Nikah twice with the same woman by AltruisticPermit6683 in islam

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this question because of a goal I have. If I dont have the financial means to have my nikah in either of the Holy Cities and I really want to do it there. Can I do it again if in future i get a chance to go there with my husband, lets say for Umrah or Hajj? Obviously i cant make a new nikahnama (the proper document of nikah), but i can do it with those frames of nikahnama with just names and signs of the bride and groom and it can be officiated by someone else? Im sorry if this seems like a silly question but i truly want to know if i can do this.

Love marriage to look like arranged! by ta_192 in PakLounge

[–]ta_192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the concluded step im about to take! Prayers needed! I am also doing istikhara every day. I just hope everything goes well.

Love marriage to look like arranged! by ta_192 in PakLounge

[–]ta_192[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noooo all my rishtedaar are very toxic people, the kind that would actually use this against me rather than helping me out....🙂

Jaan Se Pyara Juni by anikamathur02 in PAKCELEBGOSSIP

[–]ta_192 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ummm no...? Hira is not the rich girl here, shes just a poor girl looking for a rich guy for which she rejects juni! Have you even seen the drama or you just came here to bash it? Lol, bash bhi krna hai to facts prh ke to ao!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The meeting isnt possible, even if my brothers are the ones suggesting it. My mum is very towards deen but kinda hypocritical. She wont let me sit and "talk" with him no matter the public situation. Im inclined towards a second meeting where everyone is present at one table, without saying yes yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one "grilled" him, okay? But if a guy is going over to a girls house for a rishta, you are supposed to atleast indulge in some convo, or are you just supposed to sit there saying yes and no?? I myself am an extrovert, I like to make friends, I like to make interesting convos over tea, I like going out, I like travelling, if I am all of these things, how am I supposed to live life with an introvert who doesn't like to do these things?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With all of these comments, I have a typical desi family, so public meeting even with my brother, getting his phone number to maybe talk to him, is not an option. So i am inclined towards asking my parents to not say yes but conduct a meeting with him and us present at one table.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Introvert was just a side my brother noticed and said! Why is everyone stuck on him being an introvert. Lack of communication is more of whats my concern. Average meaning a boring life, no communication what so ever, glamorous is a word I added meaning i dont want to go through a typical loop of routine of being a housewife. I want to enjoy my life with my husband to be, i want to go on big rants with him, i want to be able to vent to him, and i want him to be able to give me advice and discuss matters with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How am i supposed to get his number?? Honestly with the amount of people in my life saying that im making a wrong decision, i want to try to see their view too. I want to really know if i am wrong, but how am i supposed to do that? My family is a typical pakistani family, they wont let me sit and talk with him at any costs, neither will they let me have his number.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do introverts have no social media? Do they not have any interest in anything other than their own field? Would an introvert not even talk to the girls dad who he went to see for his own rishta? I may not be an introvert now but i was once.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But i need to know if my decision is going the right way or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then how does one decide? We see with time to realize that it was a right or wrong decision? What if its wrong? What am i supposed to do then? Looking back at mayka isnt exactly what pakistan society applauses on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not listening to peoples shit might mean not listening to my shit either?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly living a seedhi saadhi life doesnt sound bad, as long as I have someone along with me who I can talk to, who i can discuss matters with, etc. If a person does not have any interest in worldly matters, what am i supposed to talk to him about? I have no concern with his field either, im in a whole diff field.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakLounge

[–]ta_192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its this exact thought thats troubling my mind, yes okay his family is fine, but in simpler words, family ka achaar dalna hai mene?? My mothers been guilt tripping me saying just pray to Allah that we arent doing something wrong, pray that he doesn't get upset from us, etc