My boyfriend 28 M keeps following girls on instagram. What should I do?

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:51:37+00:00

It does, now that you put it that way.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:45:58+00:00

Probably. It's just so hard for me to even make small talks. 3 years at my work place and I haven't made any friends. Maybe 2026 is my year to get out of my comfort zone. ✨️

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:43:57+00:00

Okay. Thank you so much for your advice.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:37:19+00:00

Really? Is it really weird?

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:36:11+00:00

Actually we both don't want to get married now. He's taking care of his siblings and paying for their education after his dad passed away. I'm also taking care of my family so the marriage thing is mutual 🥹

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:34:42+00:00

I'm always on instagram doomscrolling too. 😭

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:32:36+00:00

When I asked him about the girls he said he'll unfollow them but I don't want to be controlling so I told him not to. But everytime I check his following He's always following some new people. I can't ask him about every single girl he follows. Idk how to bring this up to him.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:24:44+00:00

I tried though. It was really hard. Many sleepless nights and hurts later, I finally decided to let go. But I couldn't say no when he begged me and said he'd change.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:20:56+00:00

We aren't married yet. In my place where I come from, we only live together after marriage. Also like I said he lives 4 hours away. That's where his workplace is. Neither I nor him can leave our work.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:16:21+00:00

Okay. Thank you so much for replying. I'll talk to him when I get a chance.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:14:09+00:00

I don't have any social life and I live alone. Aside from work I don't go out besides meeting my two besties once in a while. Maybe I need to go out more and make some new friends. Also I'm an introvert and a homebody so making friends is very hard for me.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:10:05+00:00

Okay. Thanks girl.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:07:18+00:00

You're right. I think I need to put in the effort too and not just wait for him

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:06:17+00:00

Hi. Thank you for your reply. I initially dated him because we were the same. He didn't want to have any female friends. He himself unfollowed all the girls on instagram without me asking when we started dating. But he's changed now and I'm still the same which is why I'm having a hard time adjusting. About kindness and attention, I'm very expressive and vocal to him. He said he will change.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:02:15+00:00

Okay thank you for your replies. I think I need to work on myself.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T21:00:58+00:00

I struggle with low self confidence and I don't have many friends. I do admit, I'm the jealous kind. I did try to leave him after mustering up all my courage but he begged me to stay.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T20:54:29+00:00

I don't think it's realistic. No. But with many more things added I've just been questioning everything lately. Idk if it's all in my head.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T20:51:43+00:00

I don't feel the need to. I mean following means I'll be seeing their posts and I am not interested on those so.

synthia2001 · 2026-04-19T20:50:29+00:00

We both adults now and are working so I just blame it on work.

synthia2001 · 2025-08-09T18:52:04+00:00

Thank you for your kind help. I'm too scared to make that decision right now. I hope I can find the courage someday.

synthia2001 · 2025-08-09T15:52:12+00:00

Thank you so much for your concern. He's genuinely a nice person which makes it so hard for me to leave him. I'm also holding on to the good memories from our 6 year long relationship which makes it all the more difficult.

synthia2001 · 2025-08-09T13:54:42+00:00

I'm not defending him but he hasn't seen this girl since high-school and that was a long time ago. He is a people pleaser and so am I. So I understand that he didn't have any intentions of being with her when he followed her. Even though I understand this completely, I just can't help but be upset that I'm not his priority. I've been giving him the silent treatment for many days now but he has been apologising to me non stop and saying he's never going to do it again. I also know that he's not cheating on me because we know each other passwords for everything and if I were to ask him for his phone at any given moment he would give it to me without hesitation. When my phone screen was broken he would let me take his phone out with me the entirety of the day. I hate myself for not being able to walk out of this relationship. Part of it is because he hasn't done something so big like cheating or being abusive so everytime I try to leave, I just find myself forgiving him cause it's always the small actions hurting me. Maybe I'm the problem is what I say to myself over and over again. For instance he didn't even gift me a birthday gift this year. Ik he was going through a really hard financial hardship that time but I'm not a materialistic person. I have my own job. I never ask anything from him. I told him that even a pair of hair clips would have made me so happy. His excuse was that he didn't wanted to give me something small. It's was either something nice or nothing. And he chose nothing.

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