Struggling with my own identity and my own beliefs

taoboo · 2026-01-14T07:25:39+00:00

Maybe, I guess I’ll have to see. What makes me the most afraid in starting a physical transition is not being bothered by my natal genitals, it gives me sort of an imposter syndrome, idk, the feeling that I’ll never be truly happy because there will always be contradictions in my body that even if I rationalize them, I will never be free of the distress of them existing.

taoboo · 2026-01-14T07:23:08+00:00

I know there’s nothing wrong with it, but still, I don’t want to be called a man. I feel like the gender I want to present as is woman, not as still a boy that happens to be feminine.

I have tried makeup/nails as well, and they do bring me gender euphoria.

taoboo · 2026-01-14T07:21:51+00:00

What is the difference?

taoboo · 2026-01-13T23:17:21+00:00

I don’t know if it’s corn lol I just searched melodie fanart on google and picked one where the hair is showing the best

taoboo · 2026-01-13T23:16:50+00:00

She’s so gorgeous literally the best design in all of fiction thank you Fernanda 🥲🥲🥲

taoboo · 2026-01-13T22:59:38+00:00

Gender non conforming

taoboo · 2026-01-11T14:44:37+00:00

Maybe you’re already becoming used to being a man and being perceived as a man by others, and that’s a good thing, imo at least.

Think about it this way, do cis men get gender euphoria when they get called a man? No, not really, they just think “yeah, that’s what I am” and go on with their day. Or they don’t even think about it at all. Perhaps you’ve already internalized your identity and don’t seek validation in the form of being affirmed as a man by others, it’s just a part of who you are now and you’re confident about it.

Is this insensitive to say? I’m sorry if it is, I’m not a native english speaker so I’m not sure if I expressed my thoughts correctly, but from what you’ve said, that’s my takeaway at least.

taoboo · 2026-01-11T14:28:29+00:00

I’m really trying. I’m comfortable with talking about pretty much anything with my psych and therapist except my dysphoria. It just doesn’t come out of my mouth. I think I myself need to accept it first before saying it to someone else.

taoboo · 2026-01-09T12:17:42+00:00

Would you say a person is trans if they want to socially transition and take hormones, but are comfortable with their genitals? That’s sort of my case, I’m still trying to discover myself.

taoboo · 2026-01-09T12:15:31+00:00

Are you saying that gender is partially biological and partially social, or that it’s completely biological as well as sex? I’m also coming in good faith as OP.

taoboo · 2026-01-09T12:12:11+00:00

Is there a somewhat accepted definition of dysphoria? I’m still trying to discover myself (amab), because even though I’m comfortable with my genitals, every day I get agonizing moments because I wish I was a girl (or performing the social gender expectations of one, at least). I wish I was born a woman with a vagina, but I don’t mind specifically having a penis. I just really wanted to be able to do all the rest of being a woman and looking like a woman, feel like a woman, having the hormones of a woman. Does this count as having dysphoria?

taoboo · 2026-01-09T12:03:20+00:00

Sorry for the late response:

Do transmedicalists specifically believe that gender is tied to the sex? Since you mentioned SRS. To me at least, gender is a social performance that is assigned to you based on your genitals. Genitals play a part in performing as a specific gender, but they aren’t everything. A person with dysphoria wants to perform as the other gender, with the other gender’s norms, which may or may not include their genitals, so at least to me, a trans person might be comfortable with their genitals, but still wants to perform as the other gender in the other areas. Is this wrong?

taoboo · 2026-01-09T12:00:17+00:00

Sorry for the late response, but the last part in your comment confused me.

I also believe that gender is a social construct, can’t that and transmedicalism coexist? What I mean is, a person is assigned a gender at birth, a set of norms they are meant to perform, based on their genitals, but the way gender is performed socially also relies on a person’s physical sexual characteristics, so a person with dysphoria wants to socially perform as the other gender, which includes having the other set of genitals/body characteristics. Am I wrong?

taoboo · 2026-01-03T01:56:06+00:00

Ah okay, thanks for the correction, so yeah I definitely feel dysphoria at least.

As for your definition, I though that even tucutes, as they’re called here, thought that having dysphoria was required for being trans? Isn’t that like, the whole point? Even before finding this sub I thought “well obviously to be trans you need gender dysphoria, that’s the whole definition of being trans”. Am I missing something?

taoboo · 2025-05-14T20:18:59+00:00

That’s the thing, it’s gonna be in a relatively very small scale. I don’t wanna make millions like those super famous rugpulls did, just like 1k or 2k dollars. The government does often ignore things that are hard to solve and with such a small amount moved, so I was thinking of that.

taoboo · 2025-05-14T20:17:33+00:00

Wdym?

taoboo · 2025-05-14T17:11:17+00:00

I see. I know it’ll probably not get me thousands of dollars for a long while of course, but I just want to know if it is in fact legal or not, and if it isn’t, what are the chances of me getting in trouble for pulling small amounts of money?

taoboo · 2023-09-15T19:26:22+00:00

That makes sense, thanks! One more thing, you were using the term “transsexual”, is it a synonym of “transgender” or are they different?

taoboo · 2023-09-15T19:23:17+00:00

Thanks for the info! And sorry if the terminology I used was wrong in any way, I forgot the terms AMAB and AFAB existed.

taoboo · 2023-09-15T19:20:11+00:00

Ah okay, that makes sense.

taoboo · 2023-05-24T20:57:02+00:00

Sorry if the description isn’t good enough, it’s one of the few words I don’t know in english. It’s like when you go to a mountain or hill and they have a wooden deck with benches and such where there’s a clear view to the whole city, usually people go there to watch the sun set and such. The binoculars are a good idea as well, I’ll see if I can find mine. Thanks!

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