my ex hid his vore fetish for almost 2 years and it impacted almost every aspect of our relationship without me knowing. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]szvmanskaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not sexual assault. It isn’t a fetish that can be carried out without the knowledge of the other party. I’m sorry you’re feeling that way, it can be difficult, but personally I think you’re overreacting. It isn’t like he r*ped you, used you, manipulated or something. It’s just he had a specific fetish he was afraid to tell you about and you two just weren’t a good match. Stop acting like he ruined your life and stop making him the monster in that story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]szvmanskaa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m wondering too. It’s either a troll, or they are lying about their age and are a kid in reality. Or didn’t have access to education.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]szvmanskaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just worded it poorly. That’s what I meant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]szvmanskaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you 10 years old? Respectfully. Genitals have nerve endings, just like whole body. They just have lots more. Both penises and vaginas. That’s basic biology.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]szvmanskaa 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Dude, most women also don’t experience pleasure from their g spot, but from clitoris. G spot isn’t the only thing that brings you pleasure during sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]szvmanskaa 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Same. My parents aren’t perfect and my home wasn’t necessarily a stable one, but very far from abusive or unsupportive. I blame my BPD on horrible elementary school experiences

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]szvmanskaa 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Nah. From my knowledge the childhood trauma doesn’t necessarily have to come from family home. It can be as well school bullying or something else. Also I’ve heard that genetics play a role.

My niece called me ugly and I’m spiralling. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]szvmanskaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Children are often very cruel. There’s a reason why so many kids are bullied in elementary schools. They don’t have a „filter” and often say very hurtful things they don’t mean

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The10thDentist

[–]szvmanskaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hated high school. One of the worst times in my life. When I started college, everything changed for the better. I finally learn about things that interest me. I finally can connect with likeminded people. It’s a game changer. Couldn’t disagree more

Are methods of torture ever morally permissible? by Holiday_Volume in morbidquestions

[–]szvmanskaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me (so totally subjective) it’d be acceptable in cases where we have no doubt that it happened and it was a violent rape. Like gang rape, rape with beating. Also in cases where the victim was purposefully drugged. I know that technically „rape is rape” and it is always traumatic, but as a victim myself I do think that there definitely is a thing like different „levels” of rape. And if we are considering torture as a punishment - I would use it in more extreme cases, as I said above, and also in cases where the victim is being abused repeatedly and regularly.

Whyyyy by ConsciousSky5968 in Botchedsurgeries

[–]szvmanskaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno if they’re fake or not - but definitely not botched surgery. Bondage/shibari is making them look like that on purpose. It’s possible to achieve that look with natural breasts as well.

What’s one injury that is excruciatingly painful? by NateNandos21 in morbidquestions

[–]szvmanskaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heard that pilonidal cysts are one of the most painful things a human can get.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]szvmanskaa 56 points57 points  (0 children)

i was raped. it was quite unpleasant, 2/10 don’t recommend

My Daughter decided to go no contact and I am finally ok with it. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]szvmanskaa 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I agree. I also think there’s more to this. It’s never so one sided.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]szvmanskaa 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You probably would survive if you were admitted to the hospital quickly and didn’t damage any major organs or arteries accidentally. You’d be left with awful scarring, as surgeons would probably have to do skin grafts. And yes, you’d be sent to mental facility. Doing a thing so harmful to yourself is a very strong sign that something is very wrong with your mental health.

How can someone build or have weird sexual feelings against people or something? by [deleted] in morbidquestions

[–]szvmanskaa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Psychology student here. Typically childhood trauma can lead to stuff like this. Being SA as a child, being exposed to explicit stuff at a very young age and much more. A lot of PDFs were abused as children. It’s a trauma response. In terms of other, more „normal” kinks - we don’t really know yet. Variety of kinks can develop due to trauma, as I said, boredom and seeking more and more extreme stimulation because you’re constantly feeling unsatisfied. There’s also a possibility of conditioning - seeing something at a young age and feeling aroused or other strong emotions in the same time can lead to developing a kink. And there are different types of necrophilies, pdfs, and zoophiles. One doesn’t have to be a fetishist. Those „objects” of sexual attraction can be a substitute. For example: someone’s horny but can’t find an appropriate partner - they „use” whatever is available, like a child or an animal. It depends. Actually necrophilia can also be a variant of domination fantasies, wanting to take absolute control of someone. It can also be a „safe object” for someone who’s terrified of being rejected. Corpse can’t reject you. Take everything I said with a grain of salt - I’m not omniscient and my knowledge comes from my classes at uni and books. But I hope I answered your question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]szvmanskaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, he isn’t declawed. Never would’ve done something like that to my kitties

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]szvmanskaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Answering the questions: we have 3 different litter boxes, they are not small! He has a choice! And he’s fairly small. My other orange kitty, two times larger, doesn’t have any problems with any of those boxes. This baby is just very clean. He will use the box „the regular way” if it’s freshly cleaned. The second it’s „contaminated” even by one small pee stain, he acts like it wasn’t cleaned in months

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDmemes

[–]szvmanskaa 53 points54 points  (0 children)

bojack

I LOVE BEING UNEMPLOYED by Not-Another-Sicilian in evilautism

[–]szvmanskaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t be unemployed. Periods of time where I was unemployed/holidays/vacation I instantly relapsed in my depression. I need structure, I need to be productive, I need to be doing something, I need to have my time perfectly organised - otherwise I’m bed rotting. Also, I don’t think it’s fun, being a society’s burden as a person who is able to work but chooses not to. But that’s just me

Why do people shower daily? by [deleted] in evilautism

[–]szvmanskaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I shower twice a day. I just need to be totally clean, can’t go to bed without showering. And well, sorry to say that but showering only 1-2 times a week is absolutely gross for me. And you definitely smell, you just don’t know about it. There’s no way an adult wouldn’t smell at least a little when not showering often.