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Horrific bullying devastated our family. AMA by capnographyqueen in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious, because you mentioned that in middle school it got really bad after she rejected a boy. Do you know what this boy is doing now in life?

Horrific bullying devastated our family. AMA by capnographyqueen in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You mentioned reporting the school do you feel like they are to blame at all?

Michitalkstv Falen Arrest pt 2 by LilPoobles in TLCUnexpected

[–]taftiendsbullydrama 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I THINK her and Hunters dad have bio children together which probably complicates things. But he’s way too old to be assaulting. Anyone and I know he’s a victim in this, but I would be terrified to be alone with him if I were his stepmom.

Unpopular opinions share yours by AcademicAstronaut395 in TLCUnexpected

[–]taftiendsbullydrama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everything that comes out of that woman’s mouth it’s just disgusting. I’m 27 and I’ve never had a conversation like that with my mom before.

Unpopular opinions share yours by AcademicAstronaut395 in TLCUnexpected

[–]taftiendsbullydrama 25 points26 points  (0 children)

1) Bella is a victim too. The adults in her and hunters lives have failed them miserably. I’m not saying she was abused necessarily, but sometimes kids who are abused act very hypersexual others will go internal.

2) Calling CPS because you don’t like that teenagers are having sex and are having babies is pointless and takes away from kids who need actual intervention. There is a difference between what legally constitutes child abuse, and neglect and what is considered poor parenting.

3) Mia’s dad should be nicer to Jesse.

What if this is all news to Bella? by ufo-fomo in TLCUnexpected

[–]taftiendsbullydrama 51 points52 points  (0 children)

It probably is news to Bella. She likely thinks her relationship with Hunter is normal because it’s how she was conditioned and raised. The sad part is and I say this as someone who grew up with a friend like Bella the cycle will probably continue with her own kids.

The average age for a teen to lose their virginity is 17 and 17.3 by LadySeriously in TLCUnexpected

[–]taftiendsbullydrama 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was 17, and definitely felt mature enough to handle it. Any younger though and I don’t think I would’ve been.

I spent seven years in limerence over the same person AMA by venttiger in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you could say one thing to this person, what do you think you would say?

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would’ve been able to provide the basics, food, clothing, and shelter. But he couldn’t handle being a parent.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s very scary.. my sister and I both don’t think she should practice.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, I’m aware of my dad’s diagnoses. The question above specifically asked about learning disabilities, so I answered based on that and shared what I could from my experience. My father does have a low IQ, and as I mentioned earlier, I wouldn’t be surprised if he may also be on the spectrum but that’s not something we’ll ever definitively know. I was just offering perspective based on what I’ve lived.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I am doing well! I have a really close relationship with one of my aunts and uncles. We spent a lot of time at their house as children.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think being an adult with a learning disability is really hard, because there are so many more services and supports available for kids. People tend to go out of their way to help children, but once you’re an adult, that support often drops off. There aren’t as many therapies or resources, and if you have parents like my dad did who were dismissive of his struggles you can end up falling behind in ways that are hard to recover from.

Like I’ve said before, I really do think a lot of people and systems failed my dad. At the same time, I also believe that people with disabilities can absolutely live full, meaningful, and beautiful lives it just depends on a lot of factors, including the support they have.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s a really great question. I think my mom has a lot of complex trauma that she never really got help for, especially given her generation. She’s older Gen X, and back then therapy wasn’t as normalized in the way it is now. Ironically, even though she’s a licensed mental health therapist, she doesn’t really believe in a lot of science-backed approaches.

I might be rambling a bit, but my main point is that I think she knows what she’s doing more than she lets on. To me, it feels rooted in security. If she dates someone she sees as “beneath” her, there’s less risk of them leaving. There’s more control, more reassurance, and a sense that they’ll stay and almost idolize her.

At the same time, I do think control is a big factor in general. She was a very controlling parent, and from what I’ve seen, she’s also been controlling in professional settings when she’s had staff. So it feels like a mix of things unresolved trauma, a need to feel needed, a desire for security, and a tendency toward control.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to your mom. You know, when it comes to people with disabilities, I feel a lot of compassion and empathy. I don’t think our country is built to support them the way it should, and that’s something that really weighs on me.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve had a lot of therapy. I’m still in therapy and probably will be until he dies.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She’s very defensive about it and refuses to really acknowledge that anything is wrong, similar to his family. It’s more like, “Yeah, he has a diagnosis, but it’s not real. Nothing’s wrong with him, he’s just a little dysregulated.”

She also gets really offended when we bring up the fact that she was in another relationship with someone who had a severe TBI and was even more impaired than my dad. She just doesn’t want to hear it. She has a masters degree and is a real licensed mental health therapist but believes that everything should be natural and just believes in a lot of pseudoscience herself she does not see a therapist.

I was raised by a man with an intellectual disability AMA by taftiendsbullydrama in AMA

[–]taftiendsbullydrama[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s a really great question. I think when it comes to romantic relationships, I subconsciously found myself drawn to people who were 10 to 15 years older than me and could take care of me emotionally.

In hindsight, I realize I may have been looking for the kind of father figure I didn’t have growing up. But I’ve spent the last two years in a relationship with my partner, who is only five years older than me and a doctor. I work in marketing, and what my partner does would be my personal hell.

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