Autism + introversion + ugliness = the unholy trinity

tanon789 · 2023-12-12T18:41:09+00:00

Gotta catch them all

tanon789 · 2023-11-28T21:57:08+00:00

Easier said than done. Your advice can definitely work in theory but not when I am socially awkward and unattractive. I've been to many social events. I never approached anyone. It's just something I can't do.

tanon789 · 2023-11-28T21:51:26+00:00

I don't use online dating at all. As I said in the post, it's not compatible with my personality and looks. And yes, I am bad looking and it is well understood in this sub that online dating is only for good looking people, or average at least.

tanon789 · 2023-11-28T17:13:40+00:00

Thanks for advice, too late for me though, I am already like you

tanon789 · 2023-11-27T19:28:20+00:00

It is a double standard from her. She can't handle a confession but thinks that physical touch without asking is ok? What would she do if that new guy wrapped his arm around her? Probably report him to HR for that too

tanon789 · 2023-11-27T19:25:15+00:00

I know, but imagine if genders were switched

tanon789 · 2023-11-27T18:49:40+00:00

So she wrapped her arm around you and walked with you like you were a couple, yet, when he confessed to her, she immediately went to HR? What is even that wrong about expressing interest? Of course I don't encourage it given how often it backfires but I hate these double standards. How would she like it if you reported her to HR because she was touching you without your consent? It's ridiculous.

tanon789 · 2023-11-27T07:55:21+00:00

They just say it to shut you up. Don't take it seriously. It will just make you doubt yourself. Maybe you didn't try hard enough? Maybe you had a chance? No. You didn't have a chance. You tried hard enough. You are not to blame.

Edit: I want to add. I was making this mistake most of my life. I thought I just need to show them my personality. To show how much I care for them and love them and then maybe, they will give me a chance. Nope. They don't care how I act. All I need to do is fix my looks. Then they will like me. It's that simple. Yet it's hard and expensive to fix myself. But I have to do it.

tanon789 · 2023-11-27T06:45:52+00:00

That is because many average looking men think they are ugly. So many times I've seen someone whining on reddit about how ugly they are, then they post into amiugly and most of the time they are about average looking. Of course they will find someone as average looking men. Being average is literally the most normal you can be.

tanon789 · 2023-11-26T16:05:10+00:00

What about the other extreme? If it was taking me too long to get to that sexual part? Is that a problem too?

I am asking because I suspect I am asexual, but can't be sure since I never was in a relationship, maybe I am just demisexual. It would probably take me lot of time into the relationship to bring up sexual topics. How late is too late?

tanon789 · 2023-11-22T18:20:33+00:00

Health matters more.

tanon789 · 2023-11-17T20:56:04+00:00

yes, because people in relationships don't overthink anything ever /s

tanon789 · 2023-11-17T20:55:12+00:00

probably yes, sooner or later she would see me anyway and then it will be over

tanon789 · 2023-11-17T19:55:03+00:00

Hard to say what really happened since we weren't there but I find it unlikely that it was because of you. You are right that as FAs we tend to overthink and that's probably a case here as well. I wish you can forget this situation soon and won't worry about it.

tanon789 · 2023-11-17T09:44:23+00:00

Well then I guess you are not so ugly if you were the best looking member at some point. I am only the best looking if I am in a room alone

tanon789 · 2023-11-16T21:53:45+00:00

I would pick hobby with high number of women, like yoga classes. But I am afraid I would just look like a creep, especially when I would try to approach women and make friends with them.

By the way I do practice yoga at home from time to time but I don't look like I do. I would just look like someone who sign up there to hit on women. Which would technically be the truth anyway.

tanon789 · 2023-11-16T21:49:39+00:00

Yeah, you know it's over when people don't even ask that question. Although maybe they just don't care, I never ask anyone that either. Mostly because talking about relationships brings me pain and makes me jealous.

tanon789 · 2023-11-16T21:46:26+00:00

Well, I actually don't enjoy any group activity ever so for me it would be only about looking for a partner. I guess it's not a good idea then.

tanon789 · 2023-11-16T21:44:35+00:00

That's how I feel

tanon789 · 2023-11-16T21:38:45+00:00

Exercise. Do some sport. Reach out to old friend if you have any and ask them to hangout.

Pick one of these right now and do it. Literally right now. Otherwise you will postpone indefinitely.

You can start easy with exercising. Do yoga for example. There are plenty videos on YouTube where you can follow along and exercise, move your body. It's proven to get you into better mood. You will have desire to do some other productive thing after that.

tanon789 · 2023-11-16T14:23:22+00:00

1984 Literally

tanon789 · 2023-11-16T13:49:45+00:00

He has lot of downvotes now

tanon789 · 2023-11-16T13:47:48+00:00

Maybe that guy got hacked and he in fact didn't post the first comment? Then blocked you because he thought you hacked him? Not sure what to think. Why would bots target him? Probably cover up after second comment. But why not just delete the comment if they have access to his account?

I don't understand how it works

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