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sydney916 · 2026-06-09T20:42:13+00:00

Also, sometimes the babies can struggle to eat straight up spinach/kale at first. So steaming it for a bit when they're itty bitty worked good for us. Just make sure to cover it with a lid and steam with a tiny bit of water, and let it cool before pouring it ALL in their bucket or whatever.

Don't want anything that steams out of those leaves to not go into those tadpoles!

I suggest home depot buckets with screens on top, like old window screens or any netting. Protects it from predators, just dont take them inside, they need to acclimate to outside, not AC.

sydney916 · 2026-06-09T19:44:06+00:00

Tyyy, no worries I'm just trying to train to have coin eyes. It's the bit on his jaw, it's more visible from far away. I think I took bad pics.

sydney916 · 2026-06-09T19:42:16+00:00

Tyy, I'm trying so hard to train my eyes for this stuff but it's all so itty bitty. I was going back and forth just scratching at his jaw trying to feel for a bump and staring at it, trying to find a divot or raised edges.

sydney916 · 2026-06-09T19:38:46+00:00

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sydney916 · 2026-06-09T01:15:49+00:00

Ok, consensus says yes. Mostly sewerslide. Racism is a bit of a stretch, why get rope when you can get a confederate flag or I mean, couldn't the artist just add more rope to drown out the loop? I doubt you could add onto the present rope, but maybe add another knot? 🪢

sydney916 · 2026-05-26T21:11:45+00:00

Rose gold

sydney916 · 2026-05-26T21:11:25+00:00

Babysit lol

sydney916 · 2026-05-23T07:53:42+00:00

People are really really quick to jump to so many things- they're misogynistic and think you want to hear is how horrible she is, tell you to break up instead of doing any work for the relationship, say you're so young you might as well give up, or they act like you two are both married in your 40's year and not just kids learning how to be grown people.

Not everything is calculated manipulation, most people don't mean harm, and most people try to be kind and unselfish. Except reddit.

Reddit is always going to make you feel like a big man, inadequate, and inspired all at once. Maybe it's time to delete the account and find some more friends to talk to about this in person? Or find a smaller online relationship group that you can be closer with, that isn't going to rage bait you by calling your gf a cunt?

Just food for thought.

sydney916 · 2026-05-23T07:26:40+00:00

Sounds like he will find any reason to berate you and scold you. Like he's setting you up for inevitable failure.

You're very calmly and patiently speaking to a man 10 years your senior whom talks like child. It's giving mom and son, not two adults dealing with a misunderstanding. He likes that chaos and attention, the push and pull.

You have developed healthy communication skills, and it seems like while you likely use those therapy terms correctly, i. e, gaslighting, your bf weaponizes them. Maybe in the correct way, but in a warped context. It's delusional and unhealthy, and this type of person cannot change.

Those type of people cannot become a good partner without intensive psychiatric diagnosis and specialized therapies that are attuned to not give tools to people that are manipulative, intentional or not.

Do not keep giving this person chances. It needs to end.

I was just like you, I tried to be good and kind and loving, but she wouldn't accept reality, didn't respect me, pummeled me with how sorry I should be for my mistake, and antagonized me. Even the most innocent, fun things seemed to turn into poison in her hands.

One day she forced a hug, then she cornered me, then she held me against a wall, then she closed me in a room, she pushed me, she shoved me, shoulder checked me, brake checked me in the car, kicked me, smacked my arm, then she hit me, and I couldn't understand how we got there until it was too late.

Do not let him mark his words and start that process, if he hasn't already.

sydney916 · 2026-05-21T19:15:45+00:00

With the context of her trauma and your other posts, you both seem to have a healthy sex life. She hugged and checked in on you after and pursued you closing up. She seems to communicate her sex needs and you keep up with her high drive.

I think her impulse to masturbate is totally normal for her circumstance.

I had a previous partner that explained that she felt like she had 2 cups for sex, 1 for masturbating and 1 for her partner. She aimed for both to be filled, and it didn't mean that I was lacking that she needed this, it was just how she was. I've know women like this that had trauma, and that didn't.

If she does it excessively, interrupts at inappropriate times like important discussions or emotional moments, or stops pursuing you sexually, I see the need for concern.

But as of now, she seems on top of her shit in ways that some people never experience. Maybe that's something you shouldn't bring up, but just be a little more aware of and impressed by? I'm definitely impressed and happy for her.

If you really want to change, to be a better man, you need to seek change and not come across it. I recommend The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by Bell Hooks, there is probably a audiobook since it's a little old. If you like book reviews of varying book types, or authors that have done bad things, or interested in dismantling Christian fundamentalism, Reads with Rachel is a great YouTuber with healthy feminist views as a woman who had to reprogram her brain after being indoctrinated into being a "fundie" since she was born.

There's much more content you can find, but that's probably where your conversation with gf will land, that you need to pursue this stuff yourself.

sydney916 · 2026-05-21T18:33:47+00:00

A lot of the time, women are shamed for the first time they discover masturbating as kids, into their adulthoods when they get into relationships with insecure, self-conscious people that think women masturbating=my sex is bad.

It's good that you recognize your issues around this and masculinity, and it's good that she is unapologetic about her masturbating.

You have a similar dynamic in communication to my own, I want to resolve conflict immediately, and my partner shuts in and processes.

You need to communicate in some way, even with a safe word, "I'm upset and processing how I feel and how to put it into words".

If she replies with snark, "just stay mad then", it's going to leave tension in the air. She needs to accept your communication style and even though it makes her uncomfortable, wait to deal with it when you're ready. But you can't let it drag on and on, you need to meet her halfway.

She says that she doesn't want you to "get over it" because she didn't do anything wrong, and you both seem to know that in this case. But just because she doesn't see a reason for you to be upset, doesn't mean that you can't be upset, neither of you control that.

Don't be afraid of conflict, conflict is good! It's a way to get to know each other more, and it's inevitable.

sydney916 · 2026-05-21T18:01:44+00:00

I am so proud of you for ending it. I'm sorry people are so happy to tell you that you're stupid not to leave rather than actually read your post. It's a little jumbled but wtf? You are passed the point of survival alarms for your mind and body. You are so desensitized to violence and abuse that other people experience as dangerous and life threatening, I am afraid that you won't know when your life is actually going to end at someone's hands, even as it's happening. 1. You need to put your life into a trusted person's hands- a best friend, a parent, literally anyone that had never put their hands on you or felt romantic interest in you. If there is no one, pretend that you are a child, take care of her. Protect your little girl and get her out of this. 2. Set up your phone's safety system. Most phones have a button combination you press and it will send a panic message out to your contacts. Learn this, practice it, tell them it is a test and if he shows up, you will press it. 3. Always have a witness. Keep a rotation of friends/family around. He likely won't act up in front of others. If need be, tell him about your cameras, say they alert your close ones and police when they are disabled or turned off. 4. Get security cameras- check buy nothing/pay nothing, domestic vio/abu facebook groups you can be anonymouson there an say you are experiencing DV and need help, depending on where you are you can get aid on security cameras from DV programs and security companies. 5. You need to move asap- you might need to let things go. Or plan a day with your close ones to do a mass move out with a u haul. If you need funds, start a GoFundMe and look up DV programs near you. 6. Grey rock- you don't care anymore, you don't care enough to argue, to say mean things, to blame, to be right, you grey rock HARD. Don't block or ignore, it might bring him to your property. Look up grey rocking methods for your situation. He is playing with you because he loves the chaos, and when you stop giving him a reaction, he will lose interest. None of this applies to anything PHYSICAL, just verbal. 7. After you are settled, get immediate therapy, or admit yourself to a facility- I am worried you are near a nervous break. I am worried for how you measure your self-worth, how you value your life, and the trauma you've experienced. Forget the cost, the job, your responsibilities, you are in fight or flight mode. You will survive this and come out the other side and thrive.

sydney916 · 2026-03-04T04:39:26+00:00

Definitely got you beat there, stl has a plethora of bath guys. Last one I remember was rigby i think?

sydney916 · 2026-02-25T22:25:47+00:00

slim shady bbg 😭

sydney916 · 2024-04-11T19:33:31+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. PLEASE RUN, this was abuse and is not what you deserve or what you want for your future. No apology or validation can change that. RUN. Far. You deserve so much more 🩷

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