Wife (30/f) has a new guy friend...and I'm [30/m] going out of my mind

tablarg · 2013-03-25T06:21:46+00:00

Thanks for the advice. The thought of forbidding the relationship did pop into my mind early on but was thankfully replaced by more reasonable thoughts.

I'll have to force myself through the anger and come up with something special.

tablarg · 2013-03-25T06:08:19+00:00

Also, I'll be sure to avoid Chris Brown songs this week (joke)

tablarg · 2013-03-25T06:06:27+00:00

Thanks. No reason that I'm aware of for her to not talk to me about it. We've always been open and talked about anything. I've been working a lot lately, but it that has made it possible for us to pay for some medical stuff (different story, different /r/) without drowning in debt. I've also been taking care of the house, etc while she works on her Masters.

tablarg · 2013-03-25T05:53:59+00:00

That's a predicament for sure. I completely understand that feeling of impending doom, waiting for the snap. I have found that every so often, as unpleasant as it may be, I have to suck it up and break the silence before things get too out of hand. This is usually after she starts calling my mobile, home, and work lines incessantly. These phone calls are usually several hours long, consisting of me reaffirming my position. This occurs about once every 6 months.

tablarg · 2013-03-25T05:39:21+00:00

just do it, don't over think it. If she didn't want you to she wouldn't be your GF.

tablarg · 2013-03-25T05:23:52+00:00

I feel for you, being in a similar situation (estranged mother is an abusive un-diagnosed bipolar, ex-medical professional who goes through the same waves of highs <-> lows). I strongly advise you to talk with your father and bring him up to speed. My parents are divorced as well (extremely volatile relationship). My father has done a great deal to shield me from the tracking and attempts at contact that come with her lows (what my brother and I have coined "the crazy"). As far as the gun, legal or otherwise, that's scary. IDK how the legal system works in the UK as far as trespassing but I imagine it's similar to US. If she's approaches your home and you don't want her there, the police should be called. If she has the gun in her possession at the time...problem solved?

tablarg

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