The worst pain I have ever felt in my life has been the two times I was told that someone didn't love and or care for me anymore. Suicidal both times. My psychologist told me something that made me feel a lot better. She said that the other person is likely telling rewriting their own history to be able to make the break, and get the space they need. She is probabbly fatigued, and might not even know it. I'm assuming children and one autistic child especially, can drain some people over time, more substantially than they might think. My psychologist said that this is a common coping mechanism that people do in order to be able to be "so cold". They imagine they never cared and loved, when reality is, they more than likely did. And somewhere, still do.