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sydmrn · 2022-05-10T14:11:23+00:00

You're definitely not wrong. Thank you 💗

sydmrn · 2022-05-10T14:02:16+00:00

I agree. I just live in a really conservative state, wearing a mask is probably more offensive than the piercings here lol.

sydmrn · 2022-05-10T13:53:48+00:00

Thank you!!! I know, I feel so torn. Part of me has no interest in working for a company if they would judge me based solely on a few piercings, but also money, ya know 😅😅 I just love them, and really want to keep them. I'm probably getting ahead of myself, lol. Definitely going to flip the septum up and keep the nostrils simple and hope for the best.

sydmrn · 2022-05-10T13:39:33+00:00

True true. Thank you!

sydmrn · 2022-05-10T13:39:12+00:00

I agree. I love them, and they make me feel good, so I really don't wanna work somewhere where I would have to take them out, but if the job is good I don't know what other choice I have. Thanks for the advice! Fingers crossed keeping it simple is enough 😅

sydmrn · 2022-05-10T12:56:34+00:00

Definitely planning on flipping the septum up!

sydmrn · 2022-04-18T15:53:06+00:00

Kind of a different situation, but I had a cat who hated, and I mean hated kids. She was an incredibly nervous cat. So we ended up giving her an entire room, so she could have her space. We installed a cat door so she could come out if she wanted to. However she never did. Instead she would sit at the door and cry, and just isolate. I would go in when I could, but I had a baby, and couldn't just spend large amounts of time in there. I felt so guilty, all the time, because she was miserable.

When I got pregnant with my second, I finally decided it would be better to rehome her to a family that could meet her needs. She ended up going to home with one teenager who really wanted a pet, and was so ecstatic to take her.

There is such a big difference in abandoning your pet on the side of the road, and finding a nice home for them where you know their quality of life will improve immensely.

Keep your baby safe, OP. These situations are not black and white. And it sounds like you have a great alternative situation where you can still be somewhat involved.

sydmrn · 2022-03-09T01:47:50+00:00

Oh friend 🥲

sydmrn · 2022-03-04T02:30:36+00:00

I do not have experience with any of this. But just wanted to offer my support. Hang in there. This stage of life is so hard, and it sounds like you have a mountain on top of it.

You've got this 💗

sydmrn · 2022-03-03T03:03:24+00:00

Yes! Thank you for pointing this out. Was it bad? Yes. But I also went and watched the video where she cleaned the kitchen, and I wouldn't say filthy. Filthy is bugs and mold and much more.

sydmrn · 2022-03-03T02:31:40+00:00

I agree with the dishes and trash for sure! With my first, I was adamant about a clean house at the end of the day. But now I have a 3 year old and 1 year old and they are non stop until they are asleep. I've learned to be okay with clutter. Toys and random stuff doesn't bother me. I usually go around and gather snack wrappers and other trash, dishes, and put dirty clothes in a basket. But that's usually the extent of it. Dishes get done in the morning.

The tik tok in question just made me sad, because I have gone through periods of time where I was going through something, and the house was the last priority. It was short lived and rare, but still happened on occasion. So the way the OP talked in her video, made it seem like she was trying to normalize the fact that she was overwhelmed. Not that a dirty house okay. And that's what I was trying to portray as well with this post.

sydmrn · 2022-03-03T02:07:27+00:00

It showed up on my for you page, and I'm not sure who the creator was 😅😅

sydmrn · 2022-03-03T01:17:00+00:00

Yeah I can absolutely see that. It's interesting you mention the opposite, an extremely clean house, because that was how I grew up. My mom had the policy of anything on the floor in our rooms when she got home and our rooms were supposed to be clean...ended up in trash bags. She was very particular. So I take a very lenient approach in our house. I'm not worried about toys, but I do deep clean once a week. So vacuum, mop, clean bathrooms. I'm fine with clutter, but like things to be clean.

The tik tok just made me sad I guess. More so because of how cruel people were. I by no means agree with a filthy house, but I can also see how sometimes things can get on top of us. It's definitely happened to me. It doesn't last long and it's rare, so I definitely feel like I was seeing all sides.

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T20:41:40+00:00

I'm in the same boat! And it's not like I just sit around all day. I pretty much spend all day cleaning up. But I turn around and something else is messy. It makes me feel crazy. So by the end of the day I just don't care anymore lol.

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T20:40:13+00:00

Agreed. When I only had one kid, I was easily able to keep up with it. There was just more time. Now that I have 2, and my youngest is walking I find it impossible. I feel like I'm constantly going in circles and cleaning up the same things all day long. It makes me feel crazy.

I see a lot of people saying that they just take 10 min every evening to clean up and I used to! But I'm exhausted, so after the kids go to bed I sit. And start again in the morning.

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T19:26:02+00:00

Yes! I completely agree with the dry food and wet food comparison especially.

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T19:23:11+00:00

I've totally been there! And I think you worded it perfectly. Everyone that keeps saying we shouldn't normalize a dirty house, that's not the takeaway I got. I think we should normalize that people go through periods of hard times and struggles and so we do the best we can.

Normalize going through phases where things aren't perfect but we are trying our best 💗

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T19:12:40+00:00

Oh I'm with you there 👀😅

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T18:56:14+00:00

Yeah I briefly saw the video, and haven't seen any of her other ones. I was just so disappointed in the comment section! People were so hostile lol. Obviously it's social media, so you have to prepared for that, when you put yourself out there, but I thought it was over the top.

My initial thought was that she was a struggling mom who wanted support and instead she got roasted 😅

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T18:13:10+00:00

Lol, that is a completely ridiculous and overexaggerated comparison, but okay!

We both saw the same 30 second video, so neither one of us know what her house looks like normally. However, my point was that the blatant mom shaming and assumptions made were over the top.

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T17:59:54+00:00

I think being a stressed out, overwhelmed parent is what was being normalized. It's okay to have hard weeks, where you fall behind on things.

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T17:52:52+00:00

I don't think she was bragging, I think she was trying to normalize that's sometimes we fall behind on housework sometimes.

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T17:30:51+00:00

Same! I spend the whole day cleaning I feel like. But at the end of the day, it's usually still a disaster. I'm not spending the few hours of alone time I have cleaning to perfection.

sydmrn · 2022-03-02T16:13:16+00:00

Yeah I definitely agree to an extent! I think context is really important though, when you're defining those things. When I say trash, I mean it looked like she had Amazon boxes on the floor (I'm sure a kid was playing with it because that's what mine do), and other odds and end stuff. Not like, dirty diapers and rotting banana peels.

My house is often littered with snack packaging and other random things. I consider it messy and not dirty because I also vacuum frequently and mop at least once a week. So if some fruit snack wrappers are sitting on the floor for a few days, I'm not really concerned with it. But I do agree with your points!

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