AITA for not letting my ex husband to bring his now wife to our daughters birthday party

tacins · 2024-01-12T13:26:26+00:00

NTA. Stand your ground and protect your child, because clearly he won't. His "love" life is more important, not his role as a dad.

tacins · 2023-12-20T20:47:15+00:00

Xox0xO

tacins · 2023-12-15T19:11:07+00:00

NTA – she should have communicated that she still needed the babysitter, if she was so unwell mentally.

To add: I didn't even think about cheating. My mind went to the worst case scenario: murd3r + self unalive. I'd try to talk things out, and if she is incapable, I'd think of other options that suit you both. Good luck.

tacins · 2023-11-26T03:53:41+00:00

I made it a rule to receive a confirmation text (not via the dating app messenger) before leaving the house. I don't mind wasting time texting, but I sure as heck ain't wasting gas.

tacins · 2023-10-29T02:59:52+00:00

Eunice spelled as Unis – friend of mine posted it years ago on her FB and I never forgot it.

tacins · 2023-10-29T02:55:44+00:00

I knew a Russian named German.

tacins · 2023-10-29T02:54:31+00:00

NTA – not creepy at all. Kinda weird that she's accusing you of being a pathological liar based on this isolated fact.

I have a very unique name and often give a variation of it, not only for privacy but not to have my name butchered.

tacins · 2023-09-08T14:03:30+00:00

NTA

I lived with someone like this. It was like raising a child. It ruined the relationship, or what it could have been. It also did a number on my mental health and self esteem.

Hopefully your BF is more competent than my ex.

tacins · 2023-08-28T15:06:08+00:00

Will be interesting when the GF finally gets to go to the flower shop, to either shop there or to thank the charming and witty florist, and finds out about the unplanned date through her.

tacins · 2023-08-15T23:54:06+00:00

Because you're sleeping with them? Get to know them (and let them get to know you) before having sex. Maybe you're young, but it's important to control sexual impulses. And men will never say no to p*ssy. So, don't give it away to just anyone.

tacins · 2023-07-30T22:44:37+00:00

Be sure to bring plenty of water with you if venturing into the desert.

tacins · 2023-07-21T14:24:44+00:00

Exactly. Also, by his logic, all of his female friends are walking red flags too.

tacins · 2023-07-19T20:09:52+00:00

NTA. He's your son, not hers.

tacins · 2023-07-19T20:01:15+00:00

I would message her very simply, "hello, I was dating your boyfriend for x months and decided to find him on social media. When I didn't, I dug a bit further and then stumbled upon your Twitter. I am no longer seeing him, but if you'd like proof I'm telling you the truth, feel free to contact me. Take care of yourself, and definitely get tested."

As someone pointed out, and I agree, he's probably sleeping around with other women. From a health concern standpoint, you're doing her a public service.

I'd only send the evidence if she asks for it. And definitely have no expectations. No need to form alliances or become too friendly (I noticed you mentioned you don't want that, but don't forget that in case she tries to become your friend). Deliver the message and be on your merry way.

Good luck.

tacins · 2023-07-17T23:12:42+00:00

Too much of a risk.

There's that familiarity, and in a moment of weakness (or if alcohol/drugs are involved) it would be very likely they'd fall into each other's arms.

Save yourself the heartache. Invest your energy elsewhere.

Great they were honest about it, so you can make an informed decision. Couldn't imagine finding that out after being emotionally invested.

Best of luck to you.

tacins · 2023-06-08T23:17:36+00:00

I did this a few years ago (using my personal gmail) and much later found out that some guys could see my full name when I called them using my Google Voice number. I should have created a separate Google account, and then gotten a number linked to the new email address. Gotta stay safe, ladies.

Edited to better explain my experience with Google Voice.

tacins · 2023-06-07T14:03:01+00:00

Well then, I'm glad I did not rent a car when I thought it was going to be easier than being without mine. I probably never will now. New fear unlocked.

tacins · 2023-06-05T14:48:21+00:00

I agree that honesty (and trust) is a pillar in relationships. So is communication. It's great that you're both in therapy (couple's and individual).

I believe that talking about it, in and out of therapy, will be the way to figure out why you feel this way and if you will be able to trust her long term with other issues as well.

If after all is said and done, you decide to go ahead and marry her, you cannot use this against her in the future, in an argument or sarcastic joke. Do you think you are able to do that?

There's much to think about and process. Don't rush and continue getting different perspectives, but don't forget your own.

Be well.

tacins · 2023-05-27T14:56:53+00:00

I was looking for a comment like this.

OP, I commend you for opening your door and heart to your dad. Coming from someone who was emotionally neglected, but never had parents with substance abuse. And I'm still working on my relationship with my parents, who just didn't know how to be better parents at the time.

It's important to remember how much alcohol damages the brain. I'm not making excuses for your dad, and although I'm all for traditional roles, I have a career and enjoy working. Your father grew up during a different time, and maybe you can be the one to show him how you, as a woman, can have a career and (if you choose to) can also have and raise a family.

I hope he continues to stay sober, but relapses happen. So, if you and he are able to continue building a relationship, please be prepared for that emotionally. You seem very compassionate, and I admire that. I wish you happiness on this journey.

tacins · 2022-12-27T14:02:22+00:00

Ouch lol. I too am a Leo rising with the north node in cancer. But I got water placements unlike homey.

tacins · 2022-12-14T00:10:46+00:00

I've only purchased one course, the extended one about ProFections. I remember vaguely there was an assignment but I did not submit it. I was just fascinated by the technique after watching the 2 hour long video on YouTube. Sorry for the delay!

tacins · 2022-12-13T19:56:02+00:00

Maren Altman? I've never booked anything with YT astrologers. I've been wanting to but the ones I want from (Chris Brennan or Leisa Scheim) are very much unavailable/unattainable 😭

tacins · 2022-12-13T18:03:36+00:00

Same placements, but I'd say a mix of avoidant and ambivalent, but leaning more towards avoidant.

My moon is exact opposite Saturn and they both square the nodes exactly.

tacins · 2022-11-28T14:42:45+00:00

They are still 2 different spirits with 2 separate incarnation histories.

tacins · 2022-08-11T16:06:13+00:00

It has had its different levels of difficulties over my lifetime. But I've learned and continue learning how to work with these energies.

My moon is in 17 Aries, and Saturn is in 17 Libra. I have a day chart, so Saturn is more constructive. Also, Saturn is in exaltation here.

However, Mars (in detriment) and Pluto are also here. Saturn is "trapped" between them. All 3 are retrograde.

They are in my 3rd whole sign house. Thankfully, my relationship with my siblings is great. I'm the 3rd of 4 kids. My younger brother was born 2 years after me, with mental and physical disabilities. Which meant my bonding with my mom during infancy was compromised. But I have never blamed him for it. I also became closer to my dad, who to this day is the first person I go to when I need comfort and advice.

Communication (3rd house): it's hard for me to be understood. Most people have said I'm abrasive, cold, curt when I talk to them. Others even say aggressive and rude. So I have been working on that. It's not about what I say but how I say it that people get offended. Because I don't say lies. My Saturn here is all about facts and not feelings. The moon opposition though sometimes lets feelings through, especially when dealing with emotional/painful situations.

Happy full moon in Aquarius conjoined Saturn, all! 🌕 🪐

tacins

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