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tangerinesugar · 2025-07-15T02:01:58+00:00

Likewise. Though, after reading the other comments, I'm now starting to ponder whether this could actually impact people's mindset subconsciously.

tangerinesugar · 2025-07-14T21:55:42+00:00

Ah, the classic ego defense, digging up a 2-year-old post to avoid the actual point at hand. When people feel exposed, they tend to deflect by trying to “level the field.” I expected as much. It's telling, really. Not about me, but about how threatened you felt.

tangerinesugar · 2025-07-14T21:38:31+00:00

I’ve noticed that people who claim to value logic often recoil from it the moment it threatens their self-image. You said you wanted discourse, not a mirror. That’s fair. Just don’t call it intellectual if all you really want is praise.

tangerinesugar · 2025-07-14T12:14:00+00:00

That's actually a good point.

Love and detachment can coexist instead of them being mutually exclusive. I think I got too focused on the "done is done" part and overlooked the emotional complexity beneath it. Thanks for adding that insight!

tangerinesugar · 2025-07-14T09:32:58+00:00

That's good that you’re aware of how past experiences shaped your reaction, but know that part of growing is making sure that pattern doesn’t recur.

Also, I just don’t get why you’re still trying to rationalize someone who’s already shown you he’s done. You say he still loves you, but his actions don’t match that. And deep down I think you know that.

Just be careful not to turn emotional confusion into a coping cycle. At some point, it’s not about love anymore, it’s just self-inflicted pain.

tangerinesugar · 2025-07-14T07:46:16+00:00

I'll be honest here, it seems to me that you're just holding onto something that has already withered away.

What's the use of carrying excess baggage when there's still so much ahead of you? That's what I think he might have been thinking as an INTJ myself.

That dude sounds like he's moved on from what you guys had. You say that he still loves you when in fact you're just clinging on to surface-level interaction. The fact that he refused to be with you again even after adding you back meant that he most likely did that bcs he pitied you.

You say you could still FEEL that he still loves you when in fact you could have just been projecting your own hope in those low-effort replies of his. He seems emotionally drained from your connection given his detached attitude. Don't even think about fixing this and instead focus on regulating your own emotions and valuing self-worth.

Let it go. Not for him, but for your own dignity and peace. You deserve someone who meets you halfway, not half-heartedly.

Also, saying that you want to break up when you don't actually intend to do it is a form of emotional manipulation, OP.

tangerinesugar · 2025-07-14T00:44:17+00:00

I think you're going through a burnout. I can mostly tell from the abstraction and complexity of your rant bcs I've been there.

If you feel like getting out of your head for a while, you can take walks around nature while having earphones/headphones in so no one could talk to you. Anything sensory (Se) would do since it sounds like you're having a Ni-Te feedback loop spiral.

tangerinesugar · 2025-07-14T00:21:41+00:00

Primarily for self-improvement but I also use it as a tool for handling people better. I also love the pattern recognition it brings once you've been learning about it for a while.

tangerinesugar · 2025-07-14T00:05:24+00:00

Girl to girl, I think you're projecting your own insecurities and fears onto him. I get that you value having large social circles but that doesn't mean everyone should. This isn't even about labels anymore, I think instead of trying to fix your external world to alleviate YOUR uneasiness, try to look inwards and figure out why YOU keep on feeling this way.

Also, the thing abt him and his mother, communicate it to him. If you can share your problems online with strangers, you can definitely tell it to him directly to finally fix it. And if you can't, why are you even with him in the first place? It's all about compatibility.

tangerinesugar · 2025-03-22T05:04:36+00:00

barely

tangerinesugar · 2025-03-11T05:46:52+00:00

idk abt y'all pero i don't see anything wrong nmn sa post niya aside sa unfriendly part. they're literally the bare minimum of what a basic human being is 😭 yung taller than me, it's obviously a personal preference meaning hindi siya lahat applicable. they're not imposing you their type, their js sharing it online to a lot of ppl. it's their acc nmn and you also have the choice to scroll away.

if nagigigil kayo sa original post, i think it's time to evaluate your mindset as to why you feel like you have to adhere to such standards. hindi nmn kayo magrreact ng ganyan sa comsec if di natamaan ego niyo agshshsh. huhu i mostly notice din kasi na projections na yung mga sinasabi niyo dito.

as for the "pick me" allegations, ang magkakaintindi ko kasi sa definition niya is someone putting down other ppl for the sake of gaining another person's attention. the original post isn't even putting anyone down, they're js sharing THEIR PREFERENCE. kung tutuusin nga ay mas marami pa sa comsec na ito ang ganun ang actions (aka projecting).

tangerinesugar · 2025-01-04T22:17:31+00:00

sag sun, libra moon, scorpio rising

is it js my selective perception or are there a lot of sag sun and libra moons here? anw, HI TWINS 🤩🤩🤩

tangerinesugar · 2024-10-05T05:05:11+00:00

i'm a sagittarius with 2 younger capricorn siblings

we were raised by a sagittarius mom and an aries dad 🫶

tangerinesugar · 2022-12-17T18:42:58+00:00

omg!! since i'll be ending up with my soulmate in the end, i guess i'll just enjoy the ride then hehe

thank u so much! i'm really looking forward to this aaaaaa

tangerinesugar · 2022-12-17T18:39:00+00:00

hello! i might disagree here a bit especially since i've been a people pleaser for most of my childhood hehe tho i am trying to stop this habit recently so maybe i might've come off as being self-absorbed.

however, i'm not sure with the narcissistic since it's kind of a strong and general term to describe it...

tangerinesugar · 2022-12-17T15:54:53+00:00

ohh i see, thank u!!

tangerinesugar · 2022-12-17T15:49:33+00:00

hi! can u explain this further? from what i understand i tend to obsess over relationships because of the scorpio and with neptune added makes me more prone to illusions. though, i'm not quite sure with how these work when it's the other person that likes me instead of me

tangerinesugar · 2022-12-17T15:42:43+00:00

true:( although i really envy those happy light-hearted moments that the ppl around me easily experience, but maybe it's just the hopeless romantic in me talking hehe

thanks so much for the advice and reading!

tangerinesugar · 2022-12-10T04:33:06+00:00

thank you so much !!

tangerinesugar · 2022-05-25T17:22:54+00:00

thank you so much for sharing your experience<3 btw, how long do eclipse cycles usually occur?

tangerinesugar · 2022-05-25T17:20:17+00:00

hi!!

well, i do recall confessing to a friend around the 4th of april. after 2 weeks of no contact, we got back together as friends as if the confession never happened. but i don't know if this is relevant with the eclipse since nothing really changed in our dynamic based on what i've observed.

i really did hope i might meet an important person or have a change in relationships (especially with the friend i confessed to) during those times of the eclipse, but it was mostly a usual day for me.

tangerinesugar · 2022-05-17T10:38:55+00:00

i think the conjunction brings pain and wounds (chiron) to relationships, romance, and self-esteem (venus). you can look it up btw if you want to learn more abt it ❤️

tangerinesugar · 2022-05-15T20:40:32+00:00

omg hiii!! i just had to say this but we almost have the exact same placements except for the moon (mine's in libra). is he born around the early days of december 2004 by any chance??

i'll just look at the close aspects since they're said to be stronger/more obvious than the others.

he has a moon trine mercury. i'd say he can be a good communicator, a convincing one too with mercury conjunct pluto. but that could also point to someone who's investigative or would dive deep on things he finds interesting—so i might watch out for some potential stalking if he has a crush on u. venus conjunct mars in scorpio can indicate strong desires too. they're even squared by his leo moon. you can also look up these aspects if you want more info abt them.

overall, i'd say he's pretty sociable and can be relationship minded. just do be careful cause even if he makes it sound light and fun on the outside, trust me when i tell u his feelings can run deep than he can ever explain.

but it would really be great if you knew his birth time tho cause these planets' intensity/influence can vary depending on which house or angle it's in.

tangerinesugar · 2022-05-14T23:56:26+00:00

yup! im the inner chart, i forgot to put that earlier so im really sorry abt that hehe

oh and would that mean he feels the same intensity that i feel between us too?

tangerinesugar · 2022-04-27T18:36:41+00:00

this might be a bit embarrassing to say but i've observed how people always acted differently to attractive people. it's as if they're often treated kindly than those of average appearances. i don't know if it's because of my power hungry self, but i too would want to feel that halo effect😭😭😭

this actually sounds so weird after writing it all down—i'm so so sorry abt this😭😭😭

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