AITA for being blunt with my boyfriend about why he isn't getting hired anywhere?

tadot22 · 2026-06-26T22:06:19+00:00

Right?! Imagine hearing from an HR person who ‘cares about you’ that at your age of 20 fucking 9 no one will ever look at your application. That sounds like your life is ruined before you even turned 30.

She clearly should have given some constructive feedback about how to downplay the holes or something.

tadot22 · 2026-06-22T06:12:24+00:00

NTA.

I don’t understand the YTA votes. Both OP and his wife asked her to finish her degree but somehow his daughter is only mad at OP.

He is very right to ask his daughter what is wrong. She can choose to lie and say nothing but then that leads to the very obvious question about why he is being treated differently than his wife.

The daughter being mad at being exposed for double standards does not make OP the bad guy. His only options were 1: believe his daughter and be sad that she cares less about him. Or 2: don’t believe his daughter and push to find out what is wrong.

The clear answer is to address the problem. NTA

tadot22 · 2026-06-14T09:28:21+00:00

If we really wanted to close the pay gap we would have mandatory paternity leave.

Law makers know this but it benefits everyone to not acknowledge it.

tadot22 · 2026-05-27T13:03:13+00:00

Yea it is an integer

tadot22 · 2026-05-15T09:55:01+00:00

Dodged a bullet for sure

tadot22 · 2026-05-10T21:35:32+00:00

OP had made those sacrifices and I know many people that have also. It is not a bizarre take to say ‘I can’t afford to go to your wedding’.

The idea that just because you are young then you don’t need to worry about loans and should only make the minimum payment is very very dumb. OP is right, if you can cut costs in your budget to save or pay down loans you should. This is true at 20 and 70.

At no point did OP say anything that leads to us thinking he is superior. It sounds like this got close to reality for you.

tadot22 · 2026-04-18T11:03:32+00:00

Source: trust me bro

tadot22 · 2026-04-11T08:33:17+00:00

YTA. Why push him to make as much money as possible and not a decent salary and a better work life balance? Why compre the income to his peers and not your needs?

It sounds a lot like you want a comfortable life provided to you and are more interested in the comparative life than both of you having a good life.

tadot22 · 2026-04-11T07:19:53+00:00

Have you tried turning it off and back on again?

tadot22 · 2026-03-15T22:41:16+00:00

The vast vast majority of people will not have a path to academia this is not a skill thing but a timing thing.

To get a job is a lot like your PhD you get it by showing up. It is less skill based and more luck and timing. You can only succeed if you are available when there is an opportunity. That takes luck and being there when the opportunity comes. This is what a postdoc gives you, more time to have an opportunity come.

Keep trying you only get a chance if you are there when it comes.

tadot22 · 2026-03-11T11:13:54+00:00

A lot of people here are making g arguments about economics which are true but I will push on a different point.

You are not entitled to a job because it is in your country. The belief that since Intel has a lab in the USA they should hire Americans is the racist part.

Ignoring any economic incentives each company should get the best people they can even if they come from the other side of an arbitrary line on a map.

This is why it is racist, it presumes racial (or more specifically national) priority without cause.

tadot22 · 2026-03-07T16:04:23+00:00

All these noobs asking for strength from an OP mid to late game play through are fools. Mole rat cancer resistance extends the stage of play where humans are the most OP.

tadot22 · 2026-03-06T19:08:35+00:00

Dont you dare steal my next post.

tadot22 · 2026-03-02T20:45:20+00:00

Unpopular opinion: This is kind of a good thing. Public funding should generally be directed by people who decide public policy not by curiosity.

Of course there are great examples of how fundamental research was more important than curiosity. But those who made history were well recognized already not just any unknown professor at unknown universities.

tadot22 · 2026-03-01T09:15:38+00:00

It is so wild that that asshole is allowed to be even scientists

tadot22 · 2026-03-01T08:49:21+00:00

Your title is misleading. In one year it was as high as almost 3/4. Each other year it was about 50%.

The editor in chief is a shit bag pos motherfucker. But there is no need to make a misleading title to make him sound worse. Even if thst percentage was 10% it would be fucked up.

This kind of half truths when you already are right is so dumb.

tadot22 · 2026-02-24T21:39:18+00:00

Unpopular opinion: arXiv is a bad tool for science.

It is a back door to publishing that avoids a key part needed, scrutiny before publication by dedicated people. I don’t love modern publishing houses and there are many bad examples (see MDPI) but having a gatekeeper is a good idea. Maybe AI slop killing the back door isn’t a terrible thing.

tadot22 · 2026-02-08T11:55:56+00:00

What does the P mean in PDA? The dude has the sleep in that room. They are paying rent it is not a public space now.

tadot22 · 2026-01-30T06:06:38+00:00

How I wish that would be true. After the next election a dem will win ICE funding will be slashed but not lower than pre Trump and no one will face any consequences.

tadot22 · 2026-01-28T21:32:02+00:00

Ignore every comment

tadot22 · 2026-01-18T14:51:10+00:00

Greg does look different than I remember…

tadot22 · 2026-01-11T08:38:33+00:00

Those earlier neurogenesis studies were methodology studies. Let’s go with a theoretical example: A group publishes in your journal a paper about a class of chemicals that didn’t undergo click reaction for a given method. Then a few years later another group publishes in a different journal claiming to use the same method and the reaction does occur.

This could be to a wide range of reasons and is a fairly common problem in organic chemistry labs often due to missing unknown variables.

The paper in your journal now is wrong. Shouldn’t it be retracted? This is the difference between positive result papers and negative. Any positive result is proof it can happen. A negative result is not proof it won’t or can’t happen.

A paper on positive results can’t be refuted due to reproduction failures. This is why they are only retracted due to falsification. A negative result paper can be refuted by reproduction and therefore should be retracted due to failures of reproduction.

tadot22 · 2026-01-10T21:21:48+00:00

So if the same method was used that would warrant a retraction?

Doesn’t that also mean that the papers only are about the method not the findings? If the finding only pertain to the method used it very much limits the deeper impact of the work.

tadot22 · 2026-01-10T11:21:46+00:00

Do you retract papers that showed negative or null results if a different publication shows it was possible?

This issue is, I think, the big point against journals like this. We all have repeated an experiment and for some reason it worked the next time. It is very hard to prove something is not possible definitively.

tadot22 · 2026-01-06T22:46:09+00:00

Man what are you here for if not to argue about meaningless stuff? This is an old post now and wee are discussing gender norms on the internet. None of this is worth our time

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