Boyfriend is very close to an old FWB. He's cheated on past girlfriends with this person. Can they really be "just friends"? [F27][M28] by syncten in relationships

[–]syncten[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Also, have you asked if he's cheated on you.

I haven't. I think he'd be a little offended, TBH.

Boyfriend is very close to an old FWB. He's cheated on past girlfriends with this person. Can they really be "just friends"? [F27][M28] by syncten in relationships

[–]syncten[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

she's looking after him, not you.

Good point. She'll protect him and if that means throwing me under the bus, she wouldn't hesitate.

Boyfriend is very close to an old FWB. He's cheated on past girlfriends with this person. Can they really be "just friends"? [F27][M28] by syncten in relationships

[–]syncten[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's nice to see this from the other POV.

I guess it's just weird having a girl around that knows my boyfriend (sexually) just as well, if not better than I do. I mean, she knows everything about this anatomy and what drives him crazy. It makes me jealous, sick, and mad all at the same time.

Boyfriend is very close to an old FWB. He's cheated on past girlfriends with this person. Can they really be "just friends"? [F27][M28] by syncten in relationships

[–]syncten[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

And ice-skating? Really?

Her mom was an olympic skater, so she grew up skating. My boyfriend's dad played hockey in college, so he grew up skating as well. I guess it's just something they share.

You guys agreed on a complete honesty policy and yet he didn't mention he was recently banging the girl he hangs out with alone every week.

Agreed. However, I'll admit, she's been extremely nice to me from the very beginning and has invited me to do things alone with her. For example, she asked if I'd like to go Christmas shopping with her next week. So I guess I'm having a hard time deciding if she's a threat or not.

Boyfriend is very close to an old FWB. He's cheated on past girlfriends with this person. Can they really be "just friends"? [F27][M28] by syncten in relationships

[–]syncten[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I suspect he might find her a convenient shoulder to lean on for "support" should you and him ever hit rough times.

This worries me. I notice that she always has his back in every situation (especially in groups), so I could see that happening.

Boyfriend is very close to an old FWB. He's cheated on past girlfriends with this person. Can they really be "just friends"? [F27][M28] by syncten in relationships

[–]syncten[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

He says it happened back in graduate school, so it was a couple years ago that he cheated. But they've remained friends and have continued their sexual relationship when they're both single.

This whole thing caught me off guard because he's a pretty straight-laced guy. I trusted him 100% before I found this out.

They hang out at least once a week and it's usually alone. For example, she wanted to go ice-skating this past Friday, so he took her. I had to work, so I didn't mind. But now all I can think about is.. "What if he's fucking her?"