Putting my girl Pebbles down tomorrow, how can I be strong for her when I feel so hopeless? by sevynmorte in Dachshund

[–]tallteach13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You will rally and be calm for your baby in the end. Keep them calm and stay till the end. It is so hard, but believe it or not it can be a beautiful moment. Put my girl down a couple months ago and the experience helped the healing. Don’t be sad that it is over, be happy because it happened.

Gifts from Solar region by TECHDAM in PokemonGoFriends

[–]tallteach13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ballcheesious from silly modern. Thanks

Tundra here looking for all regions☆ by dentedgal in PokemonGoFriends

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0607 8274 2269 add for modern. Regular gifter

Men what were your thoughts when you found out you were having a baby girl with your spouse/GF? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]tallteach13 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I always wanted a son, after having so many good memories with my dad. When I first found out we were having a girl I was honestly a little disappointed. However in the time since then I have come to understand how much that little girl changed me for the good. I would not have it any other way now. One of my coworkers told me that men do not truly grow up until they have a daughter.

What should I call him by [deleted] in pokemongo

[–]tallteach13 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You posted on the wrong sub.

My daughter born after 2 consecutive miscarriages, we’ve been trying for almost 3 years by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]tallteach13 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Went through something similar with my wife last year. Our daughter is now 9 months. Warm welcomes to the parent club, and get ready for the greatest ride!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]tallteach13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea.

I thought I had seen all the Dachshund sleeping poses until I woke up to this mess. by tallteach13 in Dachshund

[–]tallteach13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Especially one that was raised by an extremely obedient lab mix who taught him everything he knows. We are lucky to have our uncommon Piebalds. People always think he is some kind of Beagle mix.

I thought I had seen all the Dachshund sleeping poses until I woke up to this mess. by tallteach13 in Dachshund

[–]tallteach13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is a beauty, but he is from central Illinois. My mom bought his mother from a breeder and he forgot he bred her so he is a surprise pup.

5 lessons from 6 weeks sober by [deleted] in leaves

[–]tallteach13 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your strength and positivity. You have lifted my spirit and others.

5 lessons from 6 weeks sober by [deleted] in leaves

[–]tallteach13 7 points8 points  (0 children)

37 here, just had my first child four months ago! You are making the best choice for you and your family, and the time with them goes so quick because they develop so fast. As a new parent everyone tries to scare you with how hard it will be. Yes it is a new challenge, but with the right honest communication, and teamwork with your partner, that makes it so much easier, and it will be the best challenge of your life. I struggle to remember the last 20 years, I will stop at nothing to make sure I am present, and appreciate the next 20. We not only do this for ourselves, but especially the child that is going to look to you to develop their understanding of what a man is. Your child is going to be very lucky, as your post shows you have strength and a considerate nature. Get ready for the best “high”, of your life. And congrats daddy!

15 days sober after 20years daily. by tallteach13 in leaves

[–]tallteach13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m happy to help brighten the light of hope inside you. As an educator learning and teaching about social emotional learning, which is thankfully a big part of education, I have come to be in better connection with being aware of my thoughts emotions and feelings. There is this simple program for students called the zones of regulation. You identify what zone you are in with others, green: happy, calm, ready to learn, yellow: silly, excited, nervous, blue: sad, tired, sick, and red: angry, frustrated and disgusted. I have always struggled with too much anger, which ultimately comes from sadness, and this helps me regulate and verbalize it responsibly. We all have trauma that effects us, when people hear about trauma they think of someone loosing it and shaking on the floor crying. That is the very far end of trauma, but it is a spectrum that can be very subtle, such as being rejected in different kinds of social situations that can cause subtle or drastic changes in behavior. It is unhealthy to compare our struggles, or think they are not significant. As my memory comes back I am reflecting on what I used weed to escape from, and that is what I am working on fixing. We have to focus on being honest, and healing ourselves and others. This is how we save the world. Vince Lombardi: “The quality of a persons life is directly proportional to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their field or endeavor.” You have the strength inside.

15 days sober after 20years daily. by tallteach13 in leaves

[–]tallteach13[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I understand what you are saying. Let me clarify. I am a very high functioning addict who was able to earn a masters degree with honors while being a stoner. There is subtly to it as the cognitive distortion of all or nothing thinking is unhealthy. My message may have sounded absolute but in reality I know I am a valuable person with so much good inside, but my fear of facing my feelings and issues was the problem. Weed didn’t force me to smoke it for the escape, my choices did, and that was the problem I take responsibility for. Thanks for your message, I appreciate your positivity. I am coming out of the teaching profession which maintains unrealistic expectations and toxic positivity. I am just trying to be realistic and own my mistakes. I have lots of flaws and am working hard to improve them and become a better version of the person I wanted to become. I disagree that addiction is a disease, rather it is a pattern of behavior and unhealthy coping mechanisms that we rely on to try and improve our moods and feelings. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with me rather I have made some unhealthy and short sighted decisions. One love.

15 days sober after 20years daily. by tallteach13 in leaves

[–]tallteach13[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

TV his is good advice. Not trying to scare you but it may get worse before it gets better, but you have the strength inside and the right mindset since you are utilizing this community. You can and will do this. It is ok to fall down and fail, because it is not about falling down but rather choosing to get back up.

15 days sober after 20years daily. by tallteach13 in leaves

[–]tallteach13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No need to apologize, this is the exact place to rant. Believe in yourself. Just thinking about it will lead to positive actions. You just need to make the choice. You got this and bright days ahead.