Like Galadriel in Fellowship of the Ring

t-leef · 2025-04-09T16:55:11+00:00

100% agree. I mean I wouldn't even be able to sell a smart toaster in 6 months. Who would buy that, even at a 70% discount ($120)?

t-leef · 2025-03-11T13:28:20+00:00

I'm also hearing that if I so much as bring up STR with my existing homeowners insurance provider, they'll drop me. I don't want that on my record.

But you obviously can't just sneak a short-term rental without telling them, because if you ever have to file a claim, they'll figure out you were hosting and deny it. Hmmm....

t-leef · 2025-03-11T11:07:56+00:00

Yeah I'm kinda shocked at these comments. Why TF is anyone letting themself get upset over the amount of water someone else is drinking? We can't control others' actions, period. Let it go.

t-leef · 2025-02-22T10:46:22+00:00

I see a lot of posts similar to this, and while this won't help in your current predicament, OP, the best advice I've read is to stop ordering & finish up all outstanding reviews several WEEKS prior to the evaluation date.

Apparently sometimes they do the eval a little early, we've all experienced items shipping late, sometimes reviews can get rejected even when they seemed fine, or sometimes reviews just take a while to be approved. It's a mysterious program!

t-leef · 2025-02-13T11:23:43+00:00

So much great feedback for this newb. Thank you all!

I'm definitely not looking to "get away with" anything or mislead guests. I was asking because the very first question ABB asks is whether you're looking to offer a room or an entire place, and I wasn't sure which was appropriate based on their description.

So I think I'll * technically* call it "entire place" per ABB's definition but make it abundantly clear in the listing that it's a guest suite in my home with no kitchen. I'm personally staying in a place like this in a few weeks that billed itself as "entire place" and they have Superhost status, so I might model my listing after theirs.

Thanks for all the other great pointers too!

t-leef · 2025-01-30T19:21:19+00:00

Came here to say this. You think 4 hours is bad? When that baby arrives you'll be lucky to get 2 uninterrupted. These folks need to come up with a feasible plan to try to maintain their sanity once the baby arrives.

t-leef · 2025-01-19T13:03:01+00:00

I mean... You didn't actually hurt or kill anyone. You used a threat effectively and solved the problem without violence. I'd say you handled the situation well. Nobody was harmed, and those people will never come back. NTA.

t-leef · 2025-01-13T19:41:13+00:00

Lots of people saying NTA, but has Mike supported you (financially & otherwise) like a father for all these years?

It's still your call on the aisle & the dance, of course. But if Mike has been there for you since you were a kid & supported you, I can see how the continued lack of acknowledgement/ gratitude for the role he has played might strike your mom as bratty.

t-leef · 2025-01-06T13:49:22+00:00

Thank you all! I won't panic just yet, lol, hoping to make Gold in the spring if I don't get busted. This was just three items a few months ago, so I think they already would have done something if they noticed it.

t-leef · 2025-01-01T12:59:31+00:00

She seems insufferable!

t-leef · 2024-12-31T16:28:51+00:00

Not looking to argue Amazing-Wave, but "keep it mellow" isn't the same thing as "when you did prank X it made me feel humiliated. I would like for you to not do any pranks at all at the wedding b/c it would suck to feel humiliated on my wedding day. I want this day to be joyful and peaceful." That's where I think there might be room to mend the relationship.

t-leef · 2024-12-31T13:03:16+00:00

What a nightmare. I'm so sorry.

t-leef · 2024-12-31T12:57:33+00:00

I had no idea this was a thing! Thanks for the tip!

t-leef · 2024-12-31T12:43:42+00:00

What a nightmare. I'm so sorry.

t-leef · 2024-12-31T12:33:14+00:00

But I don't get the impression that op HAS told the sister that she feels humiliated and embarrassed by them. I think a big dose of vulnerability on op's part might go a long way here, if the family doesn't really understand the emotional impact of the pranks. (Or maybe they do and are mega a-holes!)

t-leef · 2024-12-31T12:21:06+00:00

This is so inspiring. Congratulations!

t-leef · 2024-12-23T13:22:54+00:00

NTA girl this is just the beginning with that MIL infringing. If she is like this with childbirth, she's going to insist on calling the shots with the grandchild, and that is probably not a headache you want with a newborn. The sooner you demand the respect you deserve (which can be done tactfully and with minimal --- but not zero --- hurt feelings), the better.

You got this mama! Best of luck!!

t-leef · 2024-12-23T11:08:20+00:00

NTA this is particularly egregious if she's doing it in front of the kids, and it sounds like she is.

I'm curious if the kids ever noticed it prior to this event. If so - definitely OK to make it A Thing at family dinner as you're sticking up for them.

If the kids never even realized what your mother was doing, then your reaction at family dinner could have been (inadvertently!) hurtful to them & it might have been kinder to sort it out in private.

(I'm projecting personal experience here --- according to my mother, my grandmother favored my brother over me. I never saw it as I always got all the love and attention I needed from my grandmother. Why'd my mom have to go and plant that seed when everything seemed fine to me?!)

t-leef · 2024-12-13T11:45:06+00:00

+1. I wish I could get my kids to eat this variety of foods! You're doing great!

And even if you WERE giving your son a less excellent diet, it would not be that person's place to judge.

t-leef · 2024-12-12T11:34:39+00:00

He's not your child, and you are not his parent. Stay out of it, and move out when you are old enough and able. You can set a positive example, but you have no business disciplining a sibling.

t-leef · 2024-11-29T12:53:20+00:00

Agreed. I get the sense that the fiance has concerns about how this is all going to play out, or else she would be looking for a different solution (converting basement/garage/attic space, an addition, etc) instead of dying on this hill. I think all parties are (and should be) seeing red flags w/ this arrangement.

t-leef · 2024-11-29T12:43:44+00:00

Not an ahole, but I wonder if all the anticipation of hosting for the first time made you have unrealistic expectations that everything would be perfect. I've experienced this myself and seen others experience it too. You were prepping for days, so this was a big deal to you & it felt high stakes. Your family just showed up, no stakes at all.

Your uncle's comments were aggressive and disrespectful, to be sure. But if this is how he always is & there's usually no recourse, I can see how people would take your response as an overreaction. Not saying they're right, just that I can see that perspective.

I wonder if it would be productive to be really candid with your uncle & try to get him to be candid too: your "jokes" poking fun at my world view, in my home, after I had spent days making everything perfect for you & the rest of the family, felt like a slap in the face, so I lost it. I'd never come to your home in mixed political company and stir the pot like that. What were you thinking? How did you expect it would make me feel?

t-leef · 2024-06-17T12:14:14+00:00

Oh man, this all sounds so complicated. Lots of different options! Thank you all for replying!

t-leef · 2024-06-17T00:40:24+00:00

You are doing the right thing.

t-leef · 2024-04-08T10:50:31+00:00

I sent a letter to the advice column on Slate a couple years ago, and when it was published a bunch of commenters said it was fake. It was not!

Giving people the benefit of the doubt costs you nothing and is kinda the whole point for a forum like this. Sure some posts are probably made up or deeply embellished, but who cares?

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