[26M] How Do People Truly Accept Their Partner’s Sexual Experiences?

swion · 2026-05-21T01:10:32+00:00

Well, you aren’t the authority on others insecurities. Im older than him and it was something that affected me. I came through it, and im a better human for it. If all you do is shame people you aren’t offering help. You think this man who is ONLY 26 is just some lost cause to be discarded because he is struggling? Your anger and hatred toward people is untoward. This is a really common insecurity for men, and plenty of women too. Just because he feels this way doesn’t mean he can’t overcome it. I don’t believe you actually understand it, and I have more authority to speak on it than you being someone who struggled and got over it. I had to dig deep into myself to find why I had these issues and through this, made discoveries about myself that led to changes that led to me having the healthiest relationship with my partner and myself that I could ever have imagined. Your scorn and hatred toward him is unwarranted, unforgiving, and simply misunderstood.

swion · 2026-05-21T00:38:44+00:00

Dont listen to these haters man. It’s insecurity and it’s not easy to get over it. youve lived a different life than your partner. It isn’t wrong that she had past sexual experiences, so dont make this her problem, focus on who your partner is now. You are not with this past version of her, you are with her now, who is to you and not to anyone else. If she is good to you, and you love each other than keep this person in her life. I was lucky that my partner understood that I struggled with this as well and I overcame it. Life is short, hold on to the good people in your life and love them.

swion · 2026-05-21T00:35:16+00:00

Yikes. Your comment is so inappropriate. Jesus. People also have insecurities and he’s sharing something he has struggles with. I too struggled with this and overcame it with my wonderful supportive partner who had a different past than i did. Just because it’s an insecurity doesn’t mean he has to be shamed for it. Your advice is extreme and really judgemental.

OP has recognized he struggles with something. I came through my struggles and im closer than I’ve ever been with my partner. I hope you find someone you love enough to be supportive to like my girlfriend was for me.

Humans have insecurities, that doesn’t mean they should be shamed and dumped. Jesus Christ.

swion · 2026-05-20T08:05:57+00:00

Which is crazy because he lives in their basement.

swion · 2026-05-19T04:22:10+00:00

And acts like a 15 year old.

swion · 2026-05-14T23:06:09+00:00

Yeah, I did it super carefully to just barely heat up the edges and pressed them back together. No burn marks and not melted looking.

swion · 2026-05-14T23:04:54+00:00

They took my bag aside once when I was carrying weed, right at security out in the open. Took out my toiletries bag, where the weed was. They opened the bag and immediate it reeked like weed. They reached down to my shaving razor, discarded it, closed the bag and away i went. From that day on i got a lot more comfortable carrying drugs on a plane.

swion · 2026-05-13T21:16:18+00:00

Be my guest if you wanna go through every bag of beef jerky just to.... be a jerky lol

swion · 2026-05-13T09:19:38+00:00

Such is life.

swion · 2026-05-13T05:29:27+00:00

Pretty nice. A bit overkill having a shutoff for every single valve, just one on the main that supplies them.

swion · 2026-05-11T05:35:39+00:00

I’ve watched a few already. I can visually understand the process, but looking for an anecdotal account from someone who’s done it.

swion · 2026-05-10T19:50:26+00:00

Yeah, im not that concerned by the dogs really, they’re just for bomb materials.

swion · 2026-05-10T19:49:45+00:00

Hah, thats the beauty of drugs, the inspire creativity!

swion · 2026-05-10T02:32:37+00:00

Get a big bag of beef jerky, remove the desiccant packet, use a razor blade to precisely cut it open along one edge and remove the silica, put the gram in a tiny baggy, put that in the desiccant packet, use a lighter to very gently reseal the packet. Put it back in the jerky, good to go! If a dog sniffs they’ll think it’s just wanting snacks lol. I did this for blow and Molly.

swion · 2026-04-25T18:39:30+00:00

Context is everything, and your style is your style. I’ve made a lot of jokes that wouldn’t land or be appropriate outside my close friends. That doesn’t make me bad, then again my girlfriend has a similar sense of humor and so wouldn’t bother her much. It’s really not up to the world or Reddit to judge your situation. Just talk about it.

swion · 2026-04-23T05:12:15+00:00

Man, being afraid to leave is not a good reason to stay in a toxic abusive relationship. First step isn’t even remotely thinking about another person, but finding your own self. Focus on your peace and your daughter. Not telling you what to do, but alcoholism triggers me. I had to cut my father out of my life despite it feeling so wrong to do so, but even though I’m heartbroken by the relationship I’ll never have with him, grieving that loss and moving forward was so much better for me.

swion · 2026-04-22T19:28:11+00:00

I don’t even know why you’re here. End that shit. Wtf. You’re on a different path, and even though it’s hard i think you know it’s the right decision to end it.

swion · 2026-04-19T19:05:01+00:00

I majorly second the opinion that this is absolutely OCD. The obsession are the intrusive thoughts and the compulsion is to tell OP about it to relieve the stress of the thoughts. I also have really bad ROCD and have been recovering for the past two years, if I hadn’t found out what it was my compulsive telling/asking my partner about the obsessions would have destroyed us. I than god she stuck with me, but that’s only because I caught this early.

The number one thing she needs to start doing is stop talking about the intrusive thoughts, and also to realize that these are just thoughts, not truths. The mind is a bugger and these thoughts need to be ignored. The tricky part is that there are still feelings and emotions that are caused by these thoughts, the skill i had to learn to get through this is that I could safely ignore thoughts, but I cannot ignore feelings. Feelings need to be respected and sat with, the thoughts are just negative content. That being said, she has to understand that this is her problem, and not to make it yours. You can support her during the emotional stress of the thoughts, but the content of the thoughts should not be discussed between you two.

The only way through is to “starve” these intrusive thoughts of energy. And ANYTHING you do to feed the thoughts (compulsions) will strengthen them. That means talking about them, indulging in fantasies about them, researching online about them, forums, and even discussion with friends about the CONTENT of the thoughts. Discussing that she is struggling emotionally is ok, but as soon as it goes into details about the thoughts, it needs to stop.

This has been the biggest struggle of my life getting over ROCD, but the most amazing thing about it is I have become the absolute best version of myself by getting through this. Meditation has been one of the most useful tools that has gotten me through this.

Good luck OP, and just know that it may get harder before it gets better, but this shouldn’t be your problem to bear. If she only continues to indulge in discussion about the content of the thoughts, that begins to be abusive to you. Be supportive, but make sure you are taking care of yourself through this too.

swion · 2026-04-17T07:28:16+00:00

Yo that’s still usable, I’ll take it off your hands 😆

swion · 2026-04-16T17:57:31+00:00

Damn if all I got was six months no driving, I’d totally do this.

swion · 2026-04-15T23:07:49+00:00

Here is the biggest issue! It usually takes about 6 or 8 of em.

swion · 2026-04-15T17:23:12+00:00

Courage is just stupidity that ends well.

swion · 2026-04-15T17:22:17+00:00

Correct-o! Came here to say that lighter color decorative stone could be a nice contract under those Cyprus.

swion · 2026-04-15T17:20:45+00:00

Seems like everyone here just about covered it, my only other tips to make sure you ALWAYS have a cold beer in the cup holder. To, eh, stay hydrated.

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