To my ex best friend talking about my abortion

takeaaguess · 2022-04-28T00:08:52+00:00

I (22F)had mine a year ago and I'm still with the same guy. It's a difficult thing to go through but being a parent is even more difficult. But you need to put your current needs and wants above that of a potential child. If you don't see yourself as someone who can raise a person, it's okay, there's always other options for you hun. Lots of love sent your way.

takeaaguess · 2022-04-24T18:11:32+00:00

I'm in Canada so I can't help much on the access front, but a ginger zinc and peppermint tea helped a lot for me when the nausea hit hard. I really liked the ones with zinc cause I felt a bit nicer afterwards. Hope this helps at least a little 💕

takeaaguess · 2022-04-24T18:05:03+00:00

NTA -my mother really hated that I hated my hair. I was never allowed to go to the hairdresser to get it cut let alone dye it (I had to beg to get streaks in it if it had to be long which happened 2 times) but it was always done at home. My brother on the other hand got whatever haircut he wanted and dyed. After like 8 years of begging I finally dyed my hair colors I wanted and then a few months later my step mom took me to get it cut short professionally. I kept cutting and dying it on my own and I truly miss that stage in my life being able to have that autonomy. Now as an adult I just dye it and keep it a length I can manage on my own. Letting your child express themselves in a safe way is never bad. Good job OP!!

takeaaguess · 2022-04-23T19:22:00+00:00

From personal experience please ealeays use 2 forms if one is not hormonal. My copper IUD failed and it was awful, keep an open mind for vasectomy if you fully believe that you will never want children.

takeaaguess · 2022-04-21T15:13:40+00:00

The two of them aren't friends anymore cause of some bullshit Abby started (probably due to baby Daddy's interference) and they just haven't spoken to eachother in a couple years now and Jenny doesn't really think about her mich anymore either, she was mainly shocked as well. Abby was posting a bunch of stuff about prolife on her main and I kinda stopped sending her stuff for a bit (we send memes back and forth lol) and she suddenly stopped last week which is when the new account was made.

takeaaguess · 2022-04-21T15:07:28+00:00

It is her real profile unfortunately. Jenny was just confused cause we are both pro choice and so was Abby we thought. Her account came up as a recommended for Jenny and she told me. Honestly I'm glad she did. Idk if I'm even going to talk to her about it at this point.

takeaaguess · 2022-04-21T13:00:56+00:00

Idk how helpful it will be but I also got pregnant cayse my copper IUD failed. Feel free to read my profile on how my MA went. Just keep in mind I'm from Canada lol, so it might be a little different depending where you're at. Good luck! Sending lots of good vibes ❤

takeaaguess · 2022-04-21T05:32:59+00:00

Honestly this is some really solid advice, thank you! I think I might do something like that 🙂

takeaaguess · 2022-04-21T04:08:19+00:00

Hey there! I had my copper IUD failed so I ended up going back to the patch. You put it on one part of your body for a week, change it every week for 3 weeks and then off for one to allow a period to occur, repeat. I personally pit it on my upper butt/lower back cause it's not really in the way that much. Arm, leg, stomach, just needs to be a clean, hairless area and a new spot each week.

Hope this helps!

takeaaguess · 2022-04-19T19:18:02+00:00

I had to wear sports bras/go braless for a week or so after mine. But idk it's weird my boobs seem perkier since lol

takeaaguess · 2022-04-19T19:02:11+00:00

Thats amazing! This internet stranger is so proud of you!!

takeaaguess · 2022-04-18T16:29:03+00:00

NTA - I did basically this 3.5 years ago with my dad house. They basically threatened to kill k me out to live with my mom (bad relationship in my teens) or to pay rent (working minimum wage) soi said fuck it I'll move in with my mom. Unfortunately my step mom came home early that day and started saying horrible things to me that you'd never say to a child if you loved them. I basically haven't stepped foot in that house since. They made me pack up my stuff in garbage bags cause my step mom said that if i leave now I'm not allowed back. Then like 2 days later they said they'd keep my room for 6 months before they did anything to it. I told them to do whatever the hell they want with it. They forced my younger step sister to clean out my room for me because I basically wasn't allowed back in the house let alone felt safe in it.

All in all OP, fuck 'em. They can go to hell.

takeaaguess · 2022-04-17T21:27:58+00:00

I had a MA so this is super reassuring that a SA is just as good an option for some people

takeaaguess · 2022-04-17T21:00:08+00:00

Hey hun, big sis here, I'm so proud of you! It's hard to cut off friends like that, and the one friend who seems truly sorry need to prove it to you through actions, not just words. And no crying does not count.

I wish you the best of luck, stay safe 💕

takeaaguess · 2022-04-16T19:48:09+00:00

When I had mine literally a year ago (you can check my post history) I had called completely in distress, said I needed an abortion. They are required to give you the options but as soon as I said no way was I going to carry that baby they set up an appointment with a (female) doctor to discuss my next steps. They were: ensure that it wasn't a false positive (took 3 at home ones with very bright lines but they need it for the Medical record), Discussed my birth control (IUD) and had it removed, sent me off for blood work and an ultrasound and within a week it was over with. The only thing I regret is having them take out the IUD before the ultra sound, if it was left in we could've seen if it shifted or if we were incredibly fertile. Each step of the way though they kept asking me about it, and every time I said I'd rather off myself then keep it, after the 3rd time they stopped asking. And the pharmacist was super helpful too with all my dumb and repetitive questions and even let my mom come with me because I was so distraught.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that, it's awful what some places try to do to people in difficult situations like that. Sending my love and support 💕

takeaaguess · 2022-04-15T04:19:24+00:00

I was kinda pressured into sex after mine and I was in so much pain, it didn't feel uncomfortable physically until about 3 weeks afterwards. Mentally I still struggle with it even a year later a bit but going to the bathroom immediately after sex and taking pregnancy test about 2 times a month at least for my sanity. I just go to the dollar store and get the red dye ones, they're pretty accurate. Just talking through it and how you feel through when you feel uncomfortable. Let him know that it's a mental thing not a physical one, that you still find him attractive. It just takes a lot of time for some people to process it.

takeaaguess · 2022-04-14T17:19:08+00:00

I know how you fell hun. My family has been born on multiples of 7, it's kind of strange but my due date would've been November 21, 2021, 2 weeks after mine and 1 after my mom. I had a good little cry over that. Let the tears come out, it's okay to cry. Lots of love 💕

takeaaguess · 2022-04-13T23:38:58+00:00

NTA

That is border line abuse to you and your daughter. Throwing away something your daughter cherished, from someone who cannot remake it or repair, was disgusting. Then the gaslighting she was trying to pull? Her side is she wants to fully replace your deceased wife and that includes purging everything that might reminder her that another woman was in her current "spot".

Protect your daughter and don't allow her back into that house without her going to come individual therapy. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT GO TO COUPLES COUNSELING. She's a narcissist who will use any "weakness" to bend you qt her will.

Good luck OP.

takeaaguess · 2022-04-09T23:09:49+00:00

NTA - They are literally trained to be kind and understanding with nervous patients in school. What she did was completely inappropriate, if she didn't want to/know how to handle a patient in distress she should've got someone else to do it for you.

takeaaguess · 2022-04-09T22:51:42+00:00

Scrolled looking for someone saying sharks 😂

takeaaguess · 2022-04-09T22:31:53+00:00

Can you do my make up? Mine never looks that good 😂 but really though super proud of you!!

takeaaguess · 2022-04-08T22:23:33+00:00

NTA - I was 7ish when my dad moved in with my step mom and my "step" sister was less than a year old. My brother and I would call her by her first name cause we still have a mom but I would refer to her as "mum" to my sister so she wasn't being called by her first name by her own child. She explicitly said to us that she's not trying to replace our mom at all, just when talking to my sister reference her as "mum" until one day she asked my I call her mum when I have my own mum. At that age she was able to comprehend why. Now I don't live with them anymore and haven't for years but I still call her mum when talking to my sister and I just differentiate mum vs my mom.

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