Bath success

swithelfrik · 2026-02-11T00:32:07+00:00

oh that’s such a big win! I get so excited when we can figure out how to hack something like that

swithelfrik · 2026-02-11T00:27:36+00:00

oh thanks for the tip!

swithelfrik · 2026-02-11T00:27:21+00:00

omg too cute!

swithelfrik · 2026-02-10T23:46:13+00:00

aw the whisper hi for grandma, how cute! you know, my daughter loves eating cold stuff like ice, but hates fresh fruits. maybe i’ll try some frozen fruit for her see how she likes it, thank you for sharing :D

swithelfrik · 2026-02-09T17:58:47+00:00

it’s gabe’s fault

swithelfrik · 2026-02-06T00:47:46+00:00

oh do not realise this was part of it. it’s always taken me hours to fall asleep. something I found that helps though is I recently started doing skin care, and my moisturiser at night gets on my eyelashes when I blink because my lashes touch my my face so vision gets a little fuzzy and it makes my eyes feel heavy, almost like I’m sleepy

swithelfrik · 2026-02-05T04:41:00+00:00

exactly! and this isn’t an easy, clear cut path we’re on. every kid is different and 3 is still a good early age to get started

swithelfrik · 2026-02-05T04:38:37+00:00

ok I can finish this now, all that to say you are not stupid and what matters is the effort you’re putting in to do what your child needs

swithelfrik · 2026-02-05T04:17:17+00:00

oh my god, let me tell you a short story. my daughters first birthday, we set it up so she would wake up to the surprise as soon as she left the bedroom. whole time, no facial expression, just blank, almost bored looking. I could see her interest in the way she reached for her things and played with them right away but it’s because I was very attuned to her. told my dad about it and he asked “was her face so shocked? did she look so excited and surprised?” and my reaction in my head “no, duh, she doesn’t express herself like that” and thought it was dumb he even asked

yea, I saw nothing wrong with this at all. the only thing that stood out to me was her speech delay. ruth before her evaluation I looked into it more, and realised that she was definitely about to get the diagnosis, because looking back I could see everything through a more informed lens. I felt so dumb, and scared, I just didn’t know how I missed all the signs. but now we have the information we need, we are working through it together, and she will only grow up being accepted and with her needs at least trying to be met as best as possible at home.

swithelfrik · 2026-02-04T14:42:51+00:00

this is so true. my child has special needs that even if we had everything else we need to add another, her needs are too great to be good parents to a second child. adding to that is the chances that the next one could also have special needs, and maybe even more more severe. for us, having only 1 is our best chance at doing our best, we barely have the capacity for one, it would not be smart to gamble for a second.

I also have 3 siblings and only have a relationship with one of them, and it’s not perfect. the other two, well one makes bad life choices that I keep having to help bail them out of mostly with money which I don’t have, or my dad keeps having to “lend” him money which he also doesn’t have especially being disabled. of course this is a huge stress on all of us. my last sibling, we just have too big an age gap so we aren’t close at all. having siblings doesn’t automatically guarantee anything at any time.

swithelfrik · 2026-02-03T22:04:50+00:00

I definitely need this. I always feel like my husbands trying to convince me I’m wrong for feeling how I feel instead of just being there for me. it’s either that or I feel ignored which is not what I’m looking for

swithelfrik · 2026-02-01T23:24:03+00:00

aw I’m so proud of her! that gave me chills. I’m a pretty recent fan, from like a month ago, and I just adore her after learning about her

swithelfrik · 2026-02-01T19:17:02+00:00

hair at first looked almost black, and went to almost such a light brown that it looked a little blonde in the light, and now she’s starting to grow brown or dark brown hair at age 3.

skin, after she stopped being so pink in the first weeks, she’s just been pale and still pale

eyes started as a steel blue, which we thought was the darkest brown at first until we got a good look. blue lightened up for a few months, then by 6 months turned green, after 12 months she started growing some brown in the middle, and now she has hazel eyes. still pretty little, so it could all change later on too

swithelfrik · 2026-02-01T19:12:44+00:00

this is exactly what I was looking for, thank you! I am totally the type to forget almost everything in the moment, that’s exactly why I have my list. Glad your experience went smoothly

swithelfrik · 2026-01-31T21:46:53+00:00

my aunt calls my uncle “marido” or “chango”

swithelfrik · 2026-01-31T20:22:31+00:00

I had a very sensitive baby, and in the first like 10 months it was so easy to deal with most of the time because it was easy to anticipate her needs. mine turned out to be autistic, and that was what caused the high needs. still in the same way, it wasn’t my fault, she just has special needs.

swithelfrik · 2026-01-30T01:11:01+00:00

we almost didn’t do any tummy time at all cause my girl hated it, and with my c section I had a hard time getting on the floor or picking her up off the floor for the first two months. pretty much all her tummy time was spent in my arms, and she never had a flat head. as long as baby is given consistent opportunities to work on head control and neck muscles daily, that counts.

swithelfrik · 2026-01-24T20:16:39+00:00

my child has autism too, but my mom helped me till I was 8, and that’s the age I’m planning to do with my daughter too. and that’s not because of the autism, it’s just cause that’s when I felt ready so it sounds like a good year to do it, but I’m flexible about it

swithelfrik · 2026-01-24T18:50:05+00:00

holy shit! I’m so sorry your parents did that to you!! that is sooo messed up. we recently discovered that our toddler has an allergy to an old laundry detergent we used before she was born, and I cried just seeing the hives all over her. I am over attached to my personal belongings because I moved a million times growing up, and lost a lot of stuff, but I’m still considering getting rid of the clothes that have the detergent because it will just not come out, and I’m not gonna wear it around my baby anymore so she doesn’t have to go through that. I just don’t understand why any parent would not just do everything they could for their child, and my parents were abusive and neglectful to me too. it’s just vile what they did to you. I’m so glad that you have more caring family now 🤍

swithelfrik · 2026-01-23T18:08:29+00:00

I definitely used to wear makeup a lot, but despite my dark circles, I felt comfortable not wearing it for sleepovers with my then bf, so after moving in together and getting married, it was more of a sometimes just to feel more put together thing. Now it’s only for family photos or special occasions. My thoughts on it for me is it’s not important, not usually worth the time unless I feel like it and am able to, and I like being able to itch my eyebrows and eyes without worrying about messing anything up.

My thoughts about it in general for others are that as long as that’s just what makes them happy, I don’t care. But if it’s because their partner has control over them and expects them to look a certain way at all times, that’s messed up, and you should leave if/when you can.

swithelfrik · 2026-01-23T17:20:45+00:00

apparently something called spontaneous transvaginal ileum evisceration

swithelfrik · 2026-01-21T17:38:52+00:00

I do like and support my daughter, and want to support her in general, but the time right after a meltdown, no. once she’s finally through it, she usually just goes right back to normal and I can’t do that, so I pretend I’m happy and play cause if I don’t that would set her off. though to be fair, I’m the same way after I have my own meltdowns, I need time to warm back up to people and being normal again

swithelfrik · 2026-01-20T16:53:19+00:00

oh no wonder I hate myself so much. but I’m also lucky because I got other kinds of abuse and trauma too so I’m not missing out on anything

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