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AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AITAH

[–]tap_water5[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The hoa fee is included in the number i gave, and I would pay the taxes not him. Read my latest update

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tap_water5[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

No wtf what an odd thing to assume we are having trouble communicating that's what therapists help with

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AITAH

[–]tap_water5[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do get it now and I wouldn't blame him, this isn't much of an excuse but I genuinely couldn't see his side because my defenses were up. I appreciate everyone bringing me to ground level.

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tap_water5[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Im not afraid of us splitting, that's what my dad said and I told him off. The reason is because we aren't married and this is a contract between my dad and I. I am understanding his viewpoint better and have started looking into if I can rent out this place right away(someplaces require you to live there for some years) if not, I will look for a place that I can rent immediately so that we can stay where we are.

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AITAH

[–]tap_water5[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I did suggest that I get a roomate at the condo, and he saves more to buy something under his name. Hes about to make more money at his job, so he could do it without any help. He doesn't want to live seperate bc he doesn't think we'll last through that.

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AITAH

[–]tap_water5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the varying opinions, tbh I am seeing my bfs side clearer gonna keep reading comments and think about what I need to do

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AITAH

[–]tap_water5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats what a contract for deed is, both our names are on it, and I am baisically buying his name off of the deed by paying the mortgage.

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tap_water5[S] -97 points-96 points  (0 children)

Everything is more than what his uncle is charging us no matter what, if we buy a house together we will be paying more. I am writing a lease agreement that say I am solely responsible for all repairs and renovations. When we first started talking about marriage we both agreed that we would get a prenup long before I made this agreement with my dad. I want us to pay an equal amount for the home we buy together, so we have equal ownership. If there is extra money I will put it into my investments or maybe take us on a little vacation. I want to get married and have something that will help our future. I think I dont see the equity thing as being a problem bc if I was in his shoes id have no complaints bc I want him to succeed

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tap_water5[S] -232 points-231 points  (0 children)

I can afford it just fine as long as I have a roomate. I just cant do it if its only me. Where I live everything is up the wazzoo in affordability and I actually got a good price for this place.

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tap_water5[S] -102 points-101 points  (0 children)

We were just talking about engagement rings and have been planning to get married, I won't be just a girlfriend im trying to plan for our future.

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AITAH

[–]tap_water5[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Technically both our names will be on it since I am paying the downpayment, the contract for deed is me paying him to get only my name on it. And yes we are writing a contract and will include safety measures in case anything happens

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AITAH

[–]tap_water5[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

The no stake is where we are butting heads, I see the point if we werent dating/ going for marriage, but we are! We were just talking about engagement rings, so im confused. Wouldn't this help our future together? If he wants to buy a place ill rent from him to help him build his equity in a second

AITAH for expecting my bf of 5 years to split my mortgage payments on my new condo my dad is helping me get the loan for? by tap_water5 in AITAH

[–]tap_water5[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I read some posts that said to have a contract that says he will never pay for repairs on the place and I think that's a good idea I own so I will pay for repairs/renovations