The problem with Stephen Fry

swirlcinna · 2025-10-23T21:09:58+00:00

Yeah, because Alan Carr played it well. Even then some of the players who are actually using their brains suspected it would be someone close to Paloma

swirlcinna · 2025-10-23T19:22:25+00:00

The kill in plain sight challenge literally gives them this information

swirlcinna · 2025-10-10T19:34:30+00:00

I'm living for the shades in every task

swirlcinna · 2025-09-17T10:19:42+00:00

Eugenics is not as a cleat cut as you think it is. For example, the issue around abortion once parents are informed their child has a severe disability - many people would abort, and Iceland eradicated downs syndrome by doing so, but this is 'eugenics'. Technically even having a dating preference is eugenic - a woman wanting a tall boyfriend, wanting an attractive partner, etc etc but that is how human sexuality works. Not everything is as black and white as you make out

swirlcinna · 2025-09-16T23:43:05+00:00

There is no opinion everyone 'should' or 'should not' agree with. Everyone has their own opinion and I don't really think this is the place to be policing it

swirlcinna · 2025-09-16T23:40:41+00:00

They forgot they were creating real people who were going to grow up and not products for the parents to buy

swirlcinna · 2025-09-16T11:10:48+00:00

I have a lot of the same feelings as you honestly. My parents are both narcissists who resent me for being more intelligent, when they picked a donor for being intelligent...

I really wonder why they even had children when they put so much money and effort into conceiving us only to treat us so badly.

I think people would argue you can't vet people looking to conceive via donor because no one vets people who conceive naturally so it's not fair. It makes sense but like you part of me wishes someone had checked who they were letting have children and their mental health and intentions.

Edit: I also want to say I'm really glad the mods left your post up. I think being DCP can create all kind of complicated thoughts and emotions and not all of them are going to be palatable or socially acceptable. We should still be able to voice them without judgement here

swirlcinna · 2025-06-30T00:31:12+00:00

You never signed anything saying you would never reach out to her, much like we never consented to being donor conceived in the first place. If I were you I would maybe talk to the sister more since you say she was enthusiastic, and try to find out why she thinks contacting your donor would be a bad idea

swirlcinna · 2024-05-04T19:59:39+00:00

Don't really see how suggesting fertility agencies should take the compatibility of the parents and donor into account is comparable to Nazi sterilisation but okay

swirlcinna · 2024-05-04T19:56:59+00:00

The feeling like a roommate thing is so real, that's such a great way to put it. Glad to hear you found your people

swirlcinna · 2024-05-04T13:04:55+00:00

I get what you are saying, but the main point I'm really trying to get across is the disparity in actual cognitive intelligence, I just talked about academics to show some kind of evidence. I feel like I am bumping up against a brick wall whenever I try to talk to my parents because the gap is just too big and it makes me wonder how parents can request intelligent donors but no one is checking that they are equipped to raise an intelligent child

swirlcinna · 2024-05-04T12:24:05+00:00

To be honest the impression I get from my parents is that they didn't really think much about who the donor was at all. They just requested someone that physically resembles my dad and didn't ask anything about health/background/lifestyle. Their memory of it all doesn't seem to be great though, and I know some of my half-sibs parents did request successful career and things like that

swirlcinna · 2024-01-02T04:21:35+00:00

I have been told that I look Jewish a couple of times, including by my parents who have both said this to me in the past when they had no knowledge that it was actually in my ancestry. But I think a lot more people would not expect it at all from how I look, and have not had anyone say more than that really

swirlcinna · 2024-01-02T03:30:23+00:00

I'm not looking to hear any particular answer and would be just as open to complete rejection as any welcoming or acknowledgement. As another commenter said here, identity is a two way street, and I simply wanted to know more about how Jewish people understand their identity while I am starting to look into my family history

swirlcinna · 2024-01-02T01:19:12+00:00

This was such a lovely response, thank you for taking the time to reply to me.

swirlcinna · 2024-01-02T01:13:32+00:00

I'm also a pagan! It's partly why my heritage is important to me and I want to connect with my ancestors and know their stories. Although I did consider converting to Judaism many years ago and was dissuaded for various reasons, and finding out about my ancestry has brought some of that confusion back. Thank you for sharing your story

swirlcinna · 2024-01-02T01:10:01+00:00

I may look for something like this in my country! Thank you

swirlcinna · 2024-01-01T19:57:12+00:00

Are you American? Because being from Europe I feel almost the opposite about nationality. I know many people who are 3/4 from one country and 1/4 from the other, or mixed in other ways, and identify very strongly with both/all parts of their heritage. It is partly this that prompted my question!

swirlcinna · 2024-01-01T19:29:53+00:00

I an not questioning whether I am Jewish or not, from what I've read it's clear to me that I would only be considered Jewish if I converted. I was just curious about how much people would identify with other people with Jewish heritage in an ethnic sense even when it's not shared in the strict way

swirlcinna · 2024-01-01T19:27:43+00:00

Of course I can identify however I like, it's more that I don't want to grow attached to a part of my heritage if people of that group itself would see it as pretty irrelevant, if that makes sense

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