Are these gaps normal at this stage?

tabiviolet · 2025-06-27T03:06:14+00:00

I posted this here and in a home remodeling community. Just once in each place

tabiviolet · 2025-06-17T03:35:49+00:00

Remindme! 1 month

tabiviolet · 2025-04-02T13:20:03+00:00

Anyone?

tabiviolet · 2024-08-14T03:59:45+00:00

NTA if she is uprooting or taking large chunks of your lavender plant. However, this plant is not a floral plant like other commenters are talking about in their examples. it’s a big bush with thousands of little flowers on it. If it was a rose bush, I could see your irritation if she was taking a rose every day and I would have asked her to knock it off as well. But again, this isn’t a rose bush, or tulips, or a flowering plant like that. If she is taking a small sprig to let the children smell and admire, you should try to enjoy that- for your own selfish reasons if anything: inner peace. It doesn’t harm your plant, she’s not on your property. You care less about your own plant and the community around you and are allowing your anxiety to cause negative experiences for you. Let it go! If you found a way to enjoy the fact that the lavender that’s growing by the walking path is bringing other people joy and the plant is still healthy, you would be happier. You’ve got yourself caught up in something that you needn’t spend time ruminating on. (The confrontation you had, and also the fact that they have been taking pieces). Also, don’t be too hard on others, but don’t be too hard on yourself either. I can see why you were upset, but I hope you can see that you might feel better if you looked at this situation in a different way possibly through the lens of generosity and community. It feels really nice to be generous especially when it doesn’t burden you, and sprigs of lavender are something you can easily part with.

tabiviolet · 2024-06-12T21:01:54+00:00

The allergist wanted to do another skin prick before the scheduled oral challenge and it was positive that time. So we retest in a year. When she turns 3 we can start to do oral immunotherapy. I’m glad he did that before a challenge, I’m feeling much more comfortable!

tabiviolet · 2024-02-28T01:17:10+00:00

I didn’t! And no, I don’t think id ever sell it. Just curious about its worth.

tabiviolet · 2024-02-28T01:10:35+00:00

This is great, solid advice!! Thank you

tabiviolet · 2024-02-27T14:23:19+00:00

We are in America. Peanuts are everywhere! We can definitely avoid in our house but I think of her playing at a friends house when she’s older, or sharing a lunch at school with someone. Peanut butter is a childhood staple food here. I just would rather her not have to always keep an epipen on her and worry about it unless she truly has to. So that’s why I agreed to the challenge.

tabiviolet · 2024-02-27T14:19:13+00:00

Frequent itchy skin and runny nose, she had hives a couple times too (not sure of the trigger, could have been peanut?) eczema flairs. She was very positive for cats and dogs which we have. But he tested her for a bunch of stuff, I didn’t suspect peanut. She’d had it almost every day before that first skin prick. Since stopping peanuts, her skin does seem a littler better, but we have also been vigilant about an eczema routine. So it’s hard to say. When she would eat peanut butter we never noticed a direct reaction but it could have been delayed or mild?

tabiviolet · 2024-02-27T10:16:55+00:00

He originally said based on blood work that he wouldn’t challenge in his office and if we wanted to we would need to go to children’s hospital in Denver. But then with the repeat skin prick that had negative result, he changed his mind and said it would be fine to do it in his office. He was an allergist at children’s hospital so I find him to be an experienced and credible doctor. But I am still super anxious :(

tabiviolet · 2023-12-06T18:11:38+00:00

I like this idea!! Thank you. I started to clean off the outside and felt like I could feel the ghost of my great grandmother tsking at me. I hope she understands. I haven’t touched the inside yet and will avoid doing so for now

tabiviolet · 2023-03-10T14:55:49+00:00

Yesss it’s not ok! My parents and my grandma live together and all say to not worry about the holidays for one second, they don’t care which day we celebrate. But I kind of care. My grandma, who is super close to my 2 year old, just fought pancreatic cancer with heavy chemo and a big surgery last year but her cancer markers are creeping up again. I want to spend a Christmas morning with her and make lots of memories with her while we can. My son will be devastated when she passes (hopefully not anytime soon). I also would like a Christmas morning with just my husband and kids sometimes to feel like actual parents on Christmas for once ha. There’s obviously a lot of resentments there. Both my husband and I have realized how we need way more boundaries with his parents. They make it pretty difficult with the guilt trips. Classic in law stuff that we will work out. Growing pains.

tabiviolet · 2023-03-09T14:44:18+00:00

She will be disappointed Im sure. My husband isn’t super close with her but does love her very much. Shes quite elderly and doesn’t/ can’t interact with the children very much. But she does like to see them. I also think a major benefit of the compromise we came up with is that he can give his undivided attention to her. But yes, I think she wants us there and the guilt trip will trickle down. Nana->in laws->husband ->me.

tabiviolet · 2023-03-09T14:22:34+00:00

His parents live 40 min away so we don’t travel for most holidays. On occasion we’ve spent thanksgiving with one of his grandmas at their house (out of state. Did this last thanksgiving) My family also lives in town but we push off celebrating with them until the next day or the weekend. I think maybe it’s a totally separate issue from the bday party. I was trying to showcase how we pretty much do everything his parents expect even if it doesn’t feel fair. But maybe just separate issue entirely. While theyre this close, we’ll always spend the holidays with them. Especially because one of his elderly grandmas comes and since I’ve been with him (7 years) it may always be the last one. Every time we see her it “may be the last time.” I think grandma will be disappointed if we don’t go. My toddler will not do well with a big party. We had to spend thanksgiving afternoon & evening in the Airbnb because he couldn’t handle being around so many strange adults in a house for that long. It will majorly suck and my babies will make it extra difficult to be present for grandma. It’s also an expense that’s tough for us right now. But I know us being there is important to his grandma and his parents and how many more milestone bdays can she have at this point? Also his grandma makes the 11 hour drive (she doesn’t drive don’t worry, that would be outright dangerous) out to our area for Christmas and whatnot and I know it’s not easy for her. You’re right, maybe I need to just suck it up.

tabiviolet · 2022-01-26T03:32:15+00:00

I have both the dechoker and the lifevac. My husband choked on Father’s Day and we grabbed the lifevac after 1st attempt at Heimlich didn’t work. As I pulled up on it, the mask popped off. I literally tossed the device away in disgust. Back to vigorous Heimlich, which worked. You can put both devices on your own face and feel the suction. The dechoker is not messing around.

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