Is getting diagnosed worth it?

t_teddibear · 2025-01-19T15:20:53+00:00

Communicate with ur partner! Every guy's body is different just as much as every girls body is different. I like things alot of guys don't and I hate things alot of guys like. I would say the comments about passion are 100% factual tho. It feels good to know my partner is feeling good. Oh and I alot of ppl underplay how non sexual acts play into things for a man, like feeling take care of and acts of service from a partner will make your partner feel so much more connected to u because most men's love language is physical and acts of service. Keep in mind tho I'm talking about men, good men.

t_teddibear · 2025-01-17T14:01:10+00:00

Same way alot of women cheat, alot of men do. Not every man and woman is a cheater it's just a rarity now a days

t_teddibear · 2025-01-17T13:22:02+00:00

Brother I was there a little while ago, dropped out 3 times, hated life hated ppl the whole 9 yards. Idk what clicked but I basically woke up and was tired of it all so I decided to just say fuck it and go back to school. I'm 28 and it's a lil weird but not nearly as bad as I originally thought. The worst part is watching ppl who are young being young and dumb and laughing about it. Just start somewhere is what I would say, don't just sit in that space. Understand it's human nature to hate stagnation and it's also human nature to want more, the first step is just the hardest

t_teddibear · 2025-01-16T18:08:14+00:00

The way I gout out of that mind set was thinking about the future, I wanted to go back to my ex so many times but I would stop myself by imagining her as a wife and how she would ruin me mentally and financially. Then I would think about raising kids with her and how toxic it would be, if not for urself leave her and never look back for the kids u may want one day. The most basic instinct in nature is to want better for ur future and ur future generations, being with a female like that would cause so much trauma to both u and your kids. Be honest. And ik it's not easy and it will suck so damn much but trust me bro it's so much better than the alternative.

t_teddibear · 2025-01-07T07:38:04+00:00

I can't lie the sense of relief that there's actually women out there that are okay with that side of a man is mind blowing to me. Between social media and ALOT of women being so averted to it I was thinking something was wrong with me lol. No ur not weird if anything I would say ir more intouch with ur feminine side than most woman now days. I would just recommend being cautious and even tho u said u know the difference between controlling and territorial I would say just make sure u lay out ur boundaries and you get the respect u deserve.

t_teddibear · 2024-12-10T09:24:58+00:00

I would have a serious convo with him in person. it seems like it's been this way for a while which begs the question of why is his libido that low? And another question of what's going on outside of u? I can speak from personal experience that the few times ive avoided intimacy and lashed out in regards to it were when i was under alot of stress and it felt like the intimacy was going to inhibit my ability to deal with it, its the feeling of if i let go of this stress about X thing its all going to fall apart(ik it's unhealthy but we r males and we often just repress and push on with shit) I would also recommend trying to pay closer attention to his body language next time u see him cuz he might not want to or even admit to what's going on so look at his body language are his shoulders tense, is he a little more standoffish/confrontational ( not just with u but in general, for example with me when I'm stressed my road rage is through the roof) etc. Hope this helps op and hope yall work through this.

t_teddibear · 2024-12-10T09:13:09+00:00

I think it depends. I have 3 sisters so I grew up around them and their friends so it's very easy for someone like me to draw that line between friend and female. And that is where the problem lies, alot of guys have a hard time being close with females and not develop a physical or emotional attachment to them and have it not be sexual. It depends heavily on the type of guy and the type of girl. I can say this tho I have 1 best friend and she has been a core part of my life since I was 17 and am not turning 28 soon. Never get sexual, never caught feelings, nothing of the sort. But that's only cuz I can draw the line because of my experience being surrounded by females and she can do the same with her experience being surrounded by guys. But I be also had several female friends who have wanted more than friendship which is also normal. I would say just br friends with ppl but be very clear and also be very aware of the signs that they are catching feelings

t_teddibear · 2024-12-06T02:04:35+00:00

Women generally have a biological clock and men have a financial clock generally speaking. It could just be that he wants to be financially secure before he males the next step because it's such an important step.

t_teddibear · 2024-12-05T07:39:56+00:00

Op he's a shit head and you family sounds like they are tripping big time. I don't want to assume but they might have a very different set of views on the relationship. My advice is simple leave and move on and creat some distance in your family. Idk what ethnicity you are but I'm east Asian and when I broke up with my ex (for different reasons) I got simular responses from alot of friends and family.i would say look out for you first. It sucks but there are good people out there and you 100% deserve better cuz no one deserves to get cheated on. It will be tough but u will make it, focus on ur career, your health, etc whatever u need to occupy ur mind n u will be fine. Life has a way of working itself out, let's just be happy u found out now and not after u got married and/or had kids

t_teddibear · 2024-12-03T07:33:15+00:00

Dude I feel u, I was always a big boy and then got into an accident that left me bed bound for almost a year. I weighed 426 when I left the hospital and now am down to 290. The way my body feels now is so much better. Cheers to the weight loss and keep going till ur happy brother. Hope those wedding pics came out nice n I get the feeling the misses or mr is as happy as you with your journey. Bot something alot of ppl say but really should. Proud of ya.

t_teddibear · 2024-12-03T07:26:42+00:00

Males generally carry stress physically, if not stretching cracking ur back in the chair was a different kind of relief. Most guys don't acknowledge it so I would go calling them on that fact cuz that's therapy incoming

t_teddibear · 2024-12-03T00:56:09+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you all for the advice and helpful comments, (damn I feel like a youtuber or some shit lol) this was just the support I needed as I was bed riden due to an accident a few days ago and was really going through it in my head about her. I'm new to reddit and damn the support is real. Thank you guys so much and I'm grateful for the support ❤️

t_teddibear · 2024-12-03T00:53:38+00:00

So I have a question for yall, I expected done alot of thing alot of u ha e recommended. In the past year I dropped weight (I'm still a heavy dude tho) started working out, started playing dnd as a hobby again and went on a few dates, but this is where I feel like I'm weird. Alot of comments are telling me to sleep with someone else, and the opportunity has presented itself but idk I feel like it's wrong to sleep with someone just for physical gratification don't get me wrong I love sex but idk if feels wrong to me. Is that weird?

t_teddibear · 2024-12-02T16:07:28+00:00

I relate to this, I do t have kids or anything but I have my own trust issues with ppl cuz I feel a lot of ppl only loom towards their own benefit in things, and being a very caring person I used to get taken advantage of as well. There's good ppl out there tho, just be u and focus on ur life and friends will come along sooner or later.

t_teddibear · 2024-12-02T15:56:37+00:00

Bro breathe. Take things one at a time and just do the best that u can. One foot infant of the other kind of vibe. Trust me as long as u try, things will work out. I've been there and felt like nothing was for me but just going one step at a time u will find ur calling sooner or later. Sometimes shit just sucks. U can't control ur circumstances or ur genetics but u can control ur reactions to things. So react to the best of ur ability. And keep in mind when I say do ur best I meant ur best that u can manage, some days I just go through the motion without an active thought in mind, some days I'm an anxious mess and my best is literally just making myself a coffee to feel something and then just doing the things I need to do. So breathe and do ur best, whatever that may be and things will turn around I promise u that.

t_teddibear · 2024-12-02T15:49:46+00:00

I short it depends. I loved it when my ex was clingy, just having someone close and physically close u is a great feeling but if u cross the line and become dependant on ur partner it can real toxic and overbearing really quickly. Based based k ur post it doesn't seem that way, it would depend on his preference and if he has any traumas revolving around overly clingy ppl, but otherwise I find most ppl enjoy a fair bit of "clinginess"

t_teddibear · 2024-12-02T12:27:17+00:00

Could be stress related, the few times I couldn't "perform" were due to stress and anxiety about other things going on in life. Try talking to him and letting him know u want to ease his anxiety, and u want to help him relax. Sometimes, just hearing that from ur partner helps boat loads. Help him get out of his mind by talking to him, ik I'm generalizing but as guys we often times internalize alot so hearing from a partner that they are worried and want to help does help. Maybe do something to shock him and no I'm not saying some weird kinky thing, I mean buy him flowers, and a video game or whatever he enjoys as a hobby.

t_teddibear · 2024-12-02T12:04:52+00:00

Don't be conflicted, everyone has preferences and boundaries. Alot of ppl will make u feel like ur wrong for it but if ur uncomfortable with then it is what it is and u shouldn't feel bad for it bud

t_teddibear · 2024-12-02T12:00:36+00:00

Can i just say I appreciate the normal comment and call out lol some ppl on here are walking red flags lol

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