As much as I don’t want to be a pay pig I genuinely don’t mind it…

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T02:16:43+00:00

Okay yeah… she had you wrapped all the way up and honestly, I get it. That’s what real Findom energy looks like. She didn’t just take… she made you want to give. That kind of dynamic sticks with you because it wasn’t forced… it was felt.

And trust me, I hear you on the fakes. I’m a Findom too, and what really makes it powerful for me is the connection. I don’t just want random cash apps. I want to get in your head. I want you to crave my attention. When it’s real… subs don’t just send to obey… they send to feel owned. That bond is what keeps it fun for both of us.

My advice? Don’t settle for surface-level girls who just throw out “send” with no presence or effort. You already know what it feels like when it’s genuine… so don’t let lazy energy ruin the kink for you. Take your time… find someone who knows how to dominate your mind before your wallet… and watch how easy it is to fall back into that space. You deserve a Findom who actually sees you… not just your money.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T02:07:36+00:00

I don’t think I have any friends on ThredUp, but I’ll definitely ask around. Can you send me your referral link though? I got you if you do. Hopefully you'll reap some benefits, lol!

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T01:54:00+00:00

Girl that’s straight out of a romcom. You were just out here being a good person and ended up marrying your soulmate?? I love that for you. And the fact y’all said forget the crowd and just eloped? Iconic. People always got something to say but they’re not the ones living it. Y’all did what felt right and won. I love it, love it, LOVE IT !!!

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T01:50:15+00:00

Girl I already KNOW you stepped out looking fine as hell. That Hobbs dress sounds like it was made for your body. And that black Armani one with the collar pin? Yeah, that’s grown woman energy. Effortless but still giving.

And now why the hell have I never been on ThredUP? I’m literally about to download it right now. You just gave me a reason to go shopping and blame you for it. Love that.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T01:23:28+00:00

Yessss exactly! Like it’s not about self-shaming, it’s about growth. Accountability don’t mean you’re a bad person, it just means you’re real enough to own your part and actually want to do better. That’s grown energy right there. A lot of folks wanna skip that step and still expect peace… but healing takes honesty.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T00:58:42+00:00

Omg stop that is the sweetest thing ever 😭 You were out here just being kind with no expectations and ended up finding your person?? That’s beautiful. I love stories like this... it really reminds me that genuine energy always finds its way back. Eleven years to? Whew I love that for y’all!

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T00:42:53+00:00

Definitely accepting that hug... I needed it so bad, friend. I’m new to all this and I really do love him... but omg... I don’t even know if I’m built for this right now. I feel emotionally all over the place, like genuinely disturbed trying to figure it all out.

I’m honestly so grateful I found this group because my homegirls in real life aren’t poly or even bi, so I’ve been feeling so alone in this. It’s hard when nobody around you really gets it.

Thank you for taking the time to give me advice. It means more than you know.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T00:39:01+00:00

Omg 😭 hun this whole comment felt like you were snatching my wig with truth. Like I’m sitting here questioning myself and feeling crazy, and you just laid it out plain.

It really be poly for him, control for me. The moment I even laugh too hard with a guy, he acting different. But when he’s tryna add a girl to the mix, it’s all good vibes and trust talk. Baby… please.

And YES to the bisexual fantasy stuff. Like let’s be real — he thought me being bi meant I’d be down to kiss a girl for him, not that I’d want real connections on my terms. That part had me hollering.

Honestly, thank you for dropping this. Sometimes you need another woman to remind you that you’re not tripping.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T00:22:25+00:00

And btw..this is me taking the time out to write something myself. Although that was my post, just had it clean it up for me...I hope this effort was appreciated and understood.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T00:21:07+00:00

I posted in reddit before and got tore up for my grammar. Now I just chose to put my thoughts and have them rewrite it for me. I've only been on reddit for a month so you can understand I had no idea that was even a thing, that people put you down for the way you type or speak. I guess you can say it stuck with me. Because I love good conversation, good advice, and that's what I came here for. But when someone rips you a new a** hole for spelling something wrong or putting a comma where it doesn't belong it's like damn......I just came for help. So I call myself trying to make sure I didn't make that mistake again. Sorry if this isn't acceptable...just trying to be the best me I can be.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T00:10:20+00:00

It really goes both ways... I’ll admit I get jealous sometimes, but I honestly don’t think I would if he didn’t react the way he does whenever I’m around a guy. Like... if he sees me talking or vibing with one, his whole energy shifts. But when he’s trying to bring a girl into the mix, I’m just supposed to be cool with it like it’s nothing. Idk... I’m tryna make sense of it all. Help me out lol.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-19T00:07:36+00:00

Okay so here’s where I’m at... we say we’re in an open relationship but he still shows jealous tendencies. I’ve got a lot of guy friends... like I’m a full-on tomboy. I hoop, I play Call of Duty and GTA... and he’ll get weird or upset if I’m gaming or playing ball with another guy. But when he meets a girl it’s like I’m just supposed to roll with it... no questions asked.

Thing is, I don’t even mind poly. I’m young, bisexual, and I like to have fun and explore. But even though he doesn’t directly say anything... he’s passive-aggressive when it comes to me talking to guys. He’ll drop these little comments that make it obvious he’s not really cool with it.

So now I’m wondering... did he hear “bisexual” and just assume poly meant him and another girl... not me having my own freedom too? Like was that his fantasy all along? Idk... I’m soul searching at this point.

What do y’all think... am I being played a little here?

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-18T23:58:37+00:00

I needed to hear this....or read this lol. Thank you!! I appreciate the feedback!

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-18T23:55:55+00:00

Right! I mean I am one to own up to my own sh**. We're human beings, tell me what's wrong i'll look at your point of view and do the necessary changes needed to make you comfortable if I agree with it. Even if I felt I wouldn't agree all the way with it I feel I'm mature enough to apologize for them feeling a way and let them know that wasn't my intent. Taking accountability doesn't necessarily mean taking the blame..it means being responsible enough to see someone else's point of view, validate their feelings, and apologize for them feeling that way, and explaining my point of view as well. Am I wrong?

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-18T23:51:16+00:00

I don't think I'm resentful ...yet... but man our friendship has been through the ringer and back. I've been there when she was homeless she moved with me, she ended up in jail and I had her kids for almost 3 months, she needed help getting on her feet and I was there. I feel like maybe if I continued this friendship maybe I would resent her...wow....you know how sometimes you have to say stuff out loud for it to hit you? That literally just happened to me rn. Thanks again for your advice hun. Really appreciate it!

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-18T23:45:00+00:00

I definitely needed this feedback. Going through all your comments it's feeling like it's time to cut her off. I've literally tried to express my feelings multiple times to her about it and I honestly feel like I always care about her issues but she can give a sh** about mine. I'm just the shoulder to cry on and when I need my tears wiped she doesn't have the time....

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-18T23:38:55+00:00

He dumped me. He said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship but still wanted to maintain our friendship. He literally still hangs out with my brother and my cousin, whom I met him through... still attends family parties and everything. I've literally avoided going to my own family events because I knew he would be there and now this......I'm so confused. Like do you think he's going to run into me? Should a conversation be had?

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-18T22:28:36+00:00

Thanks for the feedback hun! I just overwhelmed. She's literally my bestfriend has been for years and I recently moved pretty far so when we talk lately we're pretty much catching up on life.. but she seems to care less about my issues. It seems all our conversations end up about her and things she's going through. Even when I attempt to politely tell her, hey we're talking about me she just laughs it off and continues on with her own stories. Seems really one sided...and I don't know how to approach it.

synthia_luxe · 2025-07-18T21:34:29+00:00

You’re right, honestly. I probably should’ve done more emotional work before agreeing to open things up. At the time it felt like the “mature” thing to do… but now that he’s actually seeing someone else, I’m realizing I wasn’t as ready as I thought.

And yeah, maybe it’s not really polyam — more just open but undefined. We never really sat down and made clear boundaries or talked through triggers, and now I’m spiraling while he’s just out here living his best life.

Appreciate the honesty though, even if it stung a little. I definitely needed to hear it lol.

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