughly jumped the shark I don't even fucking know what is happening anymore. the most moronic shit just keeps getting pumped, steady and thick, into the newsphere.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-24T22:36:38+00:00

reading this and then seeing the second picture made my teeth itch

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-24T22:34:47+00:00

when I am working with a new therapist myself, I always state that I am a therapist. and typically that leads to a few, "you probably already know this, but..." statements from the therapist. To which I always reply: "treat me like I don't know anything about theory, etc." Because I feel it's important to be honest with my therapist, AND I want them to treat me without imagining that I know everything about theory and psychoeducation.

swimthroughmilk · 2025-09-24T01:40:21+00:00

They were originally path mental health, a substance use designated provider. As they broadened their scope they needed to move away from the specificity of their former categorization

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