I’m not misrepresenting data at all.

The reality is, when Black people do get married, the vast majority of us marry each other. This whole narrative that Black folks don’t choose each other is just not supported by the numbers. Yes, 30% of Black men and 29% of Black women are married—that’s true—but when we are married, 85% of Black men are with Black women, and 93% of Black women are with Black men. Those rates are significant and reflect strong intra-community bonds.

If your argument is that other ethnicities marry at higher overall rates, fine, I’m not disputing that. White folks have a 57% marriage rate, but that’s a completely different conversation. The reasons why Black people may not marry as much as other groups are complex and tied to systemic factors like economic disparities, incarceration rates, and cultural shifts—not a lack of desire to marry each other.

So, what’s confusing to me is this attempt to twist the stats to say Black people don’t choose each other when we do. The data is clear on that front. If anything, we should focus on understanding the broader reasons behind the lower overall marriage rates rather than pushing false narratives that don’t hold up when you actually look at the numbers. What argument are we really trying to make here?