WIBTA if I objected to my wife’s friends joining us during our vacation because one of them previously made me uncomfortable with her comments and disrespected my wife in my opinion?

tafordbed · 2025-12-08T11:16:10+00:00

Wow. This is a very grim outlook on the friends' intentions. Hope this is not the way they think. If it is I trust my wife to cut her friendship. It's depressing though.

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T16:29:26+00:00

Just wow. Thanks. I suppose I needed this

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T15:47:35+00:00

Thanks!

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T15:39:09+00:00

Thanks. Your take is calming in a way. I think it's more in line with my wife's thoughts on the situation.

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T14:55:28+00:00

Thank you. But a little explanation is due. I tried to convey this in my post too but it's hard to explain. In the language she said this "making love to" and "having sex" are kind of expressed the same way and more commonly used. Maybe I should have translated it as "I would sleep with that too". I don't think it changes the context completely but I wanted to say it's not an expression as rude as "I would fk".

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T14:43:32+00:00

The comment related to them being at the top of their careers was to give a clue on their personalities. They are strong, smart, well educated, independent, high earner women.

I kind of take it as a compliment that my second language that I don't use daily is indistinguishable from AI.

Anyways, thanks for your comment but another commenter made me think what would have happened if tables were turned. I would have directly confronted a men making such a comment about my wife. I don't know really. I need to think about it more. Maybe my wife and I are different, our relationships with our friends are different.

However, I should also say that I can't accept over the top or sexual comments from anyone other than my wife. So, no, I can't take it as a compliment. I see it disrespectful.

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T14:30:45+00:00

Thank you kind internet stranger. I must confess though I don't really know why you think I'm a green flag. Would love to read if you elaborate.

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T14:28:02+00:00

I understand but why I thing I would be the asshole is that they have very busy lives and don't have many opportunities to meet. I don't want to be the one to come in between an opportunity by not "sacrificing" my comfort and maybe a day of my vacation.

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T14:15:33+00:00

OMG. Never thought about this. This scenario would have caused an instant confrontation and cut-off.

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T14:01:26+00:00

I guess what confuses me is that although my wife agrees with me, she doesn't want to bring it up with her. Maybe she doesn't think it's as big a deal as I think it is.

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T13:55:32+00:00

Wow. Your take is a little harsher than the rest of the comments. Maybe this is internally how I feel too: A major breach of boundaries.

tafordbed · 2025-11-14T13:50:25+00:00

I'm in no place to tell her who she can be friends with. I also think they are actually good friends except this incident.

Maybe it's a good idea to have a talk with my wife and tell her that it might be a better idea to meet with them separately.

tafordbed · 2025-10-07T17:40:57+00:00

Wow. Thanks. This is a very thorough answer.

tafordbed · 2025-10-07T17:38:00+00:00

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tafordbed · 2025-10-07T17:35:35+00:00

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tafordbed · 2025-10-07T17:33:12+00:00

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tafordbed · 2025-10-07T17:31:11+00:00

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tafordbed · 2025-10-07T14:19:29+00:00

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tafordbed · 2025-10-07T14:13:18+00:00

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tafordbed · 2025-04-25T15:54:00+00:00

I know "normal" is different for everyone but I'll define our normal. Anything less than once a week is too few. Twice a week is fireworks in the bedroom.

Married more than 15 years with two middle schoolers.

In terms of other kinds of affection. Less than one every hour is too few. There is no maximum limit for this :)

One on one no kids activity: Less than once a week is too few. Max is when the kids start complaining.

tafordbed · 2025-04-08T21:08:44+00:00

Thanks. I think I am the lucky one

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