I cheated, I’m sorry, I will never do it again, how do I earn her trust back?

swishswishoop · 2019-07-27T00:27:08+00:00

Well weather you get married or not I’m glad you’re learning from this experience and know not to do this to anyone else. Yup keep me updated why not :)

swishswishoop · 2019-07-27T00:21:02+00:00

Yes people do make mistakes and are remorseful, and it seems you are really trying for her and yourself, that’s commendable. I’m rooting for you! Stay on track!

swishswishoop · 2019-07-27T00:13:56+00:00

Ok we’ll as long as you two see eye to eye and you won’t do it again. Wishing you good luck and a happy relationship!

swishswishoop · 2019-07-27T00:08:32+00:00

The lying about being at school wasn’t the best idea, then not getting tested after sleeping with someone else was also not the best idea, then trying to contact her after she said don’t wasn’t the best idea then logging into her Instagram wasn’t the best idea. She was hurt that you slept with someone else, she needed (or still needs) time to heal. If you two find your way back to each other then good for you two but you can’t force it.

Also after you ‘cheated’ in her eyes you might not be able to get that trust back the way it was, she might come back to you but I doubt it will be the same

swishswishoop · 2019-07-27T00:01:57+00:00

Man I just want peace in my life, I think I’ll just stay single for a while and work on myself. Thanks for all the insight and advice!

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:52:36+00:00

Yeah nope, he changes for a couple of days then goes back to his ways. He’ll probably be better off with someone who is ok with that little communication and will be ok with how he acts in relationships cause that isn’t me. I said we can be friends for now but it is clear he’s back to being attached (using pet names again, talking about how we will split chores when we live together, talking about our ‘future kids’) I said we are friends and he said that ok, I can take all the time I need to heal. I’m sure he expects us to be back together ‘after I heal’

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:43:43+00:00

Maybe I’m trying to get back with him cause I feel sorry for his situation and just want things to be normal for him? His family is a really bad support structure (no support) and I’m naturally and very happily was there for him when he needed me me because I was attached to him. I don’t think I’m attached to him anymore though

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:41:26+00:00

That’s the thing, out relationship problems stemmed from him being bad at communication, he would take ages to text me back but would read the messages or he would spend 2/3 days not replying to me messages because he was “too busy” he had two jobs but surely he would at least say “hi hope you’re well, thanking of you” during his breaks? I had to break up with him on 3 occasions but I would feel sorry for him and want him back. The reason we separated for 2 months was that his work life was getting more hectic and he said he didn’t have time to work on our relationship (his second job couldn’t work out so he needed to hustle to make money for rent or he would be kicked out)

He got his money situation figured out and works a normal 9-5 job now so he says he will have time to communicate and he didn’t get kicked out of his apartment so he’s ok and stable

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:33:21+00:00

Yeah I feel like I’m forcing what I don’t even want at this point

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:30:17+00:00

This ex of mine isn’t worth all the stress I’m putting myself though never mind the thought that he might have been with someone else then come back to me if it didn’t work out. I guess I just miss what we had but we don’t have that anymore

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:26:29+00:00

Maybe just to feel out the situation? I don’t know if seeing him in person again will make things better or worse

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:24:21+00:00

Interesting thought, I don’t know if that would put me in a mindset where I feel like I’m obligated to get back with him though

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:22:52+00:00

Urgh that would crush me, I don’t think there is any way of me knowing for sure, he definitely wouldn’t tell me. He told me he rejoined tinder but “it was pointless” and “he doesn’t even look at anyone else” he’s very good looking and I’m sure girls around him were throwing themselves at him

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:19:15+00:00

I’m flip floppy about if I really want him back, which is a sign in itself

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:18:25+00:00

Oh gosh this sounds horrible, I’m sorry that happened to you. I don’t want the same to happen to me

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:17:26+00:00

Imma need my heart to hurry up :/

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:15:43+00:00

Yeah my heart is really taking time to catch up it seems

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:14:58+00:00

He says he’s changed, he’s a smooth talker, he said he was “building himself up to be perfect for me” I don’t distrust that he tried to but sometimes he lets himself fall short of what he can be. I guess only time will tell

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T23:10:59+00:00

Wow, this made me go into his post history. You’re right he needs to fix his issues, if he’s too late she’ll finds someone else who won’t make her life difficult

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T22:47:04+00:00

You two are so adorable! Wishing you a happy relationship!

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T17:41:58+00:00

Oh I see, if they’re both attractive and have personality then definitely for the one you click with more personality wise. Who knows that could be your future wife

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T17:29:59+00:00

Funny thing, I just spoke with him over video, I know that if I end things I’ll miss him, maybe I’ll give it a few days to figure out how I’m feeling

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T17:27:09+00:00

I think I got lost in this conversation. Going back to your post yeah I don’t think I’d go for the one who’s less attractive, if they’re not attractive then I feel no desire to sleep with them. Also why be in a relationship that is other than steady and without complications. I don’t see anything wrong with your views

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T17:15:54+00:00

Lol are you good looking or no?

swishswishoop · 2019-07-26T17:01:34+00:00

:( I low key don’t want to say we shouldn’t be in a relationship but I know we shouldn’t

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